long term scorpio(f)/libra(m) relationship

Hmm where do I begin? First I am so new that I have not made a profile or anything yet. I've been on an intense web search for answers for the last few days. I've been with LibraM for 21 years and married for 16. Mostly it's fine but when it's bad it's awful! When it's fine it's even a bit lack luster. Our lovemaking is still awesome and we see to eye on political issues, religion for the most part, art and traveling. He's way more liberal than I am as far as what he considers good music, who he calls a friend, and a very casual(unconcerned dresser).

I knew years ago that he was quite a catch and I admit I was very interested even before I got to know him earlly on in college. By the time we were in a position to get to know each other I understood how to approach him without scaring him off. At the time I did not attribute this to his sign. I had my chart plotted a year or so earlier so I was becoming aware of my scorpionic tendencies. We to make a long story short, there are things I did, didn't do, said, didn't say, etc that are contrary to my nature that in retrospect made our strange union more palatable to him. Or at least that is what I'm becoming aware of. Now that I am in my early 40s I'm feeling like I've done myself and him a real diservice as I repressed some of who I am to begin and keep the relationship going.

Our disputes circle around misunderstanding, miscommunication, my negative feelings causing him grief, my issues, my apparent lack of support of him. He's all okay. Not a hardly a fault that anyone would ever know. His arguments are eloquent and leave me speechless. I still duck and hide and can't find the words to "defend" myself. Eventually he gets fed up and my rational mind kicks in and I'm making all sorts of sense out of the whole situation. Does he care?? No, he's to hurt to listen. My intention is so not to hurt. I am trying to sort out my feelings... yeah, I know he hates this. What am I to do? I want to be myself openly and happily and not worry about hurting him. I try to be considerate and kind and caring. I get pretty bad PMS sometimes. My theory is mind/body based, I get it bad because I"m repressed.

That's a lot of information. There's so much more but I don't know how to sort it all out.

PS I have scorpio in asscendant too. Does that make me more intense or even me out? I don't know what he has in his chart. I have Venus in Libra in the 11th house. I'm not sure exactly what tha

Dido, spoken from a Scorpio woman who is constantly attracting Libra men. I think emotionally,intellectually and even sexually we are a good fit. I am now going through a divorce with my Libran ex-husband. I have ran into another one and another since that I am trying to shy away from. Libra men and Scorpio women make good friends, as far as relationships are concerned the Libra man is unable to give us Scorp girls the support and dependability in knowing they are there whatever and whenever.

I love the carisma and style and sexual appeal of the Libra men and they seem to find me everywhere.

So kriz you can't hide from them they can spot us sexy scorps anywhere.

I am libra here and I really love metaphysics. Well as I see that this is a discussion board relating to scorpio and libra relationship, I want to know why scorpio guys are so shy sometimes just to be able to talk or laugh with somebody who may be a stranger for them. I met scorpio guys - talls, shorts, fat haha but what really made me feel uneasy is that they just want to communicate with gestures or a glance. I had a friend relationship with a scorpio guy, he was the only one that I could connect so well because I was the first one who talked at the first moment I met him(this is bizarre on me), instantly he gave me his phone number and we kept talking as friends. There were something that I felt, it was like he was so in me because when every time I closed my eyes he was there looking at me, haha sometimes I found it funny but then I wanted to know what was happening to me, maybe I was in love. After a month that we met for the first time, he told me that he was having strong feelings for me and I was in shock because he was scary for me, he was so sexual person and I am still pure, so in my mind I just assumed that he was going to take advantage of me if I agreed to be his girlfriend. When I rejected him, he just dissappeared and never came back to me after that. Aha but he didnt forget to pay back, after many months, I wanted to say to him that I want to keep talking to him but then he told me that he got married and he didnt want any distraction.

Anyways I always know how to recognize a scorpio man and woman so now i am good on that, I also learning about other signs and i can decipher their signs and everything so friends get surprised on me when i just say their zodiac signs.