Saturn relationships (hard aspects)

anyone have experience being the Saturn person (hard aspects specifically) in a relationship? what were the placements and your experience?

and also vice versa...what was it like being the planet person when in relationship with a Saturn person? (also hard aspects)

i attract third decan Aquarians like flies...all whose Suns are conjunct my Saturn. thank god for my Libra ascendant...i never restrict people...so i'd never had that issue specifically with all of my Aqua relationships, but it has always been an instant attraction. it's almost like a magnet.

i just recently got involved with a Leo...his sun opposite my Saturn (sigh). with this aspect i can feel myself WANTING to be more of a Saturn person toward him...restrictive, restructuring, etc. BUT my Libra ascendant really takes charge here, & instead of being restrictive, i am learning to adapt and adjust to his natural presence and behavior. but i can definitely feel myself being more of the saturn person here for sure. i keep it under wraps...mainly because i think everyone should be accepted for who they are, & i HATE being critiqued (unless it's like a class or management), so i never do it to others.

i've been Mercury in a Saturn square relationship. it felt like he always spoke down to me or had something to say about either my point of view, thought process...anything. everything i said was "but" this or "well...not really" etc etc. very annoying.

I naturally have hard & positive saturn aspects in my chart and plenty of them. maybe that's why it's easy for me to not restrict the Sun signs that my Saturn is in hard aspect to (esp. since i have Sun sq Saturn anyways). plus with some possible assistance from my harmony-seeking ascendant. other than that i have no clue.

it just mystifies me that i can be such a magnet for Aqua suns conjunct my Saturn...but this Leo has taken the icing on the cake. an almost exact opposition. makes me wonder what the heck is up with me being attracted to these men specifically (and them to me).

for reference, my Aqua Saturn (4th house) aspects are:

Sun sq. Saturn

Mars sq. Saturn

Pluto sq. Saturn

Ascendant trine Saturn

Venus trine Saturn

Jupiter trine Saturn

Pallas conjunct Saturn

i'd like to hear other Sun/Saturn conjunction/opposition stories, but i'd like to hear about other planets as well. i know my Mercury story was definitely noticeable when i had a guy w his Saturn sq. my Merc.