How to balance work and personal life

So I feel like this may become an issue once I start working full time again. For some time I was out of job and my boyfriend really liked the existing schedule. However I can't be jobless too long and I have to take care of myself and my finances, after all this is my responsibility as a grown woman.. I've been actively looking for suitable job offers in my area, applied for several, went on an interview multiple times, as well today, applied for more after getting back home. But my boyfriend doesn't seem very fond of the idea. His concern is that job will interfere our schedule and it is going to mess up everything and he likes things the way it is. He fears I won't be able to see him that often and stay over during the week etc. I reassured him it won't be a problem at all and we can work thru it but this morning before an interview he sounded distant. He wished me a good luck but it felt sort of half ass, 3 words "okay good luck" like wtf . I was expecting him to be more supportive but I don't seem to get it. Interview went well and looks promising but it seems like that upset him, I can not stand his coldness. I just don't know how to balance everything, I don't even know why is he upset tho. Now it's been a few hours he hasn't been online and I left a message. Anyone out there that has gone thru the same?

You now know who to trust when your back is against is the wall

seriously, he's being very selfish, insecure and immature and what the actual fuck - he is controlling too - the end

Posted by Mesquite

No, I openly and loudly encourage my lady to do what makes her happy, but to adjust expectations accordingly when it comes to joint finances.

We don't have joint finances and he gets paid more than I have in the past, he wants to be able to fully support his family and I'm not against it but I need a job anyways, just to be busy, have my own income, so i can spend the way I want etc. We are not even engaged so I don't think joint finances are an option anyways. Also he's quite the complainer when it comes to unexpected expenses and I can't deal with that. Like for example he did something nice for me, or took me somewhere , it doesn't matter and he'd complain if he had to spend more than he was expecting. Like what's the point of taking me out if you are gonna complain and make me feel guilty.

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by Mesquite

No, I openly and loudly encourage my lady to do what makes her happy, but to adjust expectations accordingly when it comes to joint finances.

We don't have joint finances and he gets paid more than I have in the past, he wants to be able to fully support his family and I'm not against it but I need a job anyways, just to be busy, have my own income, so i can spend the way I want etc. We are not even engaged so I don't think joint finances are an option anyways. Also he's quite the complainer when it comes to unexpected expenses and I can't deal with that. Like for example he did something nice for me, or took me somewhere , it doesn't matter and he'd complain if he had to spend more than he was expecting. Like what's the point of taking me out if you are gonna complain and make me feel guilty.

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you aren't married and don't have joint finances so get a job you like and make your own money and have more equal power - he thinks what he's doing is a way to control everything but it doesn't work that way

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Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by Mesquite

No, I openly and loudly encourage my lady to do what makes her happy, but to adjust expectations accordingly when it comes to joint finances.

We don't have joint finances and he gets paid more than I have in the past, he wants to be able to fully support his family and I'm not against it but I need a job anyways, just to be busy, have my own income, so i can spend the way I want etc. We are not even engaged so I don't think joint finances are an option anyways. Also he's quite the complainer when it comes to unexpected expenses and I can't deal with that. Like for example he did something nice for me, or took me somewhere , it doesn't matter and he'd complain if he had to spend more than he was expecting. Like what's the point of taking me out if you are gonna complain and make me feel guilty.

you aren't married and don't have joint finances so get a job you like and make your own money and have more equal power - he thinks what he's doing is a way to control everything but it doesn't work that way

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Yes I know. That's what I'm doing

Thank you

Posted by SlipperySlope

Does he not have a favourite blanket or teddy bear he can snuggle while you're gone?

Once she gets her first paycheck she can buy him a body pillow

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Thank you

Well he does have some quirks but we will get thru this like before

The work/life balance is a struggle.

Took a literally car crash for me to slow down and carve out more ‘me’ time.

The gem also struggles with this and was trying to juggle work, school, his side hustle, me, and his daily commute. I had to stop myself from telling him to slow down cause I remembered doing the hard eye roll when people told me that. He ended up dropping school (which I totally co-sign) and getting a promotion and has been a lot more relaxed and present, mentally and physically.

Change is inevitable and you need a partner by your side who will roll with the punches and stay supportive. Hopefully he comes around once he sees you working isn’t taking away from the relationship.

I stayed home with our first child for a few years. As I went on occassional interviews and had job offers, he would say, "you're worth more money than that." That was his way of promoting me to continue to stay home. I say "promoting" me because he expressed his desires in a positive and appreciative manner. And, I could tell he enjoyed me staying home because hot breakfast, hot lunch delivered, dinner ready when he walked in the door.

I mean me, the dog, and our son would drive to deliver him a hot lunch, lol, with our dog staring out the rear window whinning as we left, LMAO... wholesome as fuck.

I went back to work a little while after our son started school (no daycare expenses). But, he was supporting me/us, we had combined funds, and budget.

He still did the, "that's not enough money, you're worth more than that," until I actually had an offer that he said was a good amount. I guess the job had to pay enough to make it worth his while to have me leave his side.

Posted by VenusAquarius

I stayed home with our first child for a few years. As I went on occassional interviews and had job offers, he would say, "you're worth more money than that." That was his way of promoting me to continue to stay home. I say "promoting" me because he expressed his desires in a positive and appreciative manner. And, I could tell he enjoyed me staying home because hot breakfast, hot lunch delivered, dinner ready when he walked in the door.

I mean me, the dog, and our son would drive to deliver him a hot lunch, lol, with our dog staring out the rear window whinning as we left, LMAO... wholesome as fuck.

I went back to work a little while after our son started school (no daycare expenses). But, he was supporting me/us, we had combined funds, and budget.

He still did the, "that's not enough money, you're worth more than that," until I actually had an offer that he said was a good amount. I guess the job had to pay enough to make it worth his while to have me leave his side.

That's a great story, glad it worked for you. I also cook a lot and have him spoiled lol . But on a serious note I dislike his attitude and the way he communicates. Has your man ever complained finances when it came to treating his lady??

Posted by pisceanloves

Posted by VenusAquarius

I stayed home with our first child for a few years. As I went on occassional interviews and had job offers, he would say, "you're worth more money than that." That was his way of promoting me to continue to stay home. I say "promoting" me because he expressed his desires in a positive and appreciative manner. And, I could tell he enjoyed me staying home because hot breakfast, hot lunch delivered, dinner ready when he walked in the door.

I mean me, the dog, and our son would drive to deliver him a hot lunch, lol, with our dog staring out the rear window whinning as we left, LMAO... wholesome as fuck.

I went back to work a little while after our son started school (no daycare expenses). But, he was supporting me/us, we had combined funds, and budget.

He still did the, "that's not enough money, you're worth more than that," until I actually had an offer that he said was a good amount. I guess the job had to pay enough to make it worth his while to have me leave his side.

That's a great story, glad it worked for you. I also cook a lot and have him spoiled lol . But on a serious note I dislike his attitude and the way he communicates. Has your man ever complained finances when it came to treating his lady??

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I dislike my husband's attitude sometimes. I definitely dislike the way he communicates. He has Mercury in Leo. It's difficult for him not to shoot flames from his mouth. He's an extremely emotional and quite passionate man that only reveals this side of himself to me. He started out quite introverted.

But, he's all rainbows and unicorns when it comes to money. I can do whatever I want. We have Sun Opposite Venus synastry in which we overindulge one another and it is quite difficult to tell one another no to pleasures and purchases. To make it worse, we both are Venus dominate with Venus #1.