How much of an enemy do you see your partner as?

I'm not sure how many of you see your spouses, or partners as being on the same team, but by right, they aren't necessarily. Your partners are signified by the 7th house, which is the house opposite to self - pretty much an open enemy.

*Do you find yourself finding fault with you 'other half' more often than it takes you to nitpick a friend or acquaintance?
*Who will fight for child custody, or a share of your assets when you divorce?

That's right. Your spouse! In effect, you spouse is an open/hidden enemy. It is very easy to turn on them and vice versa.

Now, I want to hear from those in a marriage and LTR, how they managed to reconcile that enemic feeling for your partners, and channeling it into a positive form of coupledom and support?

It is a mystical alchemy thing, because those that last have already found the formula to make it work.

🙂

The only time I see my husband as being on another team is when we want to do something like vacation. He's resistant to what I would like to do (I like to be active and explore and he likes to sit around), so I've learned to plant a seed early by casually mentioning something that would be fun (and putting a spin on it that will appeal to him) and then letting it go for weeks. Then mentioning it again. Then letting it go. Eventually, he forgets where he heard the idea and will mention it as something we could do. Or, I'll mention it myself, as though it just occurred to me that to do it would be a possibility: "Heeey...you know what we COULD do- remember that thing we heard about a while back?" If this method fails, the other one is the point blank approach: "I'm doing this. Am I doing it alone or are you coming with me?"

Ooh, you are skillful at the art of subtle manipulation, even unconsciously 😛. What sign is your hubby?

He's a Scorpio. I'm a Gemini.

Posted by elihope69
wow since hes a scorpio im suprised he doesnt wanna go explorin with ya, most men do like to do nothing though lol.

It's mostly because he works really hard 6 days per week. When he has time off, he just wants to sit or sleep, which is understandable. It's hard for him to conceive of having the energy to do something on a vacation when he's just arrived home from work dog tired. Of course, after he gets rested up after a day or two off, he remembers he likes to explore (up to a point- he still has those Scorpio phobias). That's why I'm Miss Tricky. If I wasn't, we would never get around to having any fun at all.

They are adorable!

Posted by M

Posted by spica
Your partners are signified by the 7th house, which is the house opposite to self - pretty much an open enemy.

My 7th is in Cap, Cap is opposing Cap? Ouch :p

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not literally you goof. :p 1st house is self ; 7th is partner. It doesn't mean she will have to be a cap, though

Posted by elihope69
i sometimes see my spouse as a enemy only when he wants to control me. but for the most part i see him as my partner. he keeps me anchored. or id b wild as f***!

that is great. 🙂

Posted by Whimsy
He's a Scorpio. I'm a Gemini.

my cuzz is a double scorp and his wifes a geminian too!!

All the time that's why it didn't work 😛

Posted by Sagittarius89
All the time that's why it didn't work 😛

Honest and straight to the point!
😄

om on a 3 month holiday away from my partner

Posted by Whimsy
The only time I see my husband as being on another team is when we want to do something like vacation. He's resistant to what I would like to do (I like to be active and explore and he likes to sit around), so I've learned to plant a seed early by casually mentioning something that would be fun (and putting a spin on it that will appeal to him) and then letting it go for weeks. Then mentioning it again. Then letting it go. Eventually, he forgets where he heard the idea and will mention it as something we could do. Or, I'll mention it myself, as though it just occurred to me that to do it would be a possibility: "Heeey...you know what we COULD do- remember that thing we heard about a while back?" If this method fails, the other one is the point blank approach: "I'm doing this. Am I doing it alone or are you coming with me?"

gems are the best people to take a vacation with...you guys are so much fun!