Lust....—

His words and action ** I have never lusted anyone so much in my life ** now men. Elaborate.. How's that different from love.. and how much does that affect you.. Have you ever felt this way.. Are you afraid of the person you have crazy lust on? Well this one is so scared of me in a way lol.. It's driving me mental coz we have a baby together .. so he's almost scared to c me for that reason.. Coz after sex we become a roller coaster but I just want him to see his son !!!! how is this going to work .. ?!?! Open relationship? Friends with benefits?? I don't know man I'm lost..

I have been doing the friends only approach .. n it hasn't worked yet. He's afraid of me .. I mean to see me n his son.. Coz of the lust thing .. so he avoids me all together..

Yeah lust borderline obessession can happen. It's not healthy.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yeah lust borderline obessession can happen. It's not healthy.

We are screwed !! We cursed each other sexually.. He's afraid to c his son because of it... he said this * u r devil.. I wanna f u so hard that it's ruining my life * ... Arkkkkkkk

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yeah lust borderline obessession can happen. It's not healthy.

Wait is that a psychology term for it?

If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

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I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

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See you love and he's lust totally different..

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

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Sorry what do you mean by u wud actually be with him but falling for him ?

And yes we've been through this type of shit all the time. So there's just that tiny doubt he's not yours but should only be there for the kiddos and you do you so he can move on too.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

See you love and he's lust totally different..

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Lust shud have an expire date.. u shud be able to control urself n not jump on them every time ? I mean this is a little but extreme dun u think? I feel bad for my son ... arkkk

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And yes we've been through this type of shit all the time. So there's just that tiny doubt he's not yours but should only be there for the kiddos and you do you so he can move on too.

I have tried to make it clear it's about him n the son but I'm sure the main reasons he's not seeing his son much is because of me.. he's afraid of me

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

Sorry what do you mean by u wud actually be with him but falling for him ?

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Well its lust-when a woman is in a sexual relationship with a guy things go on inside to lock her down with him-biologically thats how it should work also. I was getting the whole lust associated negative feelings-possessive, over-excited, anxious etc. I didn't like him as a person though. It was just sex. So I knew I never would become serious with him-introduce him to family etc etc. This lasted years btw. It was pretty self destructive but a VERY good lesson for me.

There are men who want the woman to control the outcome no matter what. So lets say hes not available and gives you mixed feelings.

Like they have feelings but too detached or unemotional available because some men are weak and will play along and woman go along thinking he's going to change for them when it's not going to be ever that connection you wish you had.. I have heard the woman make the decisions. I heard that I am stronger than one. Which to me I will have to break it off. In to one's that are incompatible with me other wise the lust and obsession will establish you alive and you will miss out because you wish it will work.

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

Sorry what do you mean by u wud actually be with him but falling for him ?

Well its lust-when a woman is in a sexual relationship with a guy things go on inside to lock her down with him-biologically thats how it should work also. I was getting the whole lust associated negative feelings-possessive, over-excited, anxious etc. I didn't like him as a person though. It was just sex. So I knew I never would become serious with him-introduce him to family etc etc. This lasted years btw. It was pretty self destructive but a VERY good lesson for me.

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So u think lust can create all sorts of crazy emotion with it too like possessiveness , anxious etc — U just described how I feel about this mean at times... am I in list with him too then— Did I mistaken for being seriously in love this whole time?

This man **

Italian proverb-"lust is the oldest lion of them all"

It will eat you alive I mean if you don't take control of the emotions. Which we both have Aqua moon so we would obsess with the fact the there is physical attraction and that's it. But as an earth stability is huge for us.

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Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

Sorry what do you mean by u wud actually be with him but falling for him ?

Well its lust-when a woman is in a sexual relationship with a guy things go on inside to lock her down with him-biologically thats how it should work also. I was getting the whole lust associated negative feelings-possessive, over-excited, anxious etc. I didn't like him as a person though. It was just sex. So I knew I never would become serious with him-introduce him to family etc etc. This lasted years btw. It was pretty self destructive but a VERY good lesson for me.

So u think lust can create all sorts of crazy emotion with it too like possessiveness , anxious etc — U just described how I feel about this mean at times... am I in list with him too then— Did I mistaken for being seriously in love this whole time?

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You could be. But then again I maybe too logical thinking and not capable of love as others are. I make the right decisions for me. I know what/who is good for me. How old are you both?

Sorry I see now 1988. What do u you like about him besides the sex? Have you established any other sort of connection? Is he a good man? Do you really want/need someone like this man or is it just a challenge for you?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
It will eat you alive I mean if you don't take control of the emotions. Which we both have Aqua moon so we would obsess with the fact the there is physical attraction and that's it. But as an earth stability is huge for us.

Elaborate please?

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Sorry I see now 1988. What do u you like about him besides the sex? Have you established any other sort of connection? Is he a good man? Do you really want/need someone like this man or is it just a challenge for you?

I feel like we connect very nicely when it comes to friendship etc. sometimes he says the right words like .. He's proud of me and I'm the best mother etc.. I see his deepest potential .. He's a singer and I love it when I dance n he sings. Crazy but that's the kind of connection I'm talking about. We have this crazy chemistry.. But yes I must admit.. now I think I just wanna win... I keep asking myself this question, if he asks me to marry him would I say yes— I don't even know the answer and I never loved anyone like him.. but is it even love— Or pure lust too...? Am I the one that's afraid of the commitment?? And do I just wanna win... I'm lost

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Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
If you really think about it is obsession that's not healthy because there are memories in all of us the good, bad, and ugly. I think that pros and cons list help out when you have to. Why are you attracted and why do you like this person. It has to be some kind of connection or chemistry and it could only be one of those things where it's meant to be just friends and not lover.

Yeb we r insanely attracts to each other. I think I'm head over heal in love with him though after 3 years but he says for him it's just crazy lust he's ever felt for anyone.. But after 3 years u would think that would die down? The chemistry is there n strong.. and the connection but I think he's trying to deny all of it n say it's just sex.. but maybe he's right? But how can a man be that weak to a woman without any feelings for her? I just don't get it

I think some men go about love in a business-like logical manner. Something doesn't suit the bill for him maybe. I stayed in a similar situation like this for a very long time and I knew i'd ever want to actually be with the guy, even though I was kinda falling for him.

Sorry what do you mean by u wud actually be with him but falling for him ?

Well its lust-when a woman is in a sexual relationship with a guy things go on inside to lock her down with him-biologically thats how it should work also. I was getting the whole lust associated negative feelings-possessive, over-excited, anxious etc. I didn't like him as a person though. It was just sex. So I knew I never would become serious with him-introduce him to family etc etc. This lasted years btw. It was pretty self destructive but a VERY good lesson for me.

So u think lust can create all sorts of crazy emotion with it too like possessiveness , anxious etc — U just described how I feel about this mean at times... am I in list with him too then— Did I mistaken for being seriously in love this whole time?

You could be. But then again I maybe too logical thinking and not capable of love as others are. I make the right decisions for me. I know what/who is good for me. How old are you both?

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I'm happy for you that you make the right decisions !! I will get there one day... I am on my way though ..

Yeah good luck too.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Yeah good luck too.

Have you been in a similar situation? My Aqua moon is over working today arkkkkk

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by LibraLovesHim
Sorry I see now 1988. What do u you like about him besides the sex? Have you established any other sort of connection? Is he a good man? Do you really want/need someone like this man or is it just a challenge for you?

I feel like we connect very nicely when it comes to friendship etc. sometimes he says the right words like .. He's proud of me and I'm the best mother etc.. I see his deepest potential .. He's a singer and I love it when I dance n he sings. Crazy but that's the kind of connection I'm talking about. We have this crazy chemistry.. But yes I must admit.. now I think I just wanna win... I keep asking myself this question, if he asks me to marry him would I say yes— I don't even know the answer and I never loved anyone like him.. but is it even love— Or pure lust too...? Am I the one that's afraid of the commitment?? And do I just wanna win... I'm lost

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Exactly how I felt. But you know the answer deep inside you 😉

He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

saweetz, please read this post everyday. It's the truth.

Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Sorry but I just want to clarify as it pisses me off actually when someone goes off on a tangent and draws up their own conclusions and storyline. Had she said she "deliberately had his kid to make him step up" —

Love and lust are not comparable

....at all...

Cold hearted truth right there but just that alone would be like wtf smack in my own face. Pinch yourself from the madness it will drive you mad, insane and manic. We woman must put the foot down on these types they will walk all over you if they want to.

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Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Sorry but I just want to clarify as it pisses me off actually when someone goes off on a tangent and draws up their own conclusions and storyline. Had she said she "deliberately had his kid to make him step up" —

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What is it you wanted to clarify?

I trust you have actually read the back story?

No. I didn't think you would have bothered yourself to do so.

Posted by notsosure
Seems like he can´t love you (and maybe you can´t love him - you are wrong for each other), so you turn to lusting. Then throw in a little "hatred" and you got intensity for life. Not happiness, just misery with great sexual attraction.

Hatred .. Oh maybe after an argument there's a bit of that but we always come back being ok.. we don't fight physically or anything or swear or anything.. but I get happiness when we talk though. I feel like he's my best friend.. Man this whole thing is confusing lol.. I just think if its lust I shud b able to get over him already.. Find a new man and move on like I did in the past..?

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Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Sorry but I just want to clarify as it pisses me off actually when someone goes off on a tangent and draws up their own conclusions and storyline. Had she said she "deliberately had his kid to make him step up" —

What is it you wanted to clarify?

I trust you have actually read the back story?

No. I didn't think you would have bothered yourself to do so.

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Clarify that she had the child deliberately to make him step up. Sorry if that wasn't clear either...

Posted by MyStarsShine
Love and lust are not comparable

....at all...

Perhaps u r right.. but what's love without a sexual connection.. The intensify the passion? Those kind of love is pretty boring for me and I lose interest as soon as it's boring .. Arkkkk i think I am addicted to the drama... subconsciously I love the challenge.. So I'm lusting for this guy and not love at all? Why do I feel horrible and sad when he feels sad. Why do I want him to be happy .. Why do I miss him all the time? That's also a definition of love isn't it?

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Cold hearted truth right there but just that alone would be like wtf smack in my own face. Pinch yourself from the madness it will drive you mad, insane and manic. We woman must put the foot down on these types they will walk all over you if they want to.

I tried to put my foot down for the sake of my son.. But now he's afraid to c me n the son because of this whole lust thing.. I feel like maybe I shud just give in for a fwb situation and we both can freely see other people...plz don't judge .. Otherwise he may not have a relationship with his son because of me..I don't know how to deal with situation... I truly don't anymore. Kind of running out of hope here.. he was so sweet to his son when he was visiting now it's just too much wall on his part.. He's afraid and scared... arkkk

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Posted by AgentP911

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Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Sorry but I just want to clarify as it pisses me off actually when someone goes off on a tangent and draws up their own conclusions and storyline. Had she said she "deliberately had his kid to make him step up" —

What is it you wanted to clarify?

I trust you have actually read the back story?

No. I didn't think you would have bothered yourself to do so.

Clarify that she had the child deliberately to make him step up. Sorry if that wasn't clear either...

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Had you read the back story you wouldn't need clarification.

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Posted by AgentP911
He just wants to bang you.

He's been banging you for the last three years.

He doesn't want to step up to be with you and your son.

He hasn't wanted to step up to be with you for the last three years.

Deliberately having a child together hasn't made him step up.

You will not find the answers you are looking for here.

He just wants to fuck you.

He makes pathetic excuses about not seeing you and your son because he just wants to fuck you and have zero responsibility.

Haven't you figured that out yet?

It's been plastered all over him for the last three years but I guess you didn't want to notice that little inconvenient fact.

Sorry but I just want to clarify as it pisses me off actually when someone goes off on a tangent and draws up their own conclusions and storyline. Had she said she "deliberately had his kid to make him step up" —

What is it you wanted to clarify?

I trust you have actually read the back story?

No. I didn't think you would have bothered yourself to do so.

Clarify that she had the child deliberately to make him step up. Sorry if that wasn't clear either...

Had you read the back story you wouldn't need clarification.

Srsly, when someone posts a thread, first thing you should do is reading someone's previous threads. But some people have no time for that! I didn't think you would have bothered yourself to realize that. ?

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Ignorance is a much better choice.

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
OP, u and that sag are both mental.... I feel sorry for the baby. It will grow up in a dysfunctional household...

Lol u don't know us in real life. I am the best mother around . he's an easy baby coz I give him so much love and care. Everyone knows how good of a mother I am so don't judge my life based on the little drama I have going on. I know what I'm doing .

Wait so u think he's blackmailing me with sex so he won't c me and the kid unless I give him the sex with it ? Is this for real ? And I'm sorry but ur judgement about my baby is irrelevant . He's the happiest baby around . Stop judging things based on my dramatic love personal life .. We don't hit each other physically nor ever yelled at each other. I have seen many dysfunctional relationships and yes I was brought up in one.. Full on fighting and killing each other almost and I'm doing pretty good for my age.. The pregnant thing I had my reason and things are turning out great.. so unless u r going to say anything nice u r more than welcome to leave my thread

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Posted by JohnTheBaptist100
OP, u and that sag are both mental.... I feel sorry for the baby. It will grow up in a dysfunctional household...

Lol u don't know us in real life. I am the best mother around . he's an easy baby coz I give him so much love and care. Everyone knows how good of a mother I am so don't judge my life based on the little drama I have going on. I know what I'm doing .

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Then why are you on here creating threads every two seconds about this guy like a dumb arse? Oh right, you know what you're doing.

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Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by notsosure
Seems like he can´t love you (and maybe you can´t love him - you are wrong for each other), so you turn to lusting. Then throw in a little "hatred" and you got intensity for life. Not happiness, just misery with great sexual attraction.

Hatred .. Oh maybe after an argument there's a bit of that but we always come back being ok.. we don't fight physically or anything or swear or anything.. but I get happiness when we talk though. I feel like he's my best friend.. Man this whole thing is confusing lol.. I just think if its lust I shud b able to get over him already.. Find a new man and move on like I did in the past..?

Oh I thought you were asking, if he was feeling lust or love. And to that my answer is definitive 100 % lust. He does not have love for you in the way that he wants to be with you, which is obvious as he is not with you.

You on the other hand is dreaming yourself away, another form of lust, to a world where he loves you. And that´s understandably as the thought of love seems nice. But it is clear it is not love between the two of you. And when you let it go and realize, you will also realize how morfed your idea of love is at the moment. That this between you two now could have anything to do with love will seem like a joke to you.

When it is this form of love that you want it to be, you won´t have a need to ask these questions.

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Yeb I get it now. Thank you for being kind and understanding ! 🙂 your words are beautiful ..

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Cold hearted truth right there but just that alone would be like wtf smack in my own face. Pinch yourself from the madness it will drive you mad, insane and manic. We woman must put the foot down on these types they will walk all over you if they want to.

I tried to put my foot down for the sake of my son.. But now he's afraid to c me n the son because of this whole lust thing.. I feel like maybe I shud just give in for a fwb situation and we both can freely see other people...plz don't judge .. Otherwise he may not have a relationship with his son because of me..I don't know how to deal with situation... I truly don't anymore. Kind of running out of hope here.. he was so sweet to his son when he was visiting now it's just too much wall on his part.. He's afraid and scared... arkkk

Why do you need to have sex with him?

You don´t even have to be friends with him for him to see his son. You just have to b friend-ly.

I knew a guy once too who talked some of the same game. It is bullshit excuses. And if he really was so interested in seing his son and being a good father, he would just grow the f up and see his child without even thinking about having sex with you.

He is extremely immature. And sadly having lots of lusty sex with him is not gonna teach him anything. I am sorry, but I get very angry when reading such a bullshit excuse. That´s one of the weakest excuses I´ve heard so far to not take responsibility! I know I am not in your shoes, but when thinking about it from the outside, I am not even sure I would want a guy that lets his entire life being controlled bu his tiny dick to this extent be in my kids life. That´s just a bad influence...

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I get it. It's a lot easier to judge from the outside than from the inside. We were sexing the first 3-4 months of his life and things were good between them. He's very affection. Ofcoz I demanded exclusivity after that and he flings.. LoL.. Since then I been trying and encouraging.. but still nothing.. He's blaming other excuses like he's not ready bla bla bla bla. So I said when we were having sex how come u cud c ur son n he said it's not about sex.. ( yeah right )... anyway, I will keep trying n hopefully he grows the h up one day and visit his son without us getting physical.. let's hope he mans up soon.. otherwise my son is happy and well.. He cudnt possibly have more love than he has now honestly.. I just want him to grow up knowing he does has a father. But again, maybe he doesn't even care .

Posted by JohnTheBaptist100

Posted by saweetz1988
Wait so u think he's blackmailing me with sex so he won't c me and the kid unless I give him the sex with it ? Is this for real ? And I'm sorry but ur judgement about my baby is irrelevant . He's the happiest baby around . Stop judging things based on my dramatic love personal life .. We don't hit each other physically nor ever yelled at each other. I have seen many dysfunctional relationships and yes I was brought up in one.. Full on fighting and killing each other almost and I'm doing pretty good for my age.. The pregnant thing I had my reason and things are turning out great.. so unless u r going to say anything nice u r more than welcome to leave my thread

It's real indeed...

He's basically saying because he can't fuck you he won't see his own child.

Your "reality" isn't nice.. Get off your soap box and do what is right for your child. A good mother wouldn't be entertaining this kind of shit. The sag is nasty and you are worse than he is.... You are just another one of his concubines and your poor baby is in the middle of it...

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So u don't think I have said the real truth stuff to his face? His bs behaviour and all? Because of me he's slowly changing as a person. How am I nasty by the way?

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Posted by notsosure

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by notsosure
Seems like he can´t love you (and maybe you can´t love him - you are wrong for each other), so you turn to lusting. Then throw in a little "hatred" and you got intensity for life. Not happiness, just misery with great sexual attraction.

Hatred .. Oh maybe after an argument there's a bit of that but we always come back being ok.. we don't fight physically or anything or swear or anything.. but I get happiness when we talk though. I feel like he's my best friend.. Man this whole thing is confusing lol.. I just think if its lust I shud b able to get over him already.. Find a new man and move on like I did in the past..?

Oh I thought you were asking, if he was feeling lust or love. And to that my answer is definitive 100 % lust. He does not have love for you in the way that he wants to be with you, which is obvious as he is not with you.

You on the other hand is dreaming yourself away, another form of lust, to a world where he loves you. And that´s understandably as the thought of love seems nice. But it is clear it is not love between the two of you. And when you let it go and realize, you will also realize how morfed your idea of love is at the moment. That this between you two now could have anything to do with love will seem like a joke to you.

When it is this form of love that you want it to be, you won´t have a need to ask these questions.

Yeb I get it now. Thank you for being kind and understanding ! 🙂 your words are beautiful ..

U are pathetic. U have come here for validation...

Poor baby

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Lol nvm.. Again I am not even feeling hatred or anything towards you because I know how blessing my son is. Everyone around me say how good I am as a mother. The evidence of his calmness proof it all. I don't need a stranger to tell me I'm a shit mother dah Dee dah Dee .. plz leave my thread I am done with you lol

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Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by notsosure

Posted by saweetz1988

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Cold hearted truth right there but just that alone would be like wtf smack in my own face. Pinch yourself from the madness it will drive you mad, insane and manic. We woman must put the foot down on these types they will walk all over you if they want to.

I tried to put my foot down for the sake of my son.. But now he's afraid to c me n the son because of this whole lust thing.. I feel like maybe I shud just give in for a fwb situation and we both can freely see other people...plz don't judge .. Otherwise he may not have a relationship with his son because of me..I don't know how to deal with situation... I truly don't anymore. Kind of running out of hope here.. he was so sweet to his son when he was visiting now it's just too much wall on his part.. He's afraid and scared... arkkk

Why do you need to have sex with him?

You don´t even have to be friends with him for him to see his son. You just have to b friend-ly.

I knew a guy once too who talked some of the same game. It is bullshit excuses. And if he really was so interested in seing his son and being a good father, he would just grow the f up and see his child without even thinking about having sex with you.

He is extremely immature. And sadly having lots of lusty sex with him is not gonna teach him anything. I am sorry, but I get very angry when reading such a bullshit excuse. That´s one of the weakest excuses I´ve heard so far to not take responsibility! I know I am not in your shoes, but when thinking about it from the outside, I am not even sure I would want a guy that lets his entire life being controlled bu his tiny dick to this extent be in my kids life. That´s just a bad influence...

I get it. It's a lot easier to judge from the outside than from the inside. We were sexing the first 3-4 months of his life and things were good between them. He's very affection. Ofcoz I demanded exclusivity after that and he flings.. LoL.. Since then I been trying and encouraging.. but still nothing.. He's blaming other excuses like he's not ready bla bla bla bla. So I said when we were having sex how come u cud c ur son n he said it's not about sex.. ( yeah right )... anyway, I will keep trying n hopefully he grows the h up one day and visit his son without us getting physical.. let's hope he mans up soon.. otherwise my son is happy and well.. He cudnt possibly have more love than he has now honestly.. I just want him to grow up knowing he does has a father. But again, maybe he doesn't even care .

That dumb sag is no "father figure" and you are just as dumb.

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You must have a pretty sad life though. I do feel sorry for you. Pray pray pray .. 🙂

Yeh I get you.. I have tried to cut the sex and I think I will continue to do it... And you are right I enjoy it . It means me feel wanted and know that I have a power over him sexually n sometimes think it is a chance of love.. I just have to keep reminding myself of the true reality.. Thank u again.... U r very good at this stuff ! 🙂

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Posted by saweetz1988
Yeh I get you.. I have tried to cut the sex and I think I will continue to do it... And you are right I enjoy it . It means me feel wanted and know that I have a power over him sexually n sometimes think it is a chance of love.. I just have to keep reminding myself of the true reality.. Thank u again.... U r very good at this stuff ! 🙂

Ha ha.

Well sadly so I have gone through something that seems similar. Without the baby, which I am very greatful for.

I think you seriously need to reevaluate what good he does for your son, instead of what good he does you. Because 1: it is not about you or the father. It is about the boy. And 2: this is not love and won´t ever be love. It´s just sex and a lot of excuses for not being responsible for everything that usually comes with having sex on a regular basis. Both a relationship and the kid.

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You are great !! we all have challenges and the problems here with DXPNET is that.. people judge way too soon.. just because i spend a lot of time writing dramatic threads doesn't mean i'm having a life and independent and happy and is being the best mother i could ever be.. but it doesn't affect me anymore actually ..having a baby truly change your life and your perspective..he's my blessing and i will never regret ever giving birth to this prince...

you know it finally hit me in the head today after so much drama and everything. i swear i was wholeheartedly in love with this guy. where i think i did at one stage and it turned into challenges and obsession , addiction, craving, and competition. I think i truly just want to win !!!..

a taurus ( she always get what she wants )

i always said i never loved anyone as much as i did he.. but now that i am having a HARD think of it today.. because of his help.. LUST.. i think i was in lust with him this whole time !! its pretty insane actually.. now that i have that closure..i feel different and indefference. i don't have the need to message him today !! and yes you are right !! its about whats good he will bring to my son...which at the moment are two things..teach him how to sing and teach him how to speak spanish.. LOL..thats it..i honestly don't really want him around anymore.. unless he's consistent and committed.. and i'm doubting the last two.. anyhow, you would make a great mother 😄

Dumb arse might have finally let the penny drop in its thick head.

Tune in next week where she will be spouting more bullshit about the Scorp Sun/Sag Venus.