shellshocker
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Signs That can FWB
Virgo: yes. #1. Sex is logical
Libra: no. #2. A think a Libra is too romantic to see sex on a purely physical level.
Scorpio: no. #2. If they don't care for you, you??re a means to an end. There is a reason why a Scorpio is having sex with you in a fwb but you may never, ever know that reason. Again, no emotion can be involved and Scorpios are great at controlling their emotions. BUT... if they start having feelings (real or imagined) it becomes a power struggle that will not end well.
Sagittarius: yes. #1 Sex is fun and Saggs like to have fun. A Venus in Scorpio could change this completely
Capricorn: yes. #1 The Capricorn women I have known were very capable of this, especially if the guy was more into them. They really liked to be the boss in the fwb.
Aquarius: yes. #1 Maybe it has something to do with the last 3 signs of the Zodiac having more of a global/collective/humanitarian reach to them but these guys can separate the two. An Aquarian in love is very different from an Aquarian having sex with you.
Pisces: yes. #1 Same. I know more Pisces choose category #2 but they do it with the ability to be the complete opposite. Must be the two fish thing.
Libra: no. #2. A think a Libra is too romantic to see sex on a purely physical level.
Scorpio: no. #2. If they don't care for you, you??re a means to an end. There is a reason why a Scorpio is having sex with you in a fwb but you may never, ever know that reason. Again, no emotion can be involved and Scorpios are great at controlling their emotions. BUT... if they start having feelings (real or imagined) it becomes a power struggle that will not end well.
Sagittarius: yes. #1 Sex is fun and Saggs like to have fun. A Venus in Scorpio could change this completely
Capricorn: yes. #1 The Capricorn women I have known were very capable of this, especially if the guy was more into them. They really liked to be the boss in the fwb.
Aquarius: yes. #1 Maybe it has something to do with the last 3 signs of the Zodiac having more of a global/collective/humanitarian reach to them but these guys can separate the two. An Aquarian in love is very different from an Aquarian having sex with you.
Pisces: yes. #1 Same. I know more Pisces choose category #2 but they do it with the ability to be the complete opposite. Must be the two fish thing.
i have NEVER done fwb ever. And i've been reading dxp for awhile and got shocked so many sun signs/moons/risings venus etcetera ectera have been doing this and then making threads how they catch feelings and then cry to wish to have that man (mostly women on here saying that)
maybe it is upbringing, because we were raised to respect our bodies and be very respectable in our family. Even in my husband's family, they're similar, although much "freer" than mine, but they always choose respectability.
maybe it is upbringing, because we were raised to respect our bodies and be very respectable in our family. Even in my husband's family, they're similar, although much "freer" than mine, but they always choose respectability.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by lisabethur8
i have NEVER done fwb ever. And i've been reading dxp for awhile and got shocked so many sun signs/moons/risings venus etcetera ectera have been doing this and then making threads how they catch feelings and then cry to wish to have that man (mostly women on here saying that)
maybe it is upbringing, because we were raised to respect our bodies and be very respectable in our family. Even in my husband's family, they're similar, although much "freer" than mine, but they always choose respectability.
Hmm so its disrespectful to yourself if you choose to have sex while outside of a relationship? Kinda means you have no home training? Wasnt raised right?
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what do you mean?
if you're questioning it......why? have you been in one?
No judgement if you were in one or two. I've been reading around here and there's PLENTY of fwb topics in the past. They've stopped and simmered down though. I guess cause the Ironmaidens are gonna come out and whip the fwb women in shape.
No judgement if you were in one or two. I've been reading around here and there's PLENTY of fwb topics in the past. They've stopped and simmered down though. I guess cause the Ironmaidens are gonna come out and whip the fwb women in shape.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by lisabethur8Posted by May31BabyPosted by lisabethur8
i have NEVER done fwb ever. And i've been reading dxp for awhile and got shocked so many sun signs/moons/risings venus etcetera ectera have been doing this and then making threads how they catch feelings and then cry to wish to have that man (mostly women on here saying that)
maybe it is upbringing, because we were raised to respect our bodies and be very respectable in our family. Even in my husband's family, they're similar, although much "freer" than mine, but they always choose respectability.
Hmm so its disrespectful to yourself if you choose to have sex while outside of a relationship? Kinda means you have no home training? Wasnt raised right?
what do you mean?
I was just wondering if thats how you feel. Thats how i read your post.
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oh ok. well....
i dont know about that. but for me, it might have that strength in there. I dont know why people do what they do.
the last post was half joking around, with the ironmaiden and stuff. But half, because it's kind of true.
FWB is fine if you can handle it. Many people think they can but can't or go into it with unrealistic expectations... and then try to flip it up. I think that's dishonest
FWB is just a marketed buzz word tho, really. It used to be called, "college years, or divorced housewife or freak down the street" haha
FWB is just a marketed buzz word tho, really. It used to be called, "college years, or divorced housewife or freak down the street" haha
Posted by shellshocker
FWB is fine if you can handle it. Many people think they can but can't or go into it with unrealistic expectations... and then try to flip it up. I think that's dishonest
FWB is just a marketed buzz word tho, really. It used to be called, "college years, or divorced housewife or freak down the street" haha
the vibrator is not enough. there's NO feelings with it. You can't talk to the vibrator.
Vibrator: buzzzzzzz
Woman: Ohhhh yessssss, hellloooooo mr. big.
Posted by May31BabyPosted by lisabethur8
if you're questioning it......why? have you been in one?No judgement if you were in one or two. I've been reading around here and there's PLENTY of fwb topics in the past. They've stopped and simmered down though. I guess cause the Ironmaidens are gonna come out and whip the fwb women in shape.
Yes ive had a couple. One turned into a relationship that im still in. In the past when i was younger, it was only about sex. To me, its not disrespectful if you do it a certain way. One guy, that you know, obviously attracted to him but just dont want commitment. Relationships are headaches sometimes. Sometimes its about just getting satisfied and going home, no answering to anyone. No picking up someones dirty clothes or doing extra dishes. Ill admit though, its not my preference. Sex is definitely better inside of a committed relationship, for me. But it doesnt mean sex cant just be sex, for me. I dont need to be in love.
I do usually end up wanting more. Thats what happened this time.
There is a clear difference to me from
Fwb to just fucking around with randoms or multiples. The point of a fwb is to have the safest sex you can while not being in a relationship. Thats my opinion though, maybe others have different reasons for fwbclick to expand
well i married my first, so i wanted marriage, big wedding and the whole sha-bang. It felt so wonderful to be married. You put on that ring and your heart swells....HE'S MINE!!!
Posted by RainDancer88Posted by lisabethur8Posted by shellshocker
FWB is fine if you can handle it. Many people think they can but can't or go into it with unrealistic expectations... and then try to flip it up. I think that's dishonest
FWB is just a marketed buzz word tho, really. It used to be called, "college years, or divorced housewife or freak down the street" haha
the vibrator is not enough. there's NO feelings with it. You can't talk to the vibrator.
Vibrator: buzzzzzzz
Woman: Ohhhh yessssss, hellloooooo mr. big.
>>>Hahaha!click to expand
i have this image in my head of a woman crying over her vibrator as a joke. *shakeshead* Because her vibrator broke one day and she weeps so deeply. her finger just won't do. She even named him....BOB.
ok i better stop.
Ooooh I don't know if it's my Venus in Libra but I cannot do a fwb because to me a fwb is defined as a friend you're fucking and if I'm doing the things I usually do with my guy friends and also sleep with them then we may as well be dating. So nope. My friends are friends that's it!
Sun: Virgo
Sun: Virgo
I've had no strings attached "vacation" sex were there's obviously no future.
I tried a fwb once but he caught feelings after the first time and professed love. I had to distance myself and actually never saw him again, a total mess. I told him before/during/after that there were no emotions on my part so it wouldn't have been fair for me to continue or pretend to be his friend.
I must admit, I entered all of my relationships with sex before commitment but it was clear I wanted a relationship, eventually. The deal was if that's not something you're interested in or you want to sleep with other people then we will no longer be having sex.
I tried a fwb once but he caught feelings after the first time and professed love. I had to distance myself and actually never saw him again, a total mess. I told him before/during/after that there were no emotions on my part so it wouldn't have been fair for me to continue or pretend to be his friend.
I must admit, I entered all of my relationships with sex before commitment but it was clear I wanted a relationship, eventually. The deal was if that's not something you're interested in or you want to sleep with other people then we will no longer be having sex.
What sign are you Nell55?
I wonder about Leos. Lions where are you?
I wonder about Leos. Lions where are you?
well... that was weird, lol
there are certain people you can have fwb with and others that arent in that way
same with one night stands monthly yearly night stands
I cant understand how people would do this then not even wantto know the person after is beyond me that is not friends that is just using the other and that is not on
why put yourself out there when that is your intention to use the other person first then get shitty coz its been been to you
why do people play these games with each other and hurt themselves over such crap is weird
also I dont see what is wrong with fwb if you can do that and you arent hurting the other or using them or anything like that, also I dont see what is wrong with having more than one fwb's at the same time as long as everything is out in the open and everyone is happy with things i dont see what is wrong with that
some maybe call it disrespectful but i call it being emotionally mature first and foremost with yourself and the other/s that may or may not be involved
same with one night stands monthly yearly night stands
I cant understand how people would do this then not even wantto know the person after is beyond me that is not friends that is just using the other and that is not on
why put yourself out there when that is your intention to use the other person first then get shitty coz its been been to you
why do people play these games with each other and hurt themselves over such crap is weird
also I dont see what is wrong with fwb if you can do that and you arent hurting the other or using them or anything like that, also I dont see what is wrong with having more than one fwb's at the same time as long as everything is out in the open and everyone is happy with things i dont see what is wrong with that
some maybe call it disrespectful but i call it being emotionally mature first and foremost with yourself and the other/s that may or may not be involved
and how limited areyou in that you see a fwb as a fuck buddy and not as a person you fuck, there are many levels in that fwb's that are yet to be discovered if not already discovered
Never really tried FWB, not because I fear the attachment but getting pregnant and being stuck with that asshole for life!
I had a FWB arrangement twice before:
1) The first guy fell for me so it ended.
2) The second met someone so we stopped. He's happily married now 🙂
I think if you're going to do it and you can handle it, try to go for someone for whom you have only chemistry but most of their personality would not gel well with yours. And always remember it's basically a controlled environment - no feelings need not apply.
1) The first guy fell for me so it ended.
2) The second met someone so we stopped. He's happily married now 🙂
I think if you're going to do it and you can handle it, try to go for someone for whom you have only chemistry but most of their personality would not gel well with yours. And always remember it's basically a controlled environment - no feelings need not apply.
*no feelings need apply
Posted by shellshocker
I've had no strings attached "vacation" sex were there's obviously no future.
I tried a fwb once but he caught feelings after the first time and professed love. I had to distance myself and actually never saw him again, a total mess. I told him before/during/after that there were no emotions on my part so it wouldn't have been fair for me to continue or pretend to be his friend.
I must admit, I entered all of my relationships with sex before commitment but it was clear I wanted a relationship, eventually. The deal was if that's not something you're interested in or you want to sleep with other people then we will no longer be having sex.
that's cool. i understand where you're coming from.
My Cancer bff has also told me stuff. So no, it's not a common thing for women.
Thing is, with me, those who stay in the friends zone, STAY in the friends zone. They're friends for a reason. No feelings whatsover. If they go off with other people, knock yourself out, cause i ain't jealous or give a damn. that's why they are friends.
For the first time in my life, I find myself having occasional sexual activities with a man who is not my boyfriend. I'm 52.
Because it is a different experience for me, I am embracing it. However, I don't see myself doing it again. In this case, yes, I love this man very much. We've spent, I would say, about 80% of our time together since meeting four months ago.
He's been saying to me that he loves me (when he's been drinking). He's also not wanting a relationship now as he's got too much to clean up from his past life. I don't want one now, either, and yet, really, we ARE having a relationship, just non-committed (except that we are friends for life).
Me: pisces sun, gemini moon, aries venus
Him: pisces sun, cappy moon, taurus venus
Is this fwb? Maybe it's not fwb. I don't know what it is.
Because it is a different experience for me, I am embracing it. However, I don't see myself doing it again. In this case, yes, I love this man very much. We've spent, I would say, about 80% of our time together since meeting four months ago.
He's been saying to me that he loves me (when he's been drinking). He's also not wanting a relationship now as he's got too much to clean up from his past life. I don't want one now, either, and yet, really, we ARE having a relationship, just non-committed (except that we are friends for life).
Me: pisces sun, gemini moon, aries venus
Him: pisces sun, cappy moon, taurus venus
Is this fwb? Maybe it's not fwb. I don't know what it is.
Posted by dejaVwe
For the first time in my life, I find myself having occasional sexual activities with a man who is not my boyfriend. I'm 52.
Because it is a different experience for me, I am embracing it. However, I don't see myself doing it again. In this case, yes, I love this man very much. We've spent, I would say, about 80% of our time together since meeting four months ago.
He's been saying to me that he loves me (when he's been drinking). He's also not wanting a relationship now as he's got too much to clean up from his past life. I don't want one now, either, and yet, really, we ARE having a relationship, just non-committed (except that we are friends for life).
Me: pisces sun, gemini moon, aries venus
Him: pisces sun, cappy moon, taurus venus
Is this fwb? Maybe it's not fwb. I don't know what it is.
smh😢
They should add another "F" to this black souled activity.
FFWB - FAKE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
A REAL friend wouldn't use a friend like used torn luggage.
FFWB - FAKE FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
A REAL friend wouldn't use a friend like used torn luggage.
smh😢
No shit. What's wrong with me?
What the hell.
I didn't read anything ... only commenting on the title ...
I've fucked with no strings attached. We didn't call it fwb back then ... "getting laid" was our verbage.
As for being a Pisces ... idk if that is relevant ... not everyone wants to have a good fuck, most women cannot do this, and fall prey to their own insecurely desperate feelings to be able to do that. So, it looks like a weakness in women, rather than sun position.
Of course, now ... I'm speaking decades ago when my morals hadn't matured yet.
I've been a faithful and loyal wife for 30 years, now.
Posted by capinc
How could you say no to that?
if the sex is poppin tho i would wanna lock that down
i would hate to give up excellent sex
Done it before, will never do it again. It was destructive to both of us (didn't realize this until after of course). Never have a been a one night type of girl. Sex for me is sharing a part of who I am with the other person, so it has meaning behind it- can't really do that in a FWB, #1 is no feelings. lol
^ meant to say #1 rule for FWB is no feelings!
I've got a fwb that I've been meaning to drop all together. ...But as an Aries, I like sex. Therefore it keeps happening, haha.
If someone else comes along, the dude would be dropped without an issue. But since he's the only source I have at the moment, it just keeps happening.
I'm whatever about it, but also I'm kinda over it. I didn't really want to get into another fwb (the last one got all possessive and controlling), so my conscious keeps telling me to drop it.
I call it my brain vs crotch battle. ..Brain's getting its ass kicked haha.
If someone else comes along, the dude would be dropped without an issue. But since he's the only source I have at the moment, it just keeps happening.
I'm whatever about it, but also I'm kinda over it. I didn't really want to get into another fwb (the last one got all possessive and controlling), so my conscious keeps telling me to drop it.
I call it my brain vs crotch battle. ..Brain's getting its ass kicked haha.
Yea. I like relationships and fwb. Depends on whats going on in my life at the time.
I'm in charge of my body and my sex life. I don't understand why woman have to constantly fight for this. Shows what a rape- like culture we live in.
I'm in charge of my body and my sex life. I don't understand why woman have to constantly fight for this. Shows what a rape- like culture we live in.
Apparently ive read that sags can do it without getting attached....but i personally cant. If i like u that much, then ur going to have to be with me.
but in general most ppl can handle it no problem, and other ppl just cant.
Posted by starlover
I think it is about self respect and love for yourself as a woman
Letting a man have sex with you when it is just for kicks, is not always good as at a certain point (most) women will start to connect emotionally ~ that is the way we are made
That sounds extremely brainwashed. Sexuality is not black and white for human beings.
Who says fwb doesnt have feelings in it it does
If you both like each other and want to fuck each other than thats a good as any reaso to have fwbs yes?
This is the feelings behind such a thing?
If you both like each other and want to fuck each other than thats a good as any reaso to have fwbs yes?
This is the feelings behind such a thing?
well then fwb wouldnt be for you sounds like it starlover
but just coz it aint for you doesnt mean it aint for everyone too judgemental this attitude
but just coz it aint for you doesnt mean it aint for everyone too judgemental this attitude
if you start wantign to conect emotionally obvious you out grown the fwb benefits and time for something new to explore
Posted by Sag89Posted by starlover
I think it is about self respect and love for yourself as a woman
Letting a man have sex with you when it is just for kicks, is not always good as at a certain point (most) women will start to connect emotionally ~ that is the way we are made
That sounds extremely brainwashed. Sexuality is not black and white for human beings.click to expand
She tends to speak from her vagina a lot, so she comes off a little lala land with some of this stuff.
To each their own, but to place THAT much emotional value in sex is just naive.
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