people who have had successful long term relationships

What are the tips you would like to give to others who also want to have successful and happy long term relationships ?

Posted by anna1

What are the tips you would like to give to others who also want to have successful and happy long term relationships ?

Find someone you can have good conversations with and who truly listens to you.

Be prepared to work hard for your relationship every day and learn patience. There WILL be times which for a moment make you feel like throwing it all away. However all it takes is a cute gesture by one of you to break the bad energy and bring you back together, that's when you realize you really love your partner.

And probably the most important one: Keep it a priority to stay aware of your partner's true needs (and be with someone who cares about YOUR true needs too)

It's a dance, give and take keeping a sense of balance. Too much giving and you will resent your partner later. Too much taking and your partner will resent you later.

The rest is just about letting go and hoping for the best!

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom

Be prepared to work hard for your relationship every day and learn patience. There WILL be times which for a moment make you feel like throwing it all away. However all it takes is a cute gesture by one of you to break the bad energy and bring you back together, that's when you realize you really love your partner.

i second this.

It must go both ways. You must care about your partners needs and desires and they must care about yours.

You must be willing to work through the problems together, because there will be problems. Maybe not at first, but eventually. This is the one that dictates if you last.

My advice would be...

Spend as much time apart as possible

Familiarity breeds contempt

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

😀

The couple I admire that’s been together for decades upon decades gave this advice,... have fun.

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by tiziani

Posted by 7thHouse

Posted by tiziani

Posted by 7thHouse

Learn to be selfless. The relationship isn't just about how you feel. You gotta factor in how your partner feels as well. You wanna go drinking and come home drunk? Think of what your partner might feel about it. You wanna go partying all night long? Think of what your partner might feel about it. You're tired? Guess what, your partner is too. You had a bad day? Maybe your partner did too. Be considerate. It's not always about your own happiness. Because relationships take two to become successful

Is it not better to just ask them?

Of course you can ask! But sometimes some things come up and you have no opportunity to ask like an unplanned night out! So if that's the case, it's good to be considerate. It demonstrates respect as well.

I hear that. Makes sense.

I never used to do it with all my exes. But with my husband, when I met him I've been through it all that I think I've matured enough to not be selfish in relationships anymore. I realised it didn't have to be a power struggle. It used to be with other men hahaha lesson learnt lol

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So true. Didn’t have the best role models for relationships growing up. Was like living in an episode of Roseanne, everyone trying to one up the other. Took being with the Virgo to realize it’s not about winning every battle. Learning to work together is winning the war.

Good communication is key. Expresss how you feel with out blaming the other person.

Take care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually.

Be with someone who can make you laugh.

Be with someone who respects you and is willing to fight for you.

Don't keep score.

Compromise and communicate