Leo girl broke up wih Cancer boy please help

Hi everyone. I hope you're having a good weekend.

I broke up with my Cancer bf on Wednesday and I'm so brokenhearted.

Why did I break up with him?

We have been seeing each other for 4 years. Earlier in the year he mentioned us maybe getting a place together when our leases were up in September.

July comes and I have to look for a place early and so he goes with me to look at some.

So the next week I get to his apartment early and let myself in. On the bed were print out of other 1 bedroom apartments. Apparently he has been looking a them for just himself!

I didn't say anything when he came in as we were going to the store.

While we were out I mentioned the house hunting and living together and he tells me he doesn't want to live with anyone. 😢 I was really upset but we were in public so I didn't say anything.

We get back and I say what is up with not getting a place together? He says he doesn't like living with people. I get kind mad and so I say I am just "people" now. I said what about marriage and he said he didn't know if he wanted to get married or not. I was even madder because before he would say he wasn't ready yet and I would just wait patiently year after year. I said well what am I supposed to do about that? He said you can do whatever you want.

I got mad and left.

So we made up and went on as usual but in my mind resentment was building and my mind was in turmoil over it all the time trying to decide what to do.

What was the final straw was this psychology love test we both took the last time he spent the night. I guess I was rather shocked at some of his answers that sort of implied I simply wasn't the one for him. There were plenty of positive answers towards me but the ones that were negative were just surprising to me.

So after work I decide I am going over to his house and break up with him.

yeah we both moved...to separate houses. 😢 down the road from each other.

I came in and told him I was just stopping by for a minute as I wanted to talk to him about something. He said oh oh.

We talked about our days and he was wanting to hold me.

So finally I said I bet you are wanting to know what I wanted to talk about.

He said, yeah.

I said I want to end our relationship.

He said, Why?

I told him the truth as kindly as possible.

I said, I just can't continue on in a relationship where there is no commitment or future.

I said I know I'm not your dream girl


He said, what makes

cont...

I said, I just know I'm not and you know I'm not.

So we sat there for a bit.

I said something about not wanting to come home to an empty house every night and something about what would we do in the future?

He said, what do you mean?

I said, Like 5 year from now, do you have any plans

He said, No

So we just sat there and held each other for a little while.

I said, you know I do love you.

He didn't say anything but looked kind of angry.

Before he looked quite hurt!

So I said I should go and he walked me to the door and we hugged and kissed and I said goodnight hun and I walked out to the car.

By the time I got there I was sobbing.

It was the hardest thing ever to do.

So now what?

It has been almost 3 days and I haven't tried to contact him and he hasn't contacted me either.

With Cancer men, do they try to win their girl back?

Sometimes I wonder if he was just not that into me? How can you tell a Cancer man isn't that into you?

I know this is something I had to do even though I love him so much. I couldn't imagine being 50 years old telling people yeah I have a bf and we've been together xx years but he won't live with me. Sheesh.

i dont kno thats kinda harsh for him to say those things but i can say leo's r known for bein dominated in relationships since ur dealin wit a male cancer he prob want u to submissive and take lead in the relationship but u need to sit down and talk to him he u prob did sumthing to him that he gotten a attitude over so i suggest talk to him face to face in person n prob he tell u how he really feels.