Stalker or Coincidence

Haven't seen or heard from my ex in over 8 months. I've been out of the country for 6 weeks with my fiance and 2 days after I get home I see my ex at a parking lot of a bar that's a quarter mile from my home. We used to go there often and he never knew the place existed until I showed it to him. The town I live in is in "BFE" and he lives 35 miles away.

I had to look 5 times because i couldn't believe my eyes. I drove up because I felt like I wanted him to know that I saw him. I was very nice and polite and greeted him with a smiling "hiiii". He started to smile but then stopped himself and said "hey whats up" I said "not much how are you"(still smiling)he replied "good". I said "just wanted to say hello" and he waives his hand in a way that meant ok your annoying, Hi and now scatt.

He was very hurt the way I let go and moved on so suddenly. The reality was I was over our relationship far before I moved on but because i'm not the nagging type I don't think he understood how unhappy with him I was. (I'm a cancer I guess were known to keep our feelings and emotions to ourselves). We'll he's a scorpio and hates me for moving on and leaving him in the dust even though he told me to do so and did and said everything possible to push me away.

I don't understand why he chose this spot. Appareantly he met some guy up that he switched cars with and then drove off. I know this because my girlfriend that I was meeting up over there saw them pull up. (this concerns me because it makes me wonder: was he following me? why switch cars?) Had I seen him with another woman I would have just figured maybe he's bringing a girl to this low key spot and I would not have interrupted.

our break up wasn't "ugly or dramatic" and I don't really have and hard feelings towards him. It's very childish of him to act the way he did. I take his actions as not being over me because we all know that the opposite of love is indifference and NOT hate.

My question is do I have a stalker on my hands? Am I over looking into this??

uh, no... why do some people TRY to read btwn the lines—?

maybe he's really gay *shrugs*

Is this some kind of joke?


You talk about how much you hurt him and how unhappy and mad it was for him to have to bear to be without you .... you make him out to sound like he pines away for you so much that he would stalk you.



And yet, in your description .. he does whatever he can to be rid of you, even trade cars so won't know how to stalk him ... afterall, it was YOU who found him, and deliberately drove up to him.


You're the one talking about what he's doing, who he's with, what he's driving .... you even talked to another person who witnessed what he was doing .. as he drove away from you.



You haven't changed, HappyCrab ...

P- angel: Talk to the hand!!

Everyone else I have totally moved on and am very happy with where im at in life. Where I live is totally not common ground for anyone. as I said before he lives almost an hour away in the central part of the city and where I live is a very very northern suburb where nobody goes. He didn't even know this area existed till he met me. My gut instinct (thats usually right) tells me he's there for a reason and it makes me uncomfortable. Yes I do look way too much into things but it's for a reason. I don't miss him or wish anything happened differently.

Switching cars makes me wonder if he did so in order for me not to know that I was being followed.

I know that if i had to meet someone up and even if common ground was close to his home i'd suggest a place thats further than a stones throw from his home. He knows I have to pass this spot to get to my house he knows I just got back in town and thats why I'm thinking stalker. Or maybe stalker is too extreme of a word. Maybe he just hasn't let go.

HappyCrab,

Funny... my ex Scorpio turned up across the street from my house a couple of days ago. I haven't seen him in 2.5 years. Weird, huh?

I think it's more of a coincidence than stalking though... but with our active imaginations and intuition, a cancer really can't ignore anything and must ponder.

It is also a New Moon in Cancer on July 1st, and cardinal signs will be confronted with issues of safety, security, new and past relationships issues. It's a time of taking a good look at things, letting go and moving on. You may have some issues within ourself regarding the ending of this relationship, your role and his and that energy has led him in your path.

Don't read to much into on his part, but I'd sort out what it means to you.

And don't mind the haters that love to dismiss the synchronicity of life. 😉

^^ holy spelling mistakes... i hate typing on my phone!

Posted by HappyCrab

Haven't seen or heard from my ex in over 8 months.

8 months


Which means you don't know how he feels, there's no way of him knowing your comings and goings ... he's trying to get away from you and can you blame him?


It's been eight months, you have a finance ... and still obsessed with him.

Double Gem: I don't know for sure if he knows I went away but you know how it is with mutual friends and facebook friends. My sister had run into his friend the day prior and told her that I'm back in town so it could have been any of that or both. I was actually pulling in myself to meet up a friend but I got so nervous when I saw him that my first reaction was to drive off. But then I said to myself: "wait a sec!! hes in my hood!" so instead of driving out of the parking lot I drove past him and stopped just to say hello. Which shouldn't really be a big deal since were not enemies. At least i don't think so. He wasn't inside the place he was just having some sort of meeting out in the parking lot. I'm not into game playing and it really doesn't matter to me what he may or may not think of me approaching him. If the run in was truly a coincidence and I ran into him then why not say hello. He's someone that I was with for 2.5 years and we had a lot of good times together. I don't see the harm of being friendly towards eo. And if it were a "stalker" issue then I wanted him to know that I saw him. Simple as that.

Shell Shocker: Thats crazy!! I do agree with you about the synchronicities of life. He has a park very close to his home that I would rather meet someone anywhere but there since i would know for sure I would be spotted and would feel really dumb if I was. I kinda feel bad for the guy. I really hope he's not still hung up on us and what happened. That would really suck!

Bluemoon: Your right the word is a bit harsh to describe whats going on. I know that he hates that I dropped him because he went berzerk when he heard I was seeing someone else. Begged me to give him another shot. I was over it all by that point and had no desire to give him another shot. I found out shortly after that he befriended a now ex friend of mine to keep tabs on me.

DoubleGem: The last few months of the relationship was very on again off again. Lots of bouts of me trying to move on and yes just like you describe he had no problem hanging up in my face and not answering my calls. Soon as scorpio realized that I wasn't a phone call away thats when tables turned. So yah he did not like the fact that he got replaced so quickly. He would always brag that all of his exes are a phone call away. Not this time!!

I wasn't chummy with him. He called me after a couple months of no contact trying to rekindle and I broke the news to him that i have moved on thats when he went berzerk. We haven't had any contact whatsoever since then and 3 months later I was engaged.

When i met my fiance, scorpio and I were not "together". He was constantly mia and we were fighting alot. I let him know that someone new was lurking around and if he had no interest in giving me a further commitment that I was going to go for him because he seemed to be a good honest guy. He told me to move on bc he had nothing to offer me. Maybe he thought I was bluffing IDK.

Impressme I blocked P-angel for a reason. You seem to be one of her back up accounts because everyone blocks her. Either that or ur just as crazy as her...

ellesque ur very wrong..and not following along correctly. October I asked him whats up with us he said nothing move on and I did. December he called trying to rekindle and thats when he begged to take him back. I don't need stupid analysis if i'm lying or not. It really doesn't put anything in my pocket to make up stories to complete strangers that don't know me or see me. Just looking for opinions on whats going on THATS IT.

If you insist on putting in your 2 cents the least you can do is read carefully. It is long and there is sooo many details that I didn't include for a reason. All the drama that lead us up to a few days ago is not relavent to my question. If im obsessed with him or not is also not relavent. Im just looking for 2nd opinions on why he would choose to hang out at a spot thats down the street from my house. THATS IT!!

Maybe I just like to anazlyze shit. Let it be!!

Posted by DoubleGem2
I have been told from many on DXP, Scorpio's have to be the one to do the breaking up...this information has been stated on here not only by Scorpio's themselves but those who have been involved with a Scorpio's. It has also been stated on here numerous times, that a Scorpio will even go as far as getting back with you, just to break up with you.....

hahaha! This is exactly what happened with my Scorpio ex. We met up again after 6 years and he pursued me. First and LAST time I will ever go backwards, let me tell you. Our original breakup was uncomfortable and had a lot of outside influences so there were unresolved feelings there. I was very open and upfront about my feelings for him and he turned around and dumped me... hard.

I later found out his previous girlfriend (who looked very much like me) dumped him and married someone else within 3 months!
I honestly think he pursued, then dumped me as the ultimate revenge on both of us.

One of my girlfriends also has a Scorp ex who would occasionally drive by her house, even a year after she broke up with him.

So ya, Scorps have a reputation but it sure as hell comes from somewhere...

Posted by ellessque
Look, I'm going to call you out on your shit in front of God and everyone and then i'm going to go watch flashpoint. it's a new episode tonight 😛

Since we are stereotyping (queue scorpio stalker)....

I know how you guys roll (cancer chics), I have plenty in my life to know. When you get close to a commitment (queue the fiance) you freak the hell out. You will start fucking the postman, ups guy, the cop that patrols your street, the neighbors husband and the local male bar fly until your ass gets caught by the fiance. So then, you can play "victim" and be "saved". That's the only way you'll feel worthy of your fiance. he has to save your ass before you actually make a commitment like marriage.

You are playing with fire and really need to check yourself.

I'm sensing a bit of hostility from you... is this because cancer chicks are never, ever short on suitors?

And while we are throwing daggers... your obsession with black men is pretty obvious. There are a lot of stereotypes that go along with that as well....

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Posted by shellshocker

Posted by ellessque
Look, I'm going to call you out on your shit in front of God and everyone and then i'm going to go watch flashpoint. it's a new episode tonight 😛

Since we are stereotyping (queue scorpio stalker)....

I know how you guys roll (cancer chics), I have plenty in my life to know. When you get close to a commitment (queue the fiance) you freak the hell out. You will start fucking the postman, ups guy, the cop that patrols your street, the neighbors husband and the local male bar fly until your ass gets caught by the fiance. So then, you can play "victim" and be "saved". That's the only way you'll feel worthy of your fiance. he has to save your ass before you actually make a commitment like marriage.

You are playing with fire and really need to check yourself.

I'm sensing a bit of hostility from you... is this because cancer chicks are never, ever short on suitors?

And while we are throwing daggers... your obsession with black men is pretty obvious. There are a lot of stereotypes that go along with that as well....

I think you're reaching there and grasping for straws. I must be obsessed with women because I am a Sappho. *gasp*

click to expand

it's called... "cheap shot reflection"

Posted by ellessque
i think that was a record. i haven't had this avatar up for more than an hour. *smdh*

don't need to deny your opinion because it doesn't fit me...

and your avatar is one of many... are you denying you have a preference for black men?

ohhhh.... this is all interpersonal, dxp soap opera stuff. I get it now... sometimes I forget there is an underbelly to this place.

sorry elle if i hurt your feelings and no, I wasn't offended by your cancer opinion. i was more curious why you had such a strong, personal opinion and was coming out of left field with some stuff.

i saw it more as a personal attack on the OP and i have a thing for fighting for the underdog... so i got personal with you. i didn't know you knew her or that there was history...
so this is between you and her

*backs out of room*

This thread got really awkward.

I hadn't read page 5 when I posted that. Gets a little less so when the apologies start rolliin in, so that's nice of y'all.

I'm not apologizing for shit ... HappyCrab has a history on here, and it's always the same with her.

She is sought after so much that men cannot help themselves except to fawn after her ... that is how she plants all of her stories, so from there she is made out to feel special.

Just like with this one ... nothing happened .. but, she has to believe that he wants her, he would freak out if he didn't have her .. and now he's coming to her part of town, so he can keep tabs her.



It's always the same shit .... why would I apologize for noticing that her ego is the size of Texas and needs it to be stroked with every new story?


She is the one who is obsessed with him, and keeping tabs on what he is doing .. which is stalkerish behaviour.


Mainly, she has next to nothing to say about a man she claims to be a finance .. except to say that he was her second choice, since Scorpio didn't respond to when she dangled a new suitor in front of his face .. which means, she's now playing the emotions of the finance .... IF he even exits.

Posted by HappyCrab

Impressme I blocked P-angel for a reason. You seem to be one of her back up accounts because everyone blocks her. Either that or ur just as crazy as her...

Of course, that's why you responded to me.

This would have had more of the effect you were looking for if you hadn't of responded to me.



::: shakes head :::


I remember all the times you kept saying that the Virgo loves you, and he pines away for you ... and then you'd describe how he kept trying to get away from you and you kept saying it's because he was afraid of how he feels for you.


You really are that pathetic