Can women & men be friends?

Be real & realistic!

By friends, I mean STRICTLY PLATONIC as in NO:
-sex
-No feelings
-No funny business

And I'm not talking about being 'just friends' AFTER the relationship or after being F buddies.

I mean can they be "just friends' from the beginning to the end

Honestly, I don't think they can! Especially for 2 people who have been cool for years & years.

It's very very rare to see 2 people start out as friends & then continue as just friends the whole time.

I mean eventually somebody's gonna kiss, touch, or atleast THINK about it! Come on!

I think the only time women & men can be 'just friends' the whole time is if neither are physically, emotionally or sexually attracted to eachother.

If people pick their friends in the same way they would if they were looking for a mate, there's no way they'll be friends from the beginning to the end! NO WAY!

I don't think they can. There seems to be at least one of you having feelings for the other. Even if you've never had sex or dated that person....flirtation is there. I get along better with guys, but eventually I have to put some distance there. A childhood friend of mine, started acting way out of line. I gave him no reason to, but I had to cut ties with him. He became creepy! LOL

if they're unnattractive

Yes I have strictly platonic guy friends. Some hot, some not.
It is possible to think "mmmm you're sexy" or to even tell someone "yes, I think you are hot" without actually ripping their clothes off.

Nothing wrong with thinking about it.

I find guys great friends - there is none of that bitchy backstabbing undertone thing that I see in a lot of women.

R.I.P. E....


I believe this to be true. It's a bit rare in this times but yes it can happen. I now have female friends that are very very attractive.... but I don't like them in that way. I had one (lol)🙂 well she's was more like a annoying pain in the ass big sister. Once you have a vibe like that it's easy. At first people assumed that we were dating (sigh) god forbid a man and a women have fun and cut up and just be friends....-_- oh no I MUST secertly like her or she me. There was a assload of confusion.. her guys would be like "is he gay" Or get all threated (the D-bag ones) On the flip side the ladies "oh how long have you guys been friends" the female games and hints to see if were more than friends (sigh). Long story short kid, is that as long as there are no feelings OR developing ones from either party your good. Remember your genders and respect that. We didn't put ourselfs in akward positions>>> swapping sex stories, changing in front of each other, and bad touching. that's realtionship stuff. So that's Lobo's 2 cent on it..

Factors needed:
no attraction
platonic view
trust
*proper boundries*

LOL @ 69virgo... don't be scuuuuurrredddd🙂

Posted by krysrenee7


I think the only time women & men can be 'just friends' the whole time is if neither are physically, emotionally or sexually attracted to eachother.

This here. I have many male friends, & have never been attracted to ANY of them. EVER. So Yes it is very possible for a man & woman to have a strictly platonic relationship.

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by krysrenee7


I think the only time women & men can be 'just friends' the whole time is if neither are physically, emotionally or sexually attracted to eachother.

This here. I have many male friends, & have never been attracted to ANY of them. EVER. So Yes it is very possible for a man & woman to have a strictly platonic relationship.

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That's the problem. Most people pick their friends & look for certain qualities in 'friends' in the same way they'd look for those qualities in a mate

Even women do this when seeking other female friends. They look for other women that are attractive, have lots in common with them & even traits that they don't have...

so when they use the same 'standards' to find male friends, it's almost always a recipe for something to go down, simply b/c we usually only befriend those we like anyways

Unless I'd known a guy since like 2 years old, it'd be hard for me to become new friends with a male if I didn't like anything about him!

Posted by aquaj
If they're attractive I have a bad habit of f**king them somewhere down the line. I cut ties with my male friends who I find sexually attractive when things got serious with my boyfriend. I just don't want to run the risk of confiding in them when I'm going through a rough patch with my boyfriend (as we ladies tend to do with our friends) and ending up somehow bobbing on their dicks, you know?

So the good-looking faux friends had to go.

smut

Sure!! I have 3 very close male friends.

Posted by krysrenee7

-No funny business

Oh.. never mind lol

I haven't had a really close male friend but I'm capable of having a friendship with one. I think it helps the process if you're not sexually attracted to them but it's more about how you are and how well you can cope with a hot male friend lol

I find that most of the male friends I've had have been attracted to me in some way, somewhere down the line so it's never really worked out which is a shame as I quite like having male company over female. Less of the extra dramas and all that.

I wish because I actually prefer male friendships. I use to think it was possible, but I don't anymore.

Even with the looks thing, sometimes a person seems to become MORE attractive to you the more you get to know them! lol

So even those who purposely look for ugly opposite sex friends aren't in the clear! Especially when there's alcohol involved!

I've known lots of people who started off as friends who weren't really all that attracted to eachother. But b/c the friendship was so good & b/c they got along so well, they started to realize that the other didn't look too bad after all & figured oh what the hell, if you're this good of a friend, you're probably an awesome mate too =)

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
Yes I have strictly platonic guy friends. Some hot, some not.
It is possible to think "mmmm you're sexy" or to even tell someone "yes, I think you are hot" without actually ripping their clothes off.

Nothing wrong with thinking about it.

I find guys great friends - there is none of that bitchy backstabbing undertone thing that I see in a lot of women.

Yes. And so what if they find you attractive or in reverse. Doesn't mean you'll throw down. You can appreciate a fine form or face, mentally note it and move things along.

Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by krysrenee7


I think the only time women & men can be 'just friends' the whole time is if neither are physically, emotionally or sexually attracted to eachother.

This here. I have many male friends, & have never been attracted to ANY of them. EVER. So Yes it is very possible for a man & woman to have a strictly platonic relationship.

That's the problem. Most people pick their friends & look for certain qualities in 'friends' in the same way they'd look for those qualities in a mate

Even women do this when seeking other female friends. They look for other women that are attractive, have lots in common with them & even traits that they don't have...

so when they use the same 'standards' to find male friends, it's almost always a recipe for something to go down, simply b/c we usually only befriend those we like anyways

Unless I'd known a guy since like 2 years old, it'd be hard for me to become new friends with a male if I didn't like anything about him!

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Nope. Not a problem for me.

apparently guys can't be friends with me. all of my past guy friends have ended up hitting on me at some point. they just like me because i'm the only virgin remaining inside their circle of female friends. guys are so gross. i don't like having guys as friends. they always want something from you.

Stranger things have happen. Honestly I think it's possible. I have some platonic girlfriends but I guess they're platonic because we're childhoos friends, long before adult sexuality came into the picture. So there's no sexual tension there. We're like brothers and sisters.

But sure, there were women I was sexually drawn to, but picked up early on they weren't intrested in me "in that way" for various of reasons, one being that they were in relationships etc... anyway, as time went by I learned how to be their friend and all that sexual attraction I initially had for them was just blown away. I could still "do" them, but it wouldn't be the same. I formed a relationship with them, so they became human, with flaws and everything. Friends, in other words.

A man who cannot be just friends with a woman isn't really a man, in my opinion. All my male role models have good friends of the opposite sex, no "funny business". So there you have it....

Yes it can happen. : ) I have men friends and we never dated, never will date, and will be friends. and no these are not gay men lol

I agree with emeralddream.

When Harry Met Sally...