Venusinscorpio786
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Good places to find love
So, you work 6 days a week and the rest of the time you meet your friends here and there for dinner. When are you going to find time for this love? Don't want to be negative here, but I have got to say this, being a girl who have destroyed two relationships due to too much work.
For me, it has been mostly at school and at mutual interest events.
For me, it has been mostly at school and at mutual interest events.
Posted by HappyCapper
So, you work 6 days a week and the rest of the time you meet your friends here and there for dinner. When are you going to find time for this love? Don't want to be negative here, but I have got to say this, being a girl who have destroyed two relationships due to too much work.
For me, it has been mostly at school and at mutual interest events.
saturdays are just overtime so i could stop that, but what types of mutual interest events can i try? I am based in the UK and live in quite a rural area, someone at work to try salsa dancing but i cant imagine men (or at least the type of men i would go for, into salsa dancing). I attend the gym, i cant just start talking to someone like that. Do more people meet online nowadays, because when i am out and about i never meet someone or approached. I am not saying it in a big headed way like i epxect to get approached, no i dont at all. But many people from my work just think i must be picky and get talked to, but i never do. I am getting older and want to settle down and love someone. working sometimes makes the loneliness so away
yeah i did put all my pics up online so its not that.
Its not anonymity thats the issue, for me, its that i worry about honesty online. I take things very seriously and can get feelings and hope quickly, and once in the past i spoke to someone who lied about everything and was in a serious relationship. That made me sick, how could they lie so much, thats why i thought its nicer to just bump into someone and then from there, there is less chance of deceptioon and getting hurt.
Also even though ive joined in the social networks today, i dunno, i would like a man who doesnt really use internet so much and that can walk up to a woman he likes
Its not anonymity thats the issue, for me, its that i worry about honesty online. I take things very seriously and can get feelings and hope quickly, and once in the past i spoke to someone who lied about everything and was in a serious relationship. That made me sick, how could they lie so much, thats why i thought its nicer to just bump into someone and then from there, there is less chance of deceptioon and getting hurt.
Also even though ive joined in the social networks today, i dunno, i would like a man who doesnt really use internet so much and that can walk up to a woman he likes
Posted by GG
What you're seeking is seeking you. Be open to the possibility that it can happen any where.
Love Rumi! Yes i am very positive about it 🙂
I went to a class at the gym last night and this lady was around 50 and was talking about how she is so in love. She said it took her 50 years to find the love of her life, she was so happy and bouncing around like a child, shes from the UK and he is in Australia and there first date was in New York and she was telling me its like a dream come true and that after a year of being together she finally find peace in her heart and that she is moving out there. She said she was really unfit and big before 45 and so unhappy and even turned to alcohol before but her life completely changed when she found love. She was just so happy and i have seen her around before and she is very friendly and shes got an amazing body. Anyway the point of the story is that I am very hopeful because love can happen anywhere anytime with anyone at any age. I mentioned age because i want to have kids too so thats why i dont want delay starting a family. but im just trying to be in more places then my house and work lol and trying to find out where everyone elses love story began
Posted by DonJohnson
there are good people online.
your right i am sure there are.
The way i talk isnt good and i think it could put a man off. Like i get very serious and want to know too much and then i come across as too strong, thats why if they approach me in real life, i can then just reciprocate interest. whereas online, i just want to know everything and i read in this article that a woman shouldnt act so eager and curious but i cant help it, i am too direct.
I will try online but its just the whole talking and texting thing sparks my desire for information overload, and then by the time i learn enough, i am not even willing to meet up becuse the person has shown me holes in their story or discrepancies. Am i making sense? Like i get put off too easily becuse i can sense a lot, and also i put someone off because i am too intensE?
" 50 years to find the love of her life"
maybe Jupiter retrograde in her nata Chart?
maybe Jupiter retrograde in her nata Chart?
On-line dating works really well for a lot of people, I know that, but I have to admit that I never tried it. I'll give you some examples of where I met some people:
- Math class at the university(I know, romantic, huh?😉)
- My buddy when I got my divers certificate.
- Cardplay event.
- Creative writing class(uni)
- Screenwriting seminar
- Skiitrip
- Golf club
- By a pool table
When you are passionate about what you're doing, you are going to be even more attractive to your surroundings. And the more experiance you get in different fields, the easier it's going to be finding mutual interests and subjects to discuss, which means that you can relax and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Do things - have fun, broaden your horizon. You may find new interests AND love.🙂
- Math class at the university(I know, romantic, huh?😉)
- My buddy when I got my divers certificate.
- Cardplay event.
- Creative writing class(uni)
- Screenwriting seminar
- Skiitrip
- Golf club
- By a pool table
When you are passionate about what you're doing, you are going to be even more attractive to your surroundings. And the more experiance you get in different fields, the easier it's going to be finding mutual interests and subjects to discuss, which means that you can relax and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Do things - have fun, broaden your horizon. You may find new interests AND love.🙂
"cant imagine men (or at least the type of men i would go for, into salsa dancing). "
They come with their dancer friends and stay watching.
They come with their dancer friends and stay watching.
Posted by tiziani
Tried and tested are
1. Work place
2. Friends and family
3. Events
4. Internet
Online dating is still only in 4th place, creeping up there every day.
Workplace is a residential home for people with Autism, Aspergers etc which is pretty female dominated 😢
Family and friends - they are quite traditional and a lot of my friends are married, however i have now reconnected with some other friends on facebook, my best friend is single too
Events - yes im going to google some now
Internet - will try...
Thanks
Posted by HappyCapper
On-line dating works really well for a lot of people, I know that, but I have to admit that I never tried it. I'll give you some examples of where I met some people:
- Math class at the university(I know, romantic, huh?😉)
- My buddy when I got my divers certificate.
- Cardplay event.
- Creative writing class(uni)
- Screenwriting seminar
- Skiitrip
- Golf club
- By a pool table
When you are passionate about what you're doing, you are going to be even more attractive to your surroundings. And the more experiance you get in different fields, the easier it's going to be finding mutual interests and subjects to discuss, which means that you can relax and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Do things - have fun, broaden your horizon. You may find new interests AND love.🙂
This is really helpful. I just found this meeting up website online and there are different groups with particlar interests you can join so im going to sign up for these.
Your right about experience in different fields, i tend to stick to my own field and keep it clsoe to my career but other areas are defo worth looking at. Im a mars in sag so i love exploring and trying new things!
Posted by HappyCapper
On-line dating works really well for a lot of people, I know that, but I have to admit that I never tried it. I'll give you some examples of where I met some people:
- Math class at the university(I know, romantic, huh?😉)
- My buddy when I got my divers certificate.
- Cardplay event.
- Creative writing class(uni)
- Screenwriting seminar
- Skiitrip
- Golf club
- By a pool table
When you are passionate about what you're doing, you are going to be even more attractive to your surroundings. And the more experiance you get in different fields, the easier it's going to be finding mutual interests and subjects to discuss, which means that you can relax and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Do things - have fun, broaden your horizon. You may find new interests AND love.🙂
This is really helpful. I just found this meeting up website online and there are different groups with particlar interests you can join so im going to sign up for these.
Your right about experience in different fields, i tend to stick to my own field and keep it clsoe to my career but other areas are defo worth looking at. Im a mars in sag so i love exploring and trying new things!
Oh, I forgot the best way of all to find someone:
Tell yourself that you absolutely do NOT want to be in a relationship! Works every time. 😉
Tell yourself that you absolutely do NOT want to be in a relationship! Works every time. 😉
Posted by Venusinscorpio786Posted by HappyCapper
On-line dating works really well for a lot of people, I know that, but I have to admit that I never tried it. I'll give you some examples of where I met some people:
- Math class at the university(I know, romantic, huh?😉)
- My buddy when I got my divers certificate.
- Cardplay event.
- Creative writing class(uni)
- Screenwriting seminar
- Skiitrip
- Golf club
- By a pool table
When you are passionate about what you're doing, you are going to be even more attractive to your surroundings. And the more experiance you get in different fields, the easier it's going to be finding mutual interests and subjects to discuss, which means that you can relax and be the best version of yourself that you can be. Do things - have fun, broaden your horizon. You may find new interests AND love.🙂
This is really helpful. I just found this meeting up website online and there are different groups with particlar interests you can join so im going to sign up for these.
Your right about experience in different fields, i tend to stick to my own field and keep it clsoe to my career but other areas are defo worth looking at. Im a mars in sag so i love exploring and trying new things!click to expand
Venus in sag here - I hear you. 😄
Posted by GG
Also, a great point was brought up. It crossed my mind when i first saw your post but i didn't think it was my place to mention it.
You don't look approachable in your pics. That might just be how you take pics.
But smiling and keeping strong eye when you see a love interest is a good start. 🙂
You know my mum told me that, I need to stop posing and smile and look a bit more natural.
I have Lilth 0 degrees opposite my ascendant which ive been told also scares men away 😢
Thank you for your help btw
" laundromat"
I know a chinese female engineer and a german doctor in history who met there and married. They were at least 10 years married. First they lived together. Then for his work they had to live in a LDR. I haven't heard of them since 2007. And they had no children yet.
I know a chinese female engineer and a german doctor in history who met there and married. They were at least 10 years married. First they lived together. Then for his work they had to live in a LDR. I haven't heard of them since 2007. And they had no children yet.
Launderette's sound romantic
"online dating. So far, the guys are being too friendly, too quickly"
my prjudice against online dating: flattering, consuming, throwing away, ASAP.
my prjudice against online dating: flattering, consuming, throwing away, ASAP.
There's really no right or wrong place, when you consider that so many happy couples have met at a variety of different places ranging from a bar all the way to a Star Trek convention.
The key to finding a new flame is just to go out & live life. Go to places that you used to go to. Go to places that you've been wanting to go to, but never got around to it. Go to places where you can carry out your hobbies. Go out with your girlfriends. Get outside girl! And when you do, be happy & strut like hell! =)
The best way a man can find a woman is when she's out having fun, doing her own thing.
That way it'll be natural as opposed to you deliberately posting yourself inside of a building or on a website like a piece of bait lol
The key to finding a new flame is just to go out & live life. Go to places that you used to go to. Go to places that you've been wanting to go to, but never got around to it. Go to places where you can carry out your hobbies. Go out with your girlfriends. Get outside girl! And when you do, be happy & strut like hell! =)
The best way a man can find a woman is when she's out having fun, doing her own thing.
That way it'll be natural as opposed to you deliberately posting yourself inside of a building or on a website like a piece of bait lol
The reality is you can meet "Mr Right" anywhere at anytime. Volunteering, working, travelling, drinking, dancing, etc etc etc
The trick is finding Mr Right-For-RightNow.
Other then keeping that in my mind, I highly recommend online dating as it worked for myself personally and if you're willing to be a bit cutthroat about it you can really find a gem in previously uncharted territory that way 🙂
The trick is finding Mr Right-For-RightNow.
Other then keeping that in my mind, I highly recommend online dating as it worked for myself personally and if you're willing to be a bit cutthroat about it you can really find a gem in previously uncharted territory that way 🙂
Love finds you... Just relax
Let me tell you about online dating. It's so hard picking the bad fish from the good one..I have met all my infatuation partners on there...I am very cautious and skeptical. Because people lie all the time..it takes just the right type of questions to ween really quickly on to the next...I don't even give my number out until you have answered the need to know process that's why screening people online take 60 seconds or less to figure out if you want a date, friend, or fuck buddy, and last but not least lover you'd like to get to know better...but meaning people on the streets, or work, or school.takes longer along time ..
I've had the experience of meeting an Aries at work but just enough prodding he finally tells me he's married getting a divorce already and that they live in separate bedrooms.. smh. So he lied to get to know me no sex involved thank god..then once he told me I distanced myself and all of his coworkers notice a change in me.. wtf.. no one knows he's married but some knew that he had a gf or something like that but not me...
so see even in real life and the 8 months and counting of talking, getting to know each other. The little lies turned into a big thing..and it finally came out. I asked him why he said he liked me and he knew I would not be talking to him at all if he told me the truth. Only thing is no matter what how can I trust you now. And later in life.
So I learned just to be a friend towards co workers ...
so see even in real life and the 8 months and counting of talking, getting to know each other. The little lies turned into a big thing..and it finally came out. I asked him why he said he liked me and he knew I would not be talking to him at all if he told me the truth. Only thing is no matter what how can I trust you now. And later in life.
So I learned just to be a friend towards co workers ...
That's how Taurus move on quickly by the type of bullshit people do....then other people want to know why such high standards. That's a major reason why I like being single. No drama, bullshit, and no interrogating..keep it simple and honesty. And I admire you for it.
Posted by tiziani
Tried and tested are
1. Work place
2. Friends and family
3. Events
4. Internet
Online dating is still only in 4th place, creeping up there every day.
1. Um work? No thank you. I work in a boobie hatch and the staff isn't too far off crazy themselves.
2. Them niggas broke. I'll pass on being fixed up with Grady.
3. What events? I live in the Midwest, America. I could be surrounded by rednecks making stupid remarks. Been there got the t-shirt.
4. On 3 websites. Nada. I did meet an ex once online. It was enough to swear of Internet dating.
Posted by starloverPosted by aquapiscescusp
Love finds you... Just relax
*What is meant for you, will not pass you by*
re the online things...watch the tv show catfish....oh my 😱click to expand
Online is not the place for love...
I invested my ex for along time hoping that he would change his behavior. Hm did take my kindness for weakness..lol...moving on took me awhile sure but once I moved away and the situation.. I felt better and said that I would not deal with shit no longer. If its meant to be sure...if it's not no investment wasted just time and energy I could be doing something else.
When you stop waiting for it.
Not really. Lol
Posted by Kodak375Posted by DwellingOnMove
"cant imagine men (or at least the type of men i would go for, into salsa dancing). "
They come with their dancer friends and stay watching.
I salsa dance... Then again im latin so im good right? lolclick to expand
there are exceptioal multi-talented people of course. I think OP was about to say that's not macho for her if he dances. Or more women dance than men. Or she simply does not like male dancers as bf. IDK.
It was helpful to read all your feedback. So i joined this site called 'meetup' and joined some groups. So far I've received messages from guys who seem okayish and will be at some events that I have rsvp'd in two weeks but the content of the messages just makes me uninterested and whilst i am wanting to have an open mind, messages like:
'hello...
So its sunday morning and after my amazing smoked salmon and cavier for breakfast (i know i indulge too much) i stumbled across meetup events and saw that you joined...as i looked over at my balcony over looking canary wharf with a cigar i thought to message you'
basically he sounded so full of sht, like all he was indirectly mentioning was how rich he was and that he had a penthouse apartment in london blah blah blah
The nearest city from me is London so I guess there are quite a lot of these types of slick guys which really are not my cup of tea.
I will give it a go and still go to this event coming up but i truly feel like it will be a waste of time. But im starting to see a pattern, I find many guys nearby far too pretentious and I dunno, maybe i am being judgmental but i just turn off.
From joining facebook again i had a random request from this guy from Birmingham who had a mutual friend, he seemed more my type from his photos and statuses, like down to earth. I just accepted his reuqest and he has all these pictures with his son and girlfriend on holiday!! Why the hell did he add me then? I just removed him. for a split second i thought it was someone potentially to get to know.
these are the kind of experiences i have online. I know that meetup group website is face to face but you can message people in the group prior, and they all just look like city boys.
Maybe its me and im picky? Does anyone relate?
'hello...
So its sunday morning and after my amazing smoked salmon and cavier for breakfast (i know i indulge too much) i stumbled across meetup events and saw that you joined...as i looked over at my balcony over looking canary wharf with a cigar i thought to message you'
basically he sounded so full of sht, like all he was indirectly mentioning was how rich he was and that he had a penthouse apartment in london blah blah blah
The nearest city from me is London so I guess there are quite a lot of these types of slick guys which really are not my cup of tea.
I will give it a go and still go to this event coming up but i truly feel like it will be a waste of time. But im starting to see a pattern, I find many guys nearby far too pretentious and I dunno, maybe i am being judgmental but i just turn off.
From joining facebook again i had a random request from this guy from Birmingham who had a mutual friend, he seemed more my type from his photos and statuses, like down to earth. I just accepted his reuqest and he has all these pictures with his son and girlfriend on holiday!! Why the hell did he add me then? I just removed him. for a split second i thought it was someone potentially to get to know.
these are the kind of experiences i have online. I know that meetup group website is face to face but you can message people in the group prior, and they all just look like city boys.
Maybe its me and im picky? Does anyone relate?
@Kodak375
Phew! I think thats what i need to do is be prepared to continue to cut through these kinda people without feeling disheartened or thinking everyone is the same. In the past i did that a lot, im going to keep positive. If you are moving to a new city meetup is a really good way to meet people and there are so many various groups and things going on, you should share you expereince of it too, i will keep you guys posted.
@ladyofrebirth Its good to know its not just me and that others can relate. Its true that its easier to suss out online.
Its just a shame that people cant just stick to who there with rather than waste everyone else's time because their so insecure and desperate for attention or not got anything better to do than add women they dont even know while writing 'i love my son with a picture of a two year old' wtf lol
Phew! I think thats what i need to do is be prepared to continue to cut through these kinda people without feeling disheartened or thinking everyone is the same. In the past i did that a lot, im going to keep positive. If you are moving to a new city meetup is a really good way to meet people and there are so many various groups and things going on, you should share you expereince of it too, i will keep you guys posted.
@ladyofrebirth Its good to know its not just me and that others can relate. Its true that its easier to suss out online.
Its just a shame that people cant just stick to who there with rather than waste everyone else's time because their so insecure and desperate for attention or not got anything better to do than add women they dont even know while writing 'i love my son with a picture of a two year old' wtf lol
Personally, I never quite understood why it's bad to be picky when it comes to a life partner, and these guys seem to be practically waving red flags in their pics.
Better luck next time! 🙂
Better luck next time! 🙂
I'll tell you some good places to find love.
Things you'll need:
1) emotional availability
2) an open mind
3) great personality (funny, down to earth and smile more). Trust me, smiling more makes you look approachable. Frowning and bitch face does not come across as inviting;
4) if you're a shy person then you will
need to train your mind to think that you just want to be friends with whoever you meet.
Finding a proper guy on a website can be very tiresome and daunting because you'll encounter a) corny nonsense/people trying hard to be charming which amounts to pretentiousness; b) using fake pictures or more common is people using very old pictures of themselves when they were more youthful; c) the fact that it seems forced (like both parties will be asking questions which will feel forced)
The best way to meet people is just go out with the mindset that you want to make new friends with both men and women. You go in being yourself (feeling no pressure to impress) and get to know a person. That's more organic.
Go to a bookstore alone with the traits I mentioned above and people will either approach you or you can start a conversation.
Go to the bank and make friends with the tellers;
Go to grocery store with aforementioned traits and make conversation with anyone over something of interest (laundry detergents or raspberries)
The reason I tell you to make friends everywhere you go is because you never know where you're going to meet your guy.
The reason I tell you to make friends with both genders is because you never know if you will meet your guy through some woman you made friends with at a grocery store.
I can share success stories of my approach if you want 🙂 The best part is that it'll be natural, you have the person in front of you and you won't have to worry about being catfished and other nonsense 🙂
Things you'll need:
1) emotional availability
2) an open mind
3) great personality (funny, down to earth and smile more). Trust me, smiling more makes you look approachable. Frowning and bitch face does not come across as inviting;
4) if you're a shy person then you will
need to train your mind to think that you just want to be friends with whoever you meet.
Finding a proper guy on a website can be very tiresome and daunting because you'll encounter a) corny nonsense/people trying hard to be charming which amounts to pretentiousness; b) using fake pictures or more common is people using very old pictures of themselves when they were more youthful; c) the fact that it seems forced (like both parties will be asking questions which will feel forced)
The best way to meet people is just go out with the mindset that you want to make new friends with both men and women. You go in being yourself (feeling no pressure to impress) and get to know a person. That's more organic.
Go to a bookstore alone with the traits I mentioned above and people will either approach you or you can start a conversation.
Go to the bank and make friends with the tellers;
Go to grocery store with aforementioned traits and make conversation with anyone over something of interest (laundry detergents or raspberries)
The reason I tell you to make friends everywhere you go is because you never know where you're going to meet your guy.
The reason I tell you to make friends with both genders is because you never know if you will meet your guy through some woman you made friends with at a grocery store.
I can share success stories of my approach if you want 🙂 The best part is that it'll be natural, you have the person in front of you and you won't have to worry about being catfished and other nonsense 🙂
Met my bf through a mutual friend. Didn't expect anything out of it at first - thought he was attractive and enjoyed his company as he has a very captivating personality but pretty much friend zoned him right off the bat as I didn't think he would be good relationship material. Funny thing is he knew pretty much right when he met me that I would be his girl and he slowly worked his way in with me even though it took me a while to see him in a different light. As I got to know him, I realized there was this unspeakable connection. We really got along and I felt really comfortable around him as if we had known each other for ages. I ran our charts and our compatibility level is one I've never seen before. Love always comes to you when you're not looking for it 🙂
if you're single, all you have to do is smile. 😄
walk outside and go anywhere you want. That's all.
And be confident!!!
Be a DIVA. 😄
get your inner diva out.
walk outside and go anywhere you want. That's all.
And be confident!!!
Be a DIVA. 😄
get your inner diva out.
oh and if you get lots of men approaching you, you have to be selective.
cause there's some really gross ones out there.lol
cause there's some really gross ones out there.lol
Posted by lisabethur8
oh and if you get lots of men approaching you, you have to be selective.
cause there's some really gross ones out there.lol
Selective-- is key
Posted by Venusinscorpio786
For those in relationships, where did you meet your significant other? Some people have advised me that I need to put myself out there more, even online, Ive opens an instagram and just opened facebook again today after years of not using it to open up my social network a bit more.
But when your working 6 days a week, in my one day off, where do you meet guys? I meet with friends here and there for dinner and thats about it? I want to find love but not sure where.
Hi! I also very busy every day, so online dating ( Kovla for ex) is very suitable for me. Sometimes I meet with the guys during the lunch break at work..etc
The best place to find your love it's online datings ( https://mymagicbrides.com/ for ex). Here I met my russian girlfriend. And in general there a lot of hot girls!
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