
Gemitati
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Posted by AgentP911Actually no, I have met somebody just in the same boat and it hit me over the head.
Are you still going on about that Scorp man?



Posted by TaureanVirgoWell, googling 'limerence '
When you learn the distinction between limerence and real Love, is when you will have the answer to your question...


Posted by AgentP911Why are you so disturbed all the time?
Yawn^^^ there's no need to get all high and mighty. Nobody is right or wrong. It's an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share. He might not be able to keep his hands off you but he's not the Scorp...


Posted by GemitatiDisturbed? Oh do me a favour and get off your high horse before you fall off.Posted by AgentP911Why are you so disturbed all the time?
Yawn^^^ there's no need to get all high and mighty. Nobody is right or wrong. It's an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share. He might not be able to keep his hands off you but he's not the Scorp...
It is just an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share.
Why can't you be happy for a moment that someone like me back with her husband and just leave it alone?
Because your life is not so good? Apparently. Obviously.click to expand

Posted by AgentP911There is definitely something wrong with you.Posted by GemitatiDisturbed? Oh do me a favour and get off your high horse before you fall off.Posted by AgentP911Why are you so disturbed all the time?
Yawn^^^ there's no need to get all high and mighty. Nobody is right or wrong. It's an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share. He might not be able to keep his hands off you but he's not the Scorp...
It is just an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share.
Why can't you be happy for a moment that someone like me back with her husband and just leave it alone?
Because your life is not so good? Apparently. Obviously.
Back with your husband? Did you even leave him in the first place.
Nothing wrong with my life. I'm not the one trapped in a shit marriage pretending all is well and then bitching that the world isn't ecstatic and giving everyone the bird!
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Posted by GemitatiHappy people don't bitch about their husbands and lust after other men and post numerous threads about wanting to be with other men etc.Posted by AgentP911There is definitely something wrong with you.Posted by GemitatiDisturbed? Oh do me a favour and get off your high horse before you fall off.Posted by AgentP911Why are you so disturbed all the time?
Yawn^^^ there's no need to get all high and mighty. Nobody is right or wrong. It's an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share. He might not be able to keep his hands off you but he's not the Scorp...
It is just an Internet forum where people post their opinions and feedback on the small portion of life others care to share.
Why can't you be happy for a moment that someone like me back with her husband and just leave it alone?
Because your life is not so good? Apparently. Obviously.
Back with your husband? Did you even leave him in the first place.
Nothing wrong with my life. I'm not the one trapped in a shit marriage pretending all is well and then bitching that the world isn't ecstatic and giving everyone the bird!
I am telling the story.
You jumping right in with a question about my past.
When I am explaining - you telling me nasty stuff about my husband being not whom I want.
Don't you see how stupid and nasty it is? Happy people don't do this to others.click to expand

Posted by GemitatiWell, they exist because something within you is broken. You have a habit of developing attachments to the unattainable; unavailable people, and delusions of grandeur when it comes to how you imagine a relationship with these people will go.
the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.
Exactly but how does it help anything?
We all know that without knowing the word 'limerence'
Now we know the word but how does it help to understand
purpose and existence of the pointless feelings?

Posted by GemitatiWell, they exist because something within you is broken. You have a habit of developing attachments to the unattainable; unavailable people, and delusions of grandeur when it comes to how you imagine a relationship with these people will go.
the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.
Exactly but how does it help anything?
We all know that without knowing the word 'limerence'
Now we know the word but how does it help to understand
purpose and existence of the pointless feelings?


Posted by TaureanVirgoI am actually understanding what you are saying. And I appreciate your insight.Posted by GemitatiWell, they exist because something within you is broken. You have a habit of developing attachments to the unattainable; unavailable people, and delusions of grandeur when it comes to how you imagine a relationship with these people will go.
the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.
Exactly but how does it help anything?
We all know that without knowing the word 'limerence'
Now we know the word but how does it help to understand
purpose and existence of the pointless feelings?
The limerence will continue for as long as it takes you to resolve your issues. The reason it's gone on with the Scorpio so long is because you are broken/unhappy, and you don't know him. You don't really know him. You've never had a real relationship with him, so you've not yet had the experience to tell you (or show you) just why that relationship will never work...That it will never be the way you imagine it.
Chances are that if you were to get into a real relationship with him; reality would hit, your feelings for him would dissolve, and you'd find another unavailable man/unattainable relationship (fantasy) to attach yourself to. That is, unless you decide to do the work to resolve your own inner conflict (grow up/evolve). Only then, will the this cycle be broken.click to expand



Posted by starloverI say no one.Posted by TaureanVirgoI wonder how many do?
When you learn the distinction between limerence and real Love, is when you will have the answer to your question...
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Posted by starloverIllusion can cloud reality for sure.
I am sure lots do.....including myself (in the past)
The illusion can cloud the reality
Neptune anyone?

Posted by starloverYou aren't talking about love for the country? 🙂Posted by GemitatiFor some yes
So does it mean that everyone who ever fell out of love weren't in love?
*In love* is merely a chemical reaction
Real love isn't
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Posted by starloverI am thinking if people are quietly thinking about each other 24/7 for a decade - it is love!
...and i can't answer that for you......it is up to you to decide what real love is

Posted by starloverI hope you will find it.
I think if they are thinking that much, they could be obsessed...
If they still feel the same living day in, day out with each other, seeing the best and the worst, being put to the test by many things, then that could be love
Anyway, hope you find your answer
I found it....the love for my son ... nothing else compares. If i find that for a man one day, that is good, if i dont that is good too



Posted by GemitatiHorseshit!Posted by AgentP911Actually no, I have met somebody just in the same boat and it hit me over the head.
Are you still going on about that Scorp man?
I can not stop wondering. These people are pure and innocent. She is my friend.
And I believe her. She said nothing ever had happened. And they are trying as hard
as they can to not to have feelings. Once touched hands accidentally. WHY—
I mean why this 'GIFT' is given?
And thanks for asking. I am fine now. My Cap husband can't keep his hands off
of me. Thanks to the affair btw. So all of you were way off. Wrong!
How are YOU doing?click to expand

Posted by AgentP911Happy people don't do this to others.Happy people don't bitch about their husbands and lust after other men and post numerous threads about wanting to be with other men etc.

Posted by TaureanVirgoStanding ovation worthy description of why people feel love, but don't respond to it like they love the other or like they're being LOVED by the other. The sad and crazy part is that broken people come together with all of these "love" feelings all of the time. We've romanticized limerence, unrequited love, obsession, and other love like substitutes to the point that they're all now lumped into one category...love. Love is never the same, it's ever changing in it's application, but it is consistent as well as supports the other person is FEELING loved/free. The tighter a person holds on, the more I see that it's not love after all. Love gives you grace, room, space, etc. It doesn't tighten the reigns and choke you into submission and it doesn't throw up ultimatum boundaries that make you surrender because you're in between a rock and a hard place.Posted by GemitatiWell, they exist because something within you is broken. You have a habit of developing attachments to the unattainable; unavailable people, and delusions of grandeur when it comes to how you imagine a relationship with these people will go.
the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship.
Exactly but how does it help anything?
We all know that without knowing the word 'limerence'
Now we know the word but how does it help to understand
purpose and existence of the pointless feelings?
The limerence will continue for as long as it takes you to resolve your issues. The reason it's gone on with the Scorpio so long is because you are broken/unhappy, and you don't know him. You don't really know him. You've never had a real relationship with him, so you've not yet had the experience to tell you (or show you) just why that relationship will never work...That it will never be the way you imagine it.
Chances are that if you were to get into a real relationship with him; reality would hit, your feelings for him would dissolve, and you'd find another unavailable man/unattainable relationship (fantasy) to attach yourself to. That is, unless you decide to do the work to resolve your own inner conflict (grow up/evolve). Only then, will the this cycle be broken.click to expand


Posted by GemitatiThe power is in your hands. Just find an outlet or two!
We were thought that everything is happening for a reason.
I am very logical person and if something doesn't make sense it drives me up a wall!
THIS is the thing that drives me nuts! Help...


Posted by LetltBExactly! Then she starts going on about lust and love and unavailable people.Posted by GemitatiHorseshit!Posted by AgentP911Actually no, I have met somebody just in the same boat and it hit me over the head.
Are you still going on about that Scorp man?
I can not stop wondering. These people are pure and innocent. She is my friend.
And I believe her. She said nothing ever had happened. And they are trying as hard
as they can to not to have feelings. Once touched hands accidentally. WHY—
I mean why this 'GIFT' is given?
And thanks for asking. I am fine now. My Cap husband can't keep his hands off
of me. Thanks to the affair btw. So all of you were way off. Wrong!
How are YOU doing?click to expand


Posted by NevermoreOh God... That explains the 'me, me, me, look at meeeeeee' thing she has going on!Posted by AgentP911You know she has Leo moon.Posted by LetltBExactly! Then she starts going on about lust and love and unavailable people.Posted by GemitatiHorseshit!Posted by AgentP911Actually no, I have met somebody just in the same boat and it hit me over the head.
Are you still going on about that Scorp man?
I can not stop wondering. These people are pure and innocent. She is my friend.
And I believe her. She said nothing ever had happened. And they are trying as hard
as they can to not to have feelings. Once touched hands accidentally. WHY—
I mean why this 'GIFT' is given?
And thanks for asking. I am fine now. My Cap husband can't keep his hands off
of me. Thanks to the affair btw. So all of you were way off. Wrong!
How are YOU doing?
Frankly, I can't be arsed to respond to her earlier justification of 'oh you jumped all over my post first, you did, you did, you did, you must be following me because you care but I don't care about you...' Yawn.
No love, it's an open Internet forum and you just happened to post in a section I was looking at and I recalled your story mainly because you filled the Scorp board etc up with loads of threads about it. Bless her, she's a bit clueless.
Apologies Gem, I have an excellent memory for most things, you're not so special after all.
Please feel free to flatter yourself. Gem's can be rather superficial and susceptible to flattery.click to expand

Posted by NevermoreHa! Agree but my disclaimer was there because I couldn't be arsed to deal with anyone coming on to state the obvious that not all Leo moon placements... Blah blah blah...Posted by AgentP911Well.. (Even though you want to add disclaimer).. the main problem with Leo moons are since I have actually noticed on dxp that no matter to have the most clearest explanation, they'll continuously on to behave that for getting some attentions.. Including their stubbornness with denial that creates the negativity to respond that..Posted by NevermoreOh God... That explains the 'me, me, me, look at meeeeeee' thing she has going on!Posted by AgentP911You know she has Leo moon.
No love, it's an open Internet forum and you just happened to post in a section I was looking at and I recalled your story mainly because you filled the Scorp board etc up with loads of threads about it. Bless her, she's a bit clueless.
Apologies Gem, I have an excellent memory for most things, you're not so special after all.
Please feel free to flatter yourself. Gem's can be rather superficial and susceptible to flattery.
*disclaimer - not including all Leo Moon's*
Or pretend to be stubbornness for getting all those negativity, no matter the negativity.. they grieve to have a lot of post.
I mean look at busyeyes for example with those libra post. Or that Firebunny and CC.click to expand

Posted by UndineThanks for your wonderful eye opening posts.
I'd also been infatuated for about 10 years and I know the unbelievable amount of energy it creates. All those released neurotransmitters could be put to a good use! I used to think of him as my muse. Someone I had to impress with my achievements. Someone I used to overcome my natural procrastination tendency.
Get creative and write, paint or do whatever you feel like. Plan to better your career or change to a more fulfilling job. Volunteer to talk to some "happy" but lonely people. Help the poor. And stop moaning. You know it feels GOOD. It's the opposite of dull. Enjoy it as long as it lasts.

Posted by Gemitati🙂.Posted by UndineThanks for your wonderful eye opening posts.
I'd also been infatuated for about 10 years and I know the unbelievable amount of energy it creates. All those released neurotransmitters could be put to a good use! I used to think of him as my muse. Someone I had to impress with my achievements. Someone I used to overcome my natural procrastination tendency.
Get creative and write, paint or do whatever you feel like. Plan to better your career or change to a more fulfilling job. Volunteer to talk to some "happy" but lonely people. Help the poor. And stop moaning. You know it feels GOOD. It's the opposite of dull. Enjoy it as long as it lasts.
Is it over for you by now?click to expand

Posted by UndineNo one ever told me THAT! 🙂 ThanksPosted by Gemitati🙂.Posted by UndineThanks for your wonderful eye opening posts.
I'd also been infatuated for about 10 years and I know the unbelievable amount of energy it creates. All those released neurotransmitters could be put to a good use! I used to think of him as my muse. Someone I had to impress with my achievements. Someone I used to overcome my natural procrastination tendency.
Get creative and write, paint or do whatever you feel like. Plan to better your career or change to a more fulfilling job. Volunteer to talk to some "happy" but lonely people. Help the poor. And stop moaning. You know it feels GOOD. It's the opposite of dull. Enjoy it as long as it lasts.
Is it over for you by now?
It's been over since 2010. Shame it is over, it had only positive effects on my ambition. I tried to be as productive as him, but the bar was set far too high.
I may have to reinstate him as my muse, or see if Gem boyfriend could take over this role. If only I could feel the same drive to impress my Gem! He should challenge me more.click to expand
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Both are married for decades. Having no relationships
but as life goes they are must see each other at family gatherings.
It is painful to see them together just looking at each other with
warmth that melting ice cubes in their glasses.
They know they will never be together.
My question is - what is the point and why this love was given
to them if there is nothing to do with it but to suffer?
What stars meant when they have decided to gift them this LOVE?