Pisces Woman - Capricorn Man

We have been together a year and he is 58 and I am 59. We are both typical of our signs and truly have a great, fun time together. He said I love you first, sex did not happen right away, his family loves me. He has talked about retiring together in a few years. Yesterday he had a melt down and I am not sure what to do. We spend weekends together but I guess not this one. Friends and family say don't answer calls or texts and let his insecurities take over. I know there is no cheating as it was done to him by his ex and abhors it. He texted this morning from his overnight job that it wasn't me, he is burned out, he can't think straight and he has nothing to give anyone. And All because yesterday he forgot his phone at my house and had to come back and get it.
So the question is do I ignore him and wait for him to come around? I feel like I am not being supportive.
Thanks

Why was he so upset about forgetting his phone at your place? Was he worried you would see something you shouldn't?

No. He lives 45 minutes from me and had to start his part time job at midnight. We were on our way to the gym and on a very crowded I95 when he realized it. He feels like he is stressed, making stupid mistakes and wanted some space. He texted me a couple of times today and I basically told him I would support him as I always have.normally I am there tonight and we spend Sunday together. Not this weekend I guess! I guess the question now is how will I know when the coast is clear?

Weren't the answers we gave you at the Cap forum good enough?

For someone to be that upset over having forgotten a phone....it just smells weird to me but HEY, perhaps he was expecting a very important call, missed it and now his life is ruined?

Hi WolfMoon,
I did read your reply. He lives 45 minutes from me and is a therapist. Patients contact him and he was working an overnight double soft and yes, needed his phone. Did he need to freak? No, but he says he is stressed so it makes sense. He texted once yesterday, reiterated he was stressed and needed a little alone time. He now has it.

Posted by Steph314
Hi WolfMoon,
I did read your reply. He lives 45 minutes from me and is a therapist. Patients contact him and he was working an overnight double soft and yes, needed his phone. Did he need to freak? No, but he says he is stressed so it makes sense. He texted once yesterday, reiterated he was stressed and needed a little alone time. He now has it.

Capricorns can be very tricky with these things as they take it upon themselves to carry their burden, and all other burdens, alone. I doubt you can coax it out of him. In fact, if you try he will only close himself off even more and probably get really irritated! Just don't contact him. That's what I would do and that's what people do to me, when I am being a bitch. I come back/open up when I am good and ready and if I don't, you have your answer right there.

Posted by Steph314
We have been together a year and he is 58 and I am 59. We are both typical of our signs and truly have a great, fun time together. He said I love you first, sex did not happen right away, his family loves me. He has talked about retiring together in a few years. Yesterday he had a melt down and I am not sure what to do. We spend weekends together but I guess not this one. Friends and family say don't answer calls or texts and let his insecurities take over. I know there is no cheating as it was done to him by his ex and abhors it. He texted this morning from his overnight job that it wasn't me, he is burned out, he can't think straight and he has nothing to give anyone. And All because yesterday he forgot his phone at my house and had to come back and get it.
So the question is do I ignore him and wait for him to come around? I feel like I am not being supportive.
Thanks

You may not like my response because it may be too close to reality.
You've been together a year, weekends only which amounts to 104 days which is equivalent to 3 months and two weeks, not a full year. It is typical when you are in a relationship to start seeing the TRUE COLORS of a person you are with from 3 months forward (usually). He's not only had a meltdown already, but the true RED FLAG is both his friends & family TELL YOU FLAT OUT..to stay away from him in order to allow his insecurities take over and subside. OVER A STUPID CELL PHONE. You feel like you are not being supportive? Over a CELL PHONE? lol...c'mon lady, your 59 years old. Do NOT marry this guy, and MOST IMPORTANT do NOT share your retirement with someone you are CLUELESS about. I'm not saying run, I'm saying get those sneakers on and tied up in case you have to and OPEN YOUR EYES, watch for more signs that this guy may not be what your weekend visits has made him out to be. You don't support erratic behavior like this, you observe it and the frequency of it and if it continues then you RUN. Good luck!

Posted by Steph314
No. He lives 45 minutes from me and had to start his part time job at midnight. We were on our way to the gym and on a very crowded I95 when he realized it. He feels like he is stressed, making stupid mistakes and wanted some space. He texted me a couple of times today and I basically told him I would support him as I always have.normally I am there tonight and we spend Sunday together. Not this weekend I guess! I guess the question now is how will I know when the coast is clear?

He sounds like a control freak and what LIB said makes sense.

So he's staying in touch with her while he's on hiatus. Caps usually disappear without a word. The fact that he hasn't makes me think there some pieces are missing in this story. She's too freaked out