Please Help ME!!!!

I posted this on the virgo board, but I was wondering what everyone else thought?

i've been lurking around trying to understand virgo men ever since i met this virgo guy.

we met early of last year and we had a good time throughout and he finally kissed me on the fourth date which I totally had to stop him from going all the way. i thought things were well until one night i texted him and said i was coming over to wake him up jokingly and he called me 20 minutes later and said he had a girlfriend and told me not to bother him anymore. i believe he got caught and had to tell me. i was extremely hurt, but i really wanted to understand how he could be such a cruel person because i thought he was decent and wonderful person.

well after awhile, i wanted details and he never answered me if he had a girlfriend and he said it's because i was way too attracted to him and all he wanted was "friends with benefits" kind of relationship. i told him "no" and he said he loved me and missed me through text, but i stood firm. he wanted to go watch a movie and play pool like old times, but when we scheduled he never showed up. i finally found through acquaintances that he does have a gf which i ratted him out. he said he couldn't help it because i was such a awesome girl who he was totally attracted to and still wanted to talk to, but he was weak and couldn't help himself. he kept on saying he wanted to still be friends because he has never met many girls like me that is so down to earth, but he will leave it to me.

we are so alike, we have so much chemistry, he takes words out of my mouth and vice versa that it is hard for me not to say no to not being friends with him. my mind says no, but my heart wants to be friends with him because we click so well. why the heck is he still with his gf if he's fooling at times sexually whether on text, email, or one time in person. his relationship is not strong and obviously there is something missing that he's looking to me. Someone help explain this to me. Please help me understand. I'm an Aries.

i just had dinner with him today and it was a bit torturous since i do have feelings for him.

It sounds to me like, you are right, his current relationship is missing something, however there are 1 of 2 reasons he is doing this:

1. He is unhappy in his relationship, but is not "man" enough to end it before moving on to someone else.

2. He is just a "DOG".

You have to decide what is acceptable behaviour for you to deal with and how long you are willing to enable him to continue with this behaviour.