Double Sided

I hate these things that I experience some times. Like, when I come across another man and there's just this... Energy! This urge to start talking. Can't help but smile at him. And he amiles back with the same kind of expression, a mutual connection he also feels. I mean, theseare great in their own beautiful, mysterious ways... But sometimes... You just can't let it happen. Can't talk with the intentions you feel is right. Because one of you is not available romantically. One of you is in a relationship. And in my face I love my boyfriend of 5 months very much despite our problems.
I know I can't be the only one who's ever experience this. Like at a store or on the street, or in a class like me. If I was single I wouldn't keep such a distance and just let it happen, let myself know more about him. I already know he has played sports in high school and that he enjoys creative writing which is a passion of mine. But I try not to know more. Beause everytime, often, when he turns to smile at me I feel happy and sad at once. He has seen me with my boyfriend; I make my relationship status as clear as I can to never attract others, and I made it clear to him too. So he keeps his distance too. But there's still that chemistry. We smile at each other. And when some thing funny happens we turn to look at each other as we laugh.

It's hard for me to know what to do because I love my boyfriend and don't want to loose him. I just can't imagine being without him. We share so much deepness. we know each others past and understand and share pain. He supports me like no other and will go to the edge of the universe just to keep me happy. He's proven me this through action, through all the little thugs he always has done.
This other guy, maybe I can just be his friend, but I don't see that possible. Just being in the same room as him makes me sad to not be able to have him. I can imagine being alone with him... I'd feel numb and guilty and not be able to look at him because of these mixed up emotions. I already know I'd walk away but I'd still feel sad, I'd still feel the urge to know him.

This has worked for me: Find a few things about your man that you feel NO ONE else can compare to. That way, even if you're standing face to face with someone else whom you're attracted to for whatever reason, you can always remind yourself that "He doesn't have what MY man has!"

That's why we're advised to only enter into relationships with someone whom we REALLY REALLY admire. It's not to say that temptation won't come around b/c oh it will! There's always gonna be another guy whose cuter, smarter, has a better body, is alot smoother, is alot sweeter or has more sex appeal; that's not going anywhere.

What separates the cheaters from those who don't cheat is in self-discipline. The attitude that you're grateful for what you've already got b/c you're very PROUD of what you've already got.

Who knows, some people stay loyal to their partners not b/c they love/like their partners THAT much but moreso b/c they cringe at the thought of being disloyal or taking the chance of losing a good thing. These people stick it out b/c they figure, "Hell, I'm here..might as well stick it out" & others really don't admire their partners as much as they thought they did until they encounter someone else who can take their breath away.

Sometimes noticing that another person can light a fire within you is a GOOD thing, especially for those in bad relationships. No, the grass is usually NOT greener on the other side, BUT if you're already in a bad relationship, sometimes seeing what's better out there helps you to remember what you deserve, especially if you're not being treated right in your current relationship

Posted by Let*It*Be
... If someone else is stirring your heart, it simply means you are not ready to settle with the one you are with. Something is missing. If you are truly in love with someone, NOONE can break that barrier and make you feel what you feel when this other gentleman is around. .

I disagree. Being in love with someone may spare you from acting on any admiration for another person, but it def. won't stop you from knowing OTHER good things when you see them. On 1 hand, you have to believe that your man is the best that it gets (otherwise, why are you with him if you don't believe so?) But on the other hand, you can't think that way b/c if a breakup were to ever happen, that's the same as saying that there's no other good "fish" in the sea. Other people don't stop being attractive just b/c you get into a relationship. You don't suddenly stop seeing good qualities in others just b/c you're taken. And you def. don't stop admiring certain qualities that you like about a person, just b/c you're taken.

However, I do agree that with you being so young, there's a good chance that you're experiencing that weird feeling you described simply b/c you may not have played the field/dated around enough. Sometimes we can be in such a hurry to find someone & settle down, that we forget to ask ourselves if we were truly ready to AND ok with just that 1 person forever! And if you ask yourself this question & can honestly say, "Idk" or "No" about being with that person forever, there's a good chance that other guys will probably catch your eye a little bit more vs. the person who would've said "yes" to that question