@luckystar007
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*LOVE vs BE LOVED*
Be loved. It's less painful lol
Assuming it's only one or the other and not both, I'd pick to love somebody. I can keep my emotions/actions in check, but it'd be really troublesome and annoying dealing with someone who loved me without me loving them back.
-Pisces
Posted by everevolvingepithet
There's every chance that it goes both ways, to and fro, sometimes you're the lover other times you're the loved...with the same person, would you thunk it would be possible ? 🙂
I wish it is possible.......so everyone would be happy like living in Heaven 🙂
I thought it should be happier to be "being-loved"......but not really from my experience.
At the beginning, it was beautiful.....but with more and more pressure.....it turned to the opposite...very stressful 😢
I wish I can find someone I really love , so I can taste another part 😉
Be loved..it is less painful
Posted by ellessque
here is my answer
Glad to know I am not the only one who is thinking about this 🙂
Some people think it is less pain for "be-loved"...maybe...but it is not always good to be a "prey"...
So I would like to be the "hunter" to love someone with my power...but the problem is I can NOT find my "arrow-target"😉 who deserves my love.
Best to BE LOVED first then you can love someone (IMHO) Can love somebody if I never experienced it, So show love to someone and that someone will pass it along.
it sucks not being able to return someone's feelings. it means i'm causing that person pain and i would feel kinda guilty haha i'd rather hurt me than hurt you. i can take the pain. i dont really give a damn. its all good lol
Posted by luckystar007
Assume all adults have experienced some kind of feeling about loving someone(s) OR being loved by someone(s) OR both.It would be perfect for being loved by the one you really love...but may not happen so often...in the real world 😢
*LOVE vs BE LOVED*...which can make U feel happier if there is no chance to get both———?
Be loved, I guess. Until now I wanted so badly to know what that felt like in the positive way. But some things are only meant for some people and not others.
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Don't buy into that shit Decan. You're a good guy, you'll get yours.
Sounds like you might be in a rut, find someone else.
be loved. that way i feel good knowing that & i can still do my own thing
Posted by Jesse91
it sucks not being able to return someone's feelings. it means i'm causing that person pain and i would feel kinda guilty haha i'd rather hurt me than hurt you. i can take the pain. i dont really give a damn. its all good lol
Same here... feel guilty about rejecting those ones who love me... 😢
However, I would not like to take any pain, just want to find the right one who I really love...then my fire (my fire signs) would burn him down... 😉
Posted by luckystar007
Assume all adults have experienced some kind of feeling about loving someone(s) OR being loved by someone(s) OR both.It would be perfect for being loved by the one you really love...but may not happen so often...in the real world 😢
*LOVE vs BE LOVED*...which can make U feel happier if there is no chance to get both———?
Man this is a depressing thought. I didn't realise this happened to everyone else and not just me😢
Better to get a list of who loves you and work down until you find someone who you love.
No more wasting love on the unfuckingworthy.
Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Posted by luckystar007
Assume all adults have experienced some kind of feeling about loving someone(s) OR being loved by someone(s) OR both.It would be perfect for being loved by the one you really love...but may not happen so often...in the real world 😢
*LOVE vs BE LOVED*...which can make U feel happier if there is no chance to get both———?
Man this is a depressing thought. I didn't realise this happened to everyone else and not just me😢
Better to get a list of who loves you and work down until you find someone who you love.
No more wasting love on the unfuckingworthy.
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Sure, you are not the only one...just one of the most who can only get the "halfway" of the "love-process" 😢
Maybe there is less pain for the be-loved, but I think there would be more "power" to love rather than be-loved 🙂
To love for me definitely! I have been through my fair share of being loved but....nothing beats loving someone even not having the feelings returned.
Yeah, Id have a hard time if someone feels more about me then I do about them. I think I would constantly fight to try to get it on the same page, and if he was just head over heels in love I would probably get irritated then bored. Then if he ever left it would probably take me 20yrs to get over. I also kind of look at it as me being "prey" especially if it ends, so no. I would not want to get wrapped up in that.
Loving someone that doesnt love me is out of the question. No
I wanna love somebody lol But not like one of those tragic heroines in romance novels whose pain of unrequited love becomes so unbearable that she eventually winds up taking her own life in order to escape from it all. That would be over the top lol
Posted by spritescream
To love for me definitely! I have been through my fair share of being loved but....nothing beats loving someone even not having the feelings returned.
LOL.....like that "nothing beats loving someone even not having the feelings returned"...😄
Looking forward to trying such strong feeling someday...... 😉
I've been in both situations, and neither are pretty. I don't like to hurt anyone, and of course I don't like feeling the pain from the sting of rejection.
Does anyone ever look at couples in love, old couples, any couples at all and wonder how they ended up together? Where they met? How they both had the same requited feelings for one another?
It seems that if someone likes me, I have no feelings towards them and vice versa. It's a never-ending cycle.
I'm trying to hold out hope that I will find that special feeling for someone and it will be reciprocated. Maybe, maybe not.
Posted by SyntheticAnesthetic
I've been in both situations, and neither are pretty. I don't like to hurt anyone, and of course I don't like feeling the pain from the sting of rejection.Does anyone ever look at couples in love, old couples, any couples at all and wonder how they ended up together? Where they met? How they both had the same requited feelings for one another?
It seems that if someone likes me, I have no feelings towards them and vice versa. It's a never-ending cycle.
I'm trying to hold out hope that I will find that special feeling for someone and it will be reciprocated. Maybe, maybe not.
I think I should change my question to..."which situation will cause less pain?"
I believe you about "neither are pretty".😢
No matter what.....keep your hope & keep trying.....until you find the right ONE 🙂
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Assume all adults have experienced some kind of feeling about loving someone(s) OR being loved by someone(s) OR both.
It would be perfect for being loved by the one you really love...but may not happen so often...in the real world 😢
*LOVE vs BE LOVED*...which can make U feel happier if there is no chance to get both———?