Scorpio man problems (a bit long sorry)

I've somehow found myself unexpectedly in a pseudo relationship with a scorpio man (I'm a pisces on the cusp of aquarius but still VERY much a pisces in all the ways that matter). All the astrological info I've read says we are very compatable being that scorpios like to be in control, mysterious, etc and we pisces...well we are okay with being bossed around most of the time. It's taken me alot of years to admit that but it's true. I, and I think most pisces, provided we trust our partner to make strong, reasonable decisions are okay with being led around...if something we feel is important enough to be worth fighting about comes up believe me we'll make a stand, but all in all we'd rather just spend our time in a happy dreamy haze with someone we trust making sure we don't fall on our face lol.

This said, let me get to why I say pseudo relationship. This scorpio guy is a high school friend of one of my friends who has been out of the picture for about 8 years when we ran into each other online one day, so he's not a complete stranger just not someone I know well. Our mutual friend (also my roommate) invited him to come by and visit and after a couple of glasses of wine and hours of good conversation sparks started to fly and we ended up doing some heavy petting. The funny thing is that it was not the drink, we were both sober by this time, but the things he said were just the right things to get my pisces motor purring and I definately felt an attraction to this guy, intellectually and physically.

This went on for a few days. He would get off work and come by and we'd 'make out' (to use the middle school term for it). It got as intimate as it could get without ending up being consummated. Finally we were almost walked in on by my roommate on evening in a rather conpromising position and I guess it just drove home a few things we had already both been complaining about halfheartedly and we decided that things had just been moving too quickly and that we needed to lay off the physical stuff for a bit and get to know each other first. Now I'm not sure who brought it up initially but it was him who called me and give me a rundown on his thoughts on this and the reasons why we should take the time to get to know each other. I've noticed already that it seems to be really important to him that things are always his idea...not that it bothers me very much. I don't need to take the credit ^_~ So I agreed and we decided to talk, go out when we could, ...

...and get to know each other.

The thing is that although we've talked a good bit via IM and text messaging most of the time, he's been giving me very mixed signals. On one hand he's made a point to answer my texts most of the time and if I don't get in touch with him he will usually send me a message or something. Also there have been alot of little things that he's done that make me think he's interested, like when I had posted my mood as "melancholy" on myspace one night and he called me immediately to see what was wrong. Also he offered to pick me up one day when I needed a ride (my car is having technical difficulties). However, although his actions kind of say he is interested his 'words' don't. He seems aggrivated with me sometimes when I'm making an effort to get to know him (nothing prying mind you just general conversation...I know better than to do that), or if I flirt a bit he either ignors it completely or gives me realy cold responces like "that's flattering". I say that to people I want to leave me alone usually. :/ I feel like I was talking this nice hot shower and someone flushed a toilet and it's suddenly ice cold.

I don't know what to think of this. He says that I should pay more attention to his actions and appreciate the fact that he's talking to me most days because (and he made this sound like a really big deal) he doesn't even talk to his best friend but once a week. However I am having difficulty determining his true level of interest. We went from beaucoup intimacy to not so much as holding hands when we are together (which isn't often unfortunately because of conflicting work/school schedules). I guess part of it to me is, although I don't want a sex based relationship, I'm having difficulty just turning things off. I can't understand how he can still be interested in me and suddenly be able to pretend that nothing happened. For him this is very black and white and for me there are so many shades of grey.

Any insight here? Should I just chaulk this up to a history, and just be this guys friend? Or do you think this is his evasive scorpio way of letting me know he does care? My friend who used to hang out with him all the time says he used to fall head long into these passionate relationships all the time and this new, older him is alot more reserved that she remembers.

I'm just not wanting to get attached to this guy and get my heart stomped on again and this is my frist experience with a scorpio guy. I tend to date o

I tend to date other pisces (I'm a glutton for punishment I know) who don't hesitate to let you know how they feel and there is no guesswork involved...just fireworks then a slow painful burnout and heartache (bitter? who me? lol).

Thanks so much for taking the time to read this long post. Any insight or advice on how to proceed would be really great. I really do like this guy.

~Ahiru

P.S.-- I apologize for the spelling and grammer. I'm an English major and I should have proofread this lol.

This may be a good test to see if you can become friends. From my experience, it is what most men look for in a girl for a serious relationship. Try to connect with him through conversation. Can you speak easily with one another? Can you hang out and just enjoy eachother's company? Do you have some similar interests? 2 out of 3 might get you to a good friendship.

Yes, yes, and yes. That's part of the reason sparkes flew initially I think. I find that I am simply not attracted to guys who I can't talk to easily...no matter how good looking they might be. It's almost scary how much we have in common too. With the exception of his love of sports...but you have to have some things that are just you're own. It would get boring otherwise. 🙂