Creating fake profiles to test your S/O

Have you ever felt the need to create a fake profile just to test your partner to see if they'll fall for the bait?

Last year, Dr. Phil did a show about the lengths some women/men will go through to either 1. Test to see if their partner is cheating or 2. Test to see how their partner handles the opposite sex behind closed doors.

They also conducted a poll after the show, in which 67% of women & 53% of men admitted that they've greated a fake profile (facebook, dating site, myspace, etc.) posing as someone else, & contacted their partner just to see what their partner's response was.

This 1 lady justified doing it! She created the fake profile 2 days before her wedding. She figured that if her fiance would fall for the bait and/or engage in inappropriate convo with another woman, that she'd actually be SMART to find out his true colors BEFORE she married him. Welp, her fiance took the bait & tried to meet up with the woman that he thought she was.

Her defense? She's sure that him being a cheater would've eventually (keyword) come to the light later on down the road, BUT she didn't want to face that "eventually" after she'd already married him! She felt that had she never created the fake profile & busted him that she would've made the biggest mistake of her life in marrying this guy!

Personally, I think the whole idea indicates severe insecurity & perhaps even someone with entirely too much time on their hands. BUT, I must admit that it's quite interesting how easy (yet deceptive) it is to find out quickly if your partner can't control themselves around the opposite sex.

I guess it's 1 of those things where you've gotta ask yourself, "If there was a way I could find out, would I do what it takes to find out, especially if there actually WAS something incriminating that I might find?"

Smh smh

Well usually I trust by my instinct and surprisingly I'm always right. I mean it's kind of immoral to question a man you're about to marry soon. You've been with him for awhile, so you gotta know by then that he's a keeper. Idk I'm very psychic I guess too. Observing every detail and emotion. I'd only test him if I don't trust him or my instinct is telling me something is not right. But depends, everyone is different. She did a good job for pulling this fake profile thing. Maybe deep deep down inside her instinct was telling her not to marry him so she had to come up with some logical reason to terminate the marriage. A lot of times, we know things before they even happen. It's like some inner voice guiding you.

not gonna lie, i've done it to a guy i was dating a billion years ago. not proud of it or ashamed. it is what it is. i wanted to know and found out. insecure? of course! but who hasnt been at one time in his/her life. i don't pretend to be perfect nor do i wanna be. oh, and yes, he took the bait.

You know, if you feel that you have to stoop to such trickery to find out of your SO is what they claim to be, it is time for a new SO.

Posted by dofacc
You know, if you feel that you have to stoop to such trickery to find out of your SO is what they claim to be, it is time for a new SO.

That's not necessarily true. Some people were insecure BEFORE the relationship even started. If a woman's natural insecurities caused her to create a fake profile, she's not the 1 who should be looking for a new s/o. It oughta be HIM! And especially if she never ends up finding anything that incriminates him.

Some people swear they're intuition is always "right" but then again if that were true, why do they continually test their own intuition by going all the way just to get proof? Almost like you're not just testing your partner, but also that you're questioning/doubting your own intuition too. Some people go all the way b/c they enjoy the adrenaline rush they get when they can give their own intuition a high-5 for being right.

krys, in relation to your other question on dxp right now about getting background/credit checks on a person....do you think there's really much of a difference between doing that and setting up a fake email? isn't all of it about finding out what your partner has/will do? and on that note, is wanting to know what your partner has/will done/do always considered "stooping to trickery"? any thoughts?

Posted by dofacc
You know, if you feel that you have to stoop to such trickery to find out of your SO is what they claim to be, it is time for a new SO.

i agree fully.

No trust in that situ, that is not a relationship. If it's based in unease, mistrust and misgiving prompting one to go into stealth mode and *in essence* lying, covering up like cat dirt, etc. it's not based in anything that will last.

Not necessarily setting your SO up for failure, but this thread immediately made me think of "Escape" (The Pina Colada Song)

No. I've never looked through his phone to snoop even though he doesn't care if I do. I've never browsed his social networking sites even though he's left them open before and doesn't care if I do. I've never tried to bait him, trick him, nor knowingly manipulate him. None of these things are my style even in my most insecure state (I have weak moments here and there; usually brought on by hormonal fluctuations).

OK, I did make up a fake persona to post an ad on Craigslist Missed Connections waaaay back when we were just becoming friends. It was a prank and not some kind of test though.

I am begianing to think that ELLE V/B and LLLTBL are the same person also Q TUBBY ASS and P angle are the same person.

Posted by txtbukariesgirl
krys, in relation to your other question on dxp right now about getting background/credit checks on a person....do you think there's really much of a difference between doing that and setting up a fake email? isn't all of it about finding out what your partner has/will do? and on that note, is wanting to know what your partner has/will done/do always considered "stooping to trickery"? any thoughts?

Well the difference in topics is that in 1 situation, ooutsiders (family/friends) are doing all the behind the scenes investigating whereas in this topic, it involves the actual person taking it among themselves. There is a diff. since you can't control what outsiders do behind your back, BUT you're right, it's all in all the same.

With the background/credit check topic, people may NOT feel that they are doing so out of insecurity b/c they justify that they have the right to know certain things (after all, a person with a horrible background/credit probably WON'T be honest with you about it). In this case, people don't feel as bad for "doing what they've gotta do" to get to the truth or "wait" on the truth to come out naturally.....

...Which I find funny considering I think it's just as important to make sure you're partner is trustworthy (since a liar/cheater is 99% NOT likely to admit it or voluntarily tell you either) even if that means you going to great lengths to find out.

What this all means is that any time you have to go outside of your partner's word to find answers to something involving your partner, that it's wrong or an act of insecurity. Hmm

Posted by james tate
I am begianing to think that ELLE V/B and LLLTBL are the same person also Q TUBBY ASS and P angle are the same person.

I think you need your eyes checked. *slapping back of head* And yes I used a step-stool. 😛

It has never even entered my mind but I tend not to be the jealous type.

Only once have I ever done something even remotely close, I checked a guy's cellphone. I just had a feeling and he kept saying I was crazy. I felt crazy. But when I checked, I was right. I was also devastated. But lesson learned. I felt crazy because I was listening to what he was saying not what he was doing. I was denying my intuition that was screaming WARNING!!! WARNING!!! DANGER!!!!

I now know to listen to what my body is telling me and to listen to what they are doing not just what they are saying.

But creating a fake profile, etc? Nah.

They should be slammed and also seek help. Insecurity is very serious. For someone to think about spying on their so called loved one means that they already lack the fundamental foundation of any relationship, which is TRUST. Without trust, there is no LOVE. If someone has trust issues they should leave the relationship at once and be alone until they manage to overcome their problem, period, and if the partner (victim) senses trust issues in his/her spouse, he/she should either send them to therapy or dump them. Basically if u feel the need to spy, or create fake profiles etc you shouldn't be in a relationship, and if u get caught spying you deserve all the harshness bestowed upon you for insecurity is no excuse!

Trying to justify what you did huh?

It was over even before it started. Goodbye!

My answer to this is *No* I would not do this.

Some women hire PI's and do things like creating a fake account, they follow them, recordings, check cell phone..Ok you caught him..now what? Are you ready to leave him? or are you ready to put up with whatever he is doing and just accept him that way? Alot of women put up a big argument and they expect the man to say *baby im sorry it meant nothing I love you I ill never do it again* She will cry a little and back to the relationship...you know this woman is not going to trust this man again..she will start to do everything all over again untill everything repeats itself. And again you make a fool of yourself. That is why my answer is NO. Now if i suspect my man of cheating I must think about what my plans are when i find out what I want.

If you are not planing on leaving your man don't go looking for what you are not ready to accept. If you suspect he is cheating confront him, tell him, communication is the key to every relationship, without it their is no such relationship. You need to trust and treat your partner how you would want to be treated.

I can honstly say that when I was married my husband used to get home and leave his cell phone and his wallet on his night table or on top of the kitchen counter and I never had the urge to search for anything, Maybe because he never acted like he was hidding something.

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Posted by james tate
I am begianing to think that ELLE V/B and LLLTBL are the same person also Q TUBBY ASS and P angle are the same person.

I think you need your eyes checked. *slapping back of head* And yes I used a step-stool. 😛

Good one. That smiling bull femme's all real. Yes....real...mmmmmm *munch munch

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You nomming mah butt? 😄

I CBA with all that shit, going thru someone else's phone, emails etc......flat out keeping up with my own!
If you want to sleep with other chicks, then just leave already.

And don't let the door hit you where the good Lord split you.

Interesting thread.

After breaking up with her first true love, my Aries best friend and I created fake profiles to see how sleazy he became. But then we got too bored being on the Internet and decided to go shopping. 😛

I would never do that. I would always confront my SO unless there was enough evidence, and then I would say bye. If he said he didn't do it, I would expect a lengthy explanation about the misunderstanding (like, "She's my cousin, I wanted to catch up, so I took her to get food.) I would generally give them the benefit of the doubt, however, I am pretty good at spotting suspicious behavior. I couldn't imagine having a relationship with anyone who wasn't open and honest. Also, I'm a very difficult person, so if my SO has stuck around, then that means he truly cares about me, so I don't see any reason to cheat on me or be easily guided towards other women.