Playing me OR just my lack of trust??

This is my first message, I’m a little excited. I read this stuff all the time but never asked for advice. It’ll be nice to have a lot of outsiders perspective. Sooo, I’ve (me being 26 cancer) been seeing a 35 Virgo male for 2 months now. Our first date was seriously the best I’ve been on, we seen each other four times that week then after that we only see each other once a week. We talk everyday, kinda take turns initiating the conversation. He’s charming, gentlemen, and sweet. Since the first week we met, we don’t really do anything, he just comes over and watches football and spends most the day there. Which is cool, I enjoy being with him and I’m go with the flow type, and plus I think it’s bc it’s football season and he loves football. Although it bothers me he doesn’t wanna see me more. I may be a bit insecure with a few trust issues, maybe from past relationships. But I asked him about a month in, not to lead me on, if he lost interest to just tell me, or even met someone else. I mean to me, I’d rather someone be straight up, my feelings will be hurt but I’d rather know. And he was like blah blah blah I will, promise.

I know y’all probably like, well butter what’s the problem. I’m getting to it though!

So couple nights ago, I tried to make plans and he said he was gonna be at work to late to be able to. So I was bummed but I was cool and made other plans and went to a concert. So that night afterwards I’m looking on Facebook and he’s tagged in a group picture with another female. 😫😱 also in the picture is his bf and his bfs gf and then the gfs bf is the other female. So I, without hesitation screenshot and send to him and say double date tonight? He didn’t respond until the next morning and was kinda snappy and said it was his normal group of great friends then seemed pissy at me for asking. Me being me hates for anyone to be upset at me so I apologize. Now he’s been kinda distant. I even told him I’d leave him alone if that’s what he wanted and he said no. By distant I mean, when I’m on night shift, he always text that morning and says good morning hope work was great and let him know I made it home safely blah blah which I love and think is sweet! And he hasn’t the past two! 😢😢 then with that same group of “friends” they all went to a wedding but they didn’t tag him in the photos this time (found from fb stalking) so kinda can’t address that but idk what to think. I wanna trust him but at the same time I don’t wanna be the gullible and naive female I normally am..

Well, from my own experience with my virgo bf, he's really the type "I mean what I say" Iiterally, so you better listen closely to what he's pointed out from the very beginning moment. (Ex : he told me he prefered his own quality time by being alone and quiet, he needs to catch up with his group of friends now and then etc ...). So instead of stalking his personal site too much, you might wanna spend your own time with your friends and other hobbies, or read articles about crafty stuffs (heard that many virgo man like to be fixers or handy men, mine isn't an exception at all). It can be a very interesting conversation if you guys share your own point of views to each other (also heard that virgo man like witty and insightful mind). WelI never made any dramatic quarrells with him (maybe it lasts like ... 2 hours and he often comes to me for an appology first). Finally, I only pay my attention to someone worth my time, so he'd better work his ass off to get him some spare time before asking my time and affection. Good luck with your Virgo man. 🙂

This guys is bad news. Please hold your head up and go forward without him.

You are not the bad guy here, what he's done is shitty, immature and dodgy.

Are you in an exclusive/committed relationship? If no, he probably is dating around. Can’t really be mad at that. It’s the way the dating world is now.

Are the two of you exclusive?

Some Virgo's are really simple they don't care to do much, they like a set routine and they will stick to it forever. Just pay attention to what they say because they mean it and they truly know how to live a double life which is why they like to have a routine. Make you use to one thing while somebody else is use to the opposite.

I’m gonna vote “both”