@Gemitati
11 Years25,000+ Posts
Ghosting or just busy
Ghosting is for awhile... 3 Days does not qualify. As I understand it, it is not responding not just not reaching out.
The Cap ghosted me twice and that was his way of breaking up because he wasn’t man enough to deal with problems. Could be woman enough for a female.
On a third time he dissapeared for good?
Idk care how busy I am.
If I like you, you will hear from me everyday.
You wont ever reach my voicemail.
3 days with no contact is inexcusable to me. 3 days of limited contact or one liners is inexcusable to me. 3 days of no response is inexcusable. Shit 3 hours of any of this will put you on my bad side and there is no turning back.
You're not only playing games with me, you're playing games with yourself. You're cheating YOU out of a confidante.
"People go through things"
And they have since beginning of time, but if you dont allow me into your world completely why would I take you serious. If you're trying to form a partnership, that means i see, feel, and am exposed to ALL parts of you.
Fool to think you are the only man who wants me. Why would you even want that much time to pass?
You should long for me. Like I long for you.
Complete immersion.
I can feel distance growing and I don't even have to be in your space. So 3 days is nothing more than confirmation that you are not ready for accountability or the responsibility of cradling my emotions and holding my emotions sacred.
Just as I have done to your emotions.
Idk care how busy I am.
If I like you, you will hear from me everyday.
You wont ever reach my voicemail.
3 days with no contact is inexcusable to me. 3 days of limited contact or one liners is inexcusable to me. 3 days of no response is inexcusable. Shit 3 hours of any of this will put you on my bad side and there is no turning back.
You're not only playing games with me, you're playing games with yourself. You're cheating YOU out of a confidante.
"People go through things"
And they have since beginning of time, but if you dont allow me into your world completely why would I take you serious. If you're trying to form a partnership, that means i see, feel, and am exposed to ALL parts of you.
Fool to think you are the only man who wants me. Why would you even want that much time to pass?
You should long for me. Like I long for you.
Complete immersion.
I can feel distance growing and I don't even have to be in your space. So 3 days is nothing more than confirmation that you are not ready for accountability or the responsibility of cradling my emotions and holding my emotions sacred.
Just as I have done to your emotions.
That was completely my opinion until few days ago when that post appeared and more than one person agreed on 3 weeks and 3 months...because life happens!
So I thought I was wrong?
I used to say - you get in a car. Take time to reach me. You shit every day? Reach me. Nobody is THAT busy. After all you going to bed - do you fall in bed and snore right away? So there is time to call. Text. Whatever...
Apparently not everyone is so sensitive and some people are THAT busy! Lol
I dont get down with the "I got busy" line.
Married people with kids find the time to cheat.
But we give single people a pass all the time.
Its nonsense.
You ain't to busy to
Eat
Drink
Sleep
Scroll Instagram
Scroll Facebook
Watch snapchat stories
Bingewatch Netflix
Wipe your ass with toilet paper, never too busy to do that
Just say you didnt want to be bothered.
Never wait by the phone.
Never wait for a text.
Give people the same energy they give you. They too busy, you get even busier.
The real ones will beat you in communication.
Not into texting or calling are excuses.
I hate talking on the phone or texting, but if I am interested in you, that hatred goes out the window. There is a desire to do all those things.
The definition depends on the person and their need for communication.
Some people be feeling salty if you don’t respond right away. They feel like your ghosting. I tend to think someone’s ghosting me after I reach out a number of times and it’s crickets on their end.
Number of times depends on the nature of our relationship.
Ghosting is for awhile... 3 Days does not qualify. As I understand it, it is not responding not just not reaching out.
The Cap ghosted me twice and that was his way of breaking up because he wasn’t man enough to deal with problems. Could be woman enough for a female.
On a third time he dissapeared for good?
Oh & btw first time was 3 months. Second time .. it’s been 5 months and I’ve moved on. Haven’t heard from him & hope I never do!
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how do you call it when he never reach out again, but watching your stories,commented (few times) and liking your posts in Social media. That was after i made a decisions and told him that we not communicate because I said im starting to fall and I think he is not that into me.
The definition depends on the person and their need for communication.
Some people be feeling salty if you don’t respond right away. They feel like your ghosting. I tend to think someone’s ghosting me after I reach out a number of times and it’s crickets on their end.
Number of times depends on the nature of our relationship.
What nature of relashionships will make you to accept ‘crickets’?
Not bf yet?
Bf but...busy?
Just met and hit it off but not responding 👀?
Dating but living separately and who knows where his ass is...? Maybe ‘busy’?
Ghosting is for awhile... 3 Days does not qualify. As I understand it, it is not responding not just not reaching out.
The Cap ghosted me twice and that was his way of breaking up because he wasn’t man enough to deal with problems. Could be woman enough for a female.
On a third time he dissapeared for good?
Oh & btw first time was 3 months. Second time .. it’s been 5 months and I’ve moved on. Haven’t heard from him & hope I never do!
how do you call it when he never reach out again, but watching your stories,commented (few times) and liking your posts in Social media. That was after i made a decisions and told him that we not communicate because I said im starting to fall and I think he is not that into me.
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What he said in return?
The definition depends on the person and their need for communication.
Some people be feeling salty if you don’t respond right away. They feel like your ghosting. I tend to think someone’s ghosting me after I reach out a number of times and it’s crickets on their end.
Number of times depends on the nature of our relationship.
What nature of relashionships will make you to accept ‘crickets’?
Not bf yet?
Bf but...busy?
Just met and hit it off but not responding 👀?
Dating but living separately and who knows where his ass is...? Maybe ‘busy’?
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A friend I've know for 10+ years...we don't need to call, text, hang out all the time. Life gets busy...I'm not gonna feel salty if they ghost now and then.
My SO needs to be available to me. We have agreed that bare minimum we see each other 1x+ per week to keep the good vibes strong. We text a few times every day. Prolly only talk on the phone a few times per week. It works for us. We are both running businesses and have active social lives with friends. Not being up each others butts 24/7 actually keeps things spicy. I'm shocked I haven't gotten bored which has been my m.o. in the past.
But if I'm dating someone new...no exclusivity terms just casual. I'll assume they aren't feeling it if they don't answer after a reach out 2-3 xs and I'll stop chasing. I'm not trying to force anyone...I'll keep it moving.
I dont get down with the "I got busy" line.
Married people with kids find the time to cheat.
But we give single people a pass all the time.
Its nonsense.
You ain't to busy to
Eat
Drink
Sleep
Scroll Instagram
Scroll Facebook
Watch snapchat stories
Bingewatch Netflix
Wipe your ass with toilet paper, never too busy to do that
Just say you didnt want to be bothered.
Never wait by the phone.
Never wait for a text.
Give people the same energy they give you. They too busy, you get even busier.
The real ones will beat you in communication.
Right!
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A few days ago someone said man ghosted her but then she said it was 3 days and some interesting conversation started where someone said that 3 days isn’t ghosting.
So does anyone care to discuss ‘ghosting’ vs being honestly busy vs leaving for good etc.
And NO! I had not been ghosted!
Just need something to do while I am losing my mind...