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Destiny and relationships
I don't generally use certain terms for uncertain things like destiny, soulmates, etc. So if I were to say I 'know' that me and this person were not meant to be, that would mean I don't like that person all that much. And therefore, I wouldn't get into a relationship with them since I don't feel that strongly for them. However, if I did like them, I would try out the relationship. I mean, I wasn't too keen on dating my fiance in the beginning, but after spending some time with him, I came to enjoy so many things about him that I never expected. So, feelings change. And, if you do believe in 'the one', who's to say you'll even meet that person? But, if you're using it in a loose sense, meaning someone who simply fits you better than the person you're referencing, then no, I wouldn't date them.
While writing this, I got the feeling that all of this might sound way too confusing. Oops.
While writing this, I got the feeling that all of this might sound way too confusing. Oops.
Posted by busyeyes88You have retard stamped on your forehead, actually...
No.
I only enter relationships with "Forever" stamped on my forehead. The intention is is there although it never works out that way.
Taurus sun; venus in pisces ; Mars in Taurus ; leo moon
They just cannot satisfy the needs of my moon placement. The only whom I think will be eternally successful is the taurus sun; VIG; Mars in pisces ; sag moon 🙂
Posted by busyeyes88you have a lot of fixed qualities in your chart!
No.
I only enter relationships with "Forever" stamped on my forehead. The intention is is there although it never works out that way.
Taurus sun; venus in pisces ; Mars in Taurus ; leo moon
They just cannot satisfy the needs of my moon placement. The only whom I think will be eternally successful is the taurus sun; VIG; Mars in pisces ; sag moon 🙂
i am the same way. i have moon in taurus. This coupled with my scorp sun makes me want an all or nothing relationship.
That, plus i always want to dodge any type of failing or getting hurt. I say the same.
Looking back though, you see how you can learn a lot from these relationships that may be 'destined' to take you to that next stage. I just wouldn't willingly want to jump into something like that
Posted by Scenica little confusing haha. I guess you read more into it 😉
I don't generally use certain terms for uncertain things like destiny, soulmates, etc. So if I were to say I 'know' that me and this person were not meant to be, that would mean I don't like that person all that much. And therefore, I wouldn't get into a relationship with them since I don't feel that strongly for them. However, if I did like them, I would try out the relationship. I mean, I wasn't too keen on dating my fiance in the beginning, but after spending some time with him, I came to enjoy so many things about him that I never expected. So, feelings change. And, if you do believe in 'the one', who's to say you'll even meet that person? But, if you're using it in a loose sense, meaning someone who simply fits you better than the person you're referencing, then no, I wouldn't date them.
While writing this, I got the feeling that all of this might sound way too confusing. Oops.
this is all hypothetical perfect scenario as if you were totally into this person but just knew that they were not the one.
Posted by tizianiwell said. very true.
Sometimes people just need the relationship chemistry for what it brings to their life, without needing the actual people involved. It happens often.
that is just life. something that scares me, but looking back thats the only way we end up with the right person. the *growth* part.
Posted by aNEWdayThis is a good question. Yes. I'd enter the relationship, but with caution. I'd fully respect them, but I would understand that there was something that I was supposed to experience with them. One guy and I were the same exact age and from the same neighborhood. Yet, here we meet like 2 thousand miles away from home. We knew all of the same people, etc. Just never hit each others radar in school or living in the same city. While "with", I learned how to openly ask for help. That was a hard one for me and sometimes...not often, but every now and then I STILL struggle with that. Funny, because today my adult daughter just posted on FB that I'm the strongest and most independent woman she knows. Lol...anyways...I just learned how to trust the nurturing instincts in a good man. He was a pretty good guy, but at the end of the experience, he didn't know what to do with the fact that I showed up and he was tempted to derail his original plans. With him being on the fence, I decided to continue seeing other men or another guy in particular who was also sweet, but unattached. We discussed it and decided that it was a good thing for us to leave things open. At the end of the day...he really didn't want that, even though his being on the fence had to do with another woman that he admitted to stringing along, because she was the devoted type. So, at the end of the day, he wanted me to cut the other dude out, see him exclusively and have time to figure his stuff out. I wasn't going for it, because part of his issue is that he wanted to be exclusive, but depend on me to do what the devoted woman was willing. I wanted to do an exclusive but completely separate/independent with our own residence, resources, etc for a pretty lengthy time frame...like EXACTLY what I have with my Scorp. LOVE IT! So we parted ways. But I learned how to openly ask for help without feeling anxious about being rejected ir being told no.
Let's say you are attracted to someone and they were attracted to you (not in a relationship) but wondering about starting one with this person.
if you knew somehow for a fact that this person is not 'the one' (for example, you are 'destined' to meet them but not 'destined' to be with them forever) you will end up with for the rest of your life would you still start a romantic relationship with them? Why or why not?
Also, what is your sun sign?
Posted by aNEWdayHow would you k ow you are destined?
Let's say you are attracted to someone and they were attracted to you (not in a relationship) but wondering about starting one with this person.
if you knew somehow for a fact that this person is not 'the one' (for example, you are 'destined' to meet them but not 'destined' to be with them forever) you will end up with for the rest of your life would you still start a romantic relationship with them? Why or why not?
Also, what is your sun sign?
I'd do it. I've done it. No regrets.
If you're destined to meet them, then, you're meant to learn something from that relationship.
You can't find the right person (even later on) unless you find the right version of you to be with him/her.
Virgo Sun.
If you're destined to meet them, then, you're meant to learn something from that relationship.
You can't find the right person (even later on) unless you find the right version of you to be with him/her.
Virgo Sun.
Do you guys believe in the let him/ her go and if they return it was meant to be?
Posted by CoucouThis is it in a nutshell. BEAUTIFUL.
I'd do it. I've done it. No regrets.
If you're destined to meet them, then, you're meant to learn something from that relationship.
You can't find the right person (even later on) unless you find the right version of you to be with him/her.
Virgo Sun.
Posted by christinelovessnickersNot necessarily...hence me and the Cap. Maybe we are meant to be forever friends. I do notice that with each catch and release he becomes a better version of his former self and he says the same about me. So, whoever he's dealing with each time in between our get togethers has helped to soften him up SIGNIFICANTLY. The issue that I'm encountering, which is why I keep my distance (even if I wasn't in a relationship I wouldn't readily go to him)...he says that each time he gets softer, I'm who he imagines being with. I don't feel the same. Each time I become wiser and more partnership oriented, it's my current partner who I imagine myself with long term/forever. I morph while IN my relationship situation, not after. I honestly feel like the woman that I am and who I'm becoming is a perfect fit for my Scorp. He says that I'm his perfect version/vision of a partner. I'm slowly discovering how he's good for me.
Do you guys believe in the let him/ her go and if they return it was meant to be?
I reunited with the first Scorp after 2 years...after he disappeared on me. I needed the closer. I was able to hold him and look him in the face, verbally express my love and BOOM...the chapter was closed. Sometimes you reunite, because you have unfinished business. Then you can move on.
*closure, not closer. Lol
Posted by Coucou+1
I'd do it. I've done it. No regrets.
If you're destined to meet them, then, you're meant to learn something from that relationship.
You can't find the right person (even later on) unless you find the right version of you to be with him/her.
Virgo Sun.
Virgo Sun too.
Posted by busyeyes88i'm this way, i need a forever kind of guy too!!! luckily i got one. However the journey was hard for me in the beginning.
No.
I only enter relationships with "Forever" stamped on my forehead. The intention is is there although it never works out that way.
Taurus sun; venus in pisces ; Mars in Taurus ; leo moon
They just cannot satisfy the needs of my moon placement. The only whom I think will be eternally successful is the taurus sun; VIG; Mars in pisces ; sag moon 🙂
first husband, love at first sight. I only connect or be with someone if i feel he will be the one. and it's a FOREVER thing with me. I dreamed and dreamed my first husband was gonna be forever. My 2nd ex got with me after a rebound i realize and i didnt really like him but i was super impressed with his ambitions and i figured well, he's OPPOSITE of my first husband, has that drive and ambition to work a successful career. My ex huband had the drive but it was the drive and ambition for the WRONG things. so it went the wrong way. it was in him too. just went bad.
but i agree!!
youll get there, busy!!
no imma virgo with scorpio moon so its all or nothing, but im a hypocrite becuz commitment scares me
Posted by Coucouprobably the best and right answer to this question!
I'd do it. I've done it. No regrets.
If you're destined to meet them, then, you're meant to learn something from that relationship.
You can't find the right person (even later on) unless you find the right version of you to be with him/her.
Virgo Sun.
question.. as a virgo, do you find that you fall in and out of love easily?
Posted by FrostAndBitei hear you on the logical side. thats what my taurus moon does. keep my logic in check of my emotions .. its just opposite my scorp sun so i always feel so confused lol
Depending on where I was in my life, yeah I would.
When scorp and I broke up momentarily I was totally in a temporary mindset. I didn't really date but if we stayed broken up and I got to the point where I did, I probably would never have wanted or pursued a forever type commitment. I'd have taken a 'this relationship will be beautiful and run its course and then that's it' approach.
I have too much of a logical side though. I've had relationships in the past that had intense passion and heat and emotional bonding. But there were certain things that I always knew were too different between us to amount to anything long term and permanent. A part of me could never get past knowing that.
So many complexities are involved in making a long term relationship stick these days. Politics, social standing and family expectations don't hold together dead relationships anymore so you have to have the real thing to last.
Scorpio sun
Posted by lisabethur8in each of these relationships did you think the were 'the one'?Posted by busyeyes88i'm this way, i need a forever kind of guy too!!! luckily i got one. However the journey was hard for me in the beginning.
No.
I only enter relationships with "Forever" stamped on my forehead. The intention is is there although it never works out that way.
Taurus sun; venus in pisces ; Mars in Taurus ; leo moon
They just cannot satisfy the needs of my moon placement. The only whom I think will be eternally successful is the taurus sun; VIG; Mars in pisces ; sag moon 🙂
first husband, love at first sight. I only connect or be with someone if i feel he will be the one. and it's a FOREVER thing with me. I dreamed and dreamed my first husband was gonna be forever. My 2nd ex got with me after a rebound i realize and i didnt really like him but i was super impressed with his ambitions and i figured well, he's OPPOSITE of my first husband, has that drive and ambition to work a successful career. My ex huband had the drive but it was the drive and ambition for the WRONG things. so it went the wrong way. it was in him too. just went bad.
but i agree!!
youll get there, busy!!
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i ask, and may be silly, but its surprising how many people i meet who have a broken marriage or engagement and tell me they kind of knew they weren't the one. it just seems like such a waste of time to me, but i can only understand so much without being them
Posted by aNEWdayPosted by lisabethur8I was married and I remember on the wedding "God, she's gonna be broken when I divorce her". Why did I go thru with the wedding? We had a kid, I loved her but didn't think she was my soul mate. I wasn't intent on divorcing her but wasn't 100% sure it would be forever. We married young, grew up, grew apart, and then she left.
in each of these relationships did you think the were 'the one'?
i ask, and may be silly, but its surprising how many people i meet who have a broken marriage or engagement and tell me they kind of knew they weren't the one. it just seems like such a waste of time to me, but i can only understand so much without being themclick to expand
I did love her but I didn't feel she was my soul mate. I wasn't intent on marrying and then divorcing her but I willing to see how far it would go. Towards the end as she was falling out of love I was falling into a comfortable routine which I mistook for love. Things night have been diff if I knew what i know but oh well.
Posted by aNEWday🙂
probably the best and right answer to this question!
question.. as a virgo, do you find that you fall in and out of love easily?
I can't give you a direct answer to that question. I choose who I fall in love with, and I also choose if I want to stop loving them.
I love to love and to feel love, so I can choose to fall in love easily. It's a blessing to be able to feel in love.
If the love hurts me or is not worth it, then, I'll make a conscious decision to stop loving. There's better people to love.
Nope! Taurus sun Virgo moon here... And we don't do temporary.
Posted by CoucouVirgo moon here and I feel the same way...people wonder how I can turn so cold? If I give you my all and you still toying with it or unsure or give me partial? Eventually I'm gone. You may get chances cause after all I am a Taurus.... But if I'm done... I'll walk pass you like... Do I know you? ‚‚Posted by aNEWday🙂
probably the best and right answer to this question!
question.. as a virgo, do you find that you fall in and out of love easily?
I can't give you a direct answer to that question. I choose who I fall in love with, and I also choose if I want to stop loving them.
I love to love and to feel love, so I can choose to fall in love easily. It's a blessing to be able to feel in love.
If the love hurts me or is not worth it, then, I'll make a conscious decision to stop loving. There's better people to love.click to expand
Lol I'm a Taurus moon and I can do the same. It must be that plus my water placements that try to protect me from being hurt. It's just hard for me to just stop unless that person did something awful
"if you knew somehow for a fact that this person is not 'the one' (for example, you are 'destined' to meet them but not 'destined' to be with them forever)"
You mean if one of you is moving away in a couple of years? That's one of the most common reasons for having a FBW, instead of a "committed".
You mean if one of you is moving away in a couple of years? That's one of the most common reasons for having a FBW, instead of a "committed".
Posted by GobshiteI'd let you know when I'm in London.
It really depends on why that person isn't 'the one' (not that such a thing exists).
Life is all about trial and error, and each relationship (platonic, romantic or otherwise) should be seen a potential character-building exercise.
There's much to discover, about yourself, through your experiences with others.
Posted by aNEWdayHow exactly would you know that? If you truly have the ability to know this, your talents are being wasted on deciding what relationship to be in. Trust.
Let's say you are attracted to someone and they were attracted to you (not in a relationship) but wondering about starting one with this person.
if you knew somehow for a fact that this person is not 'the one' (for example, you are 'destined' to meet them but not 'destined' to be with them forever) you will end up with for the rest of your life would you still start a romantic relationship with them? Why or why not?
Also, what is your sun sign?
~signed not convinced you have the superpowers you speak of Scorpio Sun
PS I don't believe in destiny.
Posted by Gobshite+1
It really depends on why that person isn't 'the one' (not that such a thing exists).
Life is all about trial and error, and each relationship (platonic, romantic or otherwise) should be seen a potential character-building exercise.
There's much to discover, about yourself, through your experiences with others.
Yes I totally would. I have met people with whom I have felt a "soul connection" with and that I had a feeling I was supposed to meet for one reason or another. I let myself get attached if that's how things go, and I also let myself be hurt if I'm not able to stay attached for whatever reason. But I have always gotten a lot out of these relationships and the sex is usually pretty next level.
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Also, what is your sun sign?