I have a question considering setting up boundaries

So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

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So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

How do you protect yourself?

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Posted by bdzzbdzz
So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

How do you protect yourself?

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Like how do I protect my feelings? Or not been seen as a fool? Im not rlly sure I can explain this.. Its quite complicated and a strategic process for me so people getting close to my person sees that i cant be fooled, taken for granted or somekind.

So i guess thats what it is, the way we protect ourselves = setting limits, boundaries? Makes sense

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Posted by bdzzbdzz
So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

How do you protect yourself?

Like how do I protect my feelings? Or not been seen as a fool? Im not rlly sure I can explain this.. Its quite complicated and a strategic process for me so people getting close to my person sees that i cant be fooled, taken for granted or somekind.

So i guess thats what it is, the way we protect ourselves = setting limits, boundaries? Makes sense

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I don't mean you should or shouldn't. I just want to know how open are you in a new relationship. You mentioned you can't be taken for granted - why? Can't be made a fool? -why?

How do they know that. What do you do?

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Posted by Lunabee

Posted by bdzzbdzz
So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

How do you protect yourself?

Like how do I protect my feelings? Or not been seen as a fool? Im not rlly sure I can explain this.. Its quite complicated and a strategic process for me so people getting close to my person sees that i cant be fooled, taken for granted or somekind.

So i guess thats what it is, the way we protect ourselves = setting limits, boundaries? Makes sense

I don't mean you should or shouldn't. I just want to know how open are you in a new relationship. You mentioned you can't be taken for granted - why? Can't be made a fool? -why?

How do they know that. What do you do?

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Mmmm. As I said its not so easy to explain.

I litteraly just tried to explain how I kinda protect my self, put limits and was half way thru my explaination and deleted.. Felt like all i was saying made no sense. My mercury in scorpio makes it so hard for me to explain my self. (My next subject thread lol.)

Can you give me an exemple of how you set your boundaries?

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Posted by Lunabee

Posted by bdzzbdzz

Posted by Lunabee

Posted by bdzzbdzz
So Ive always heard people saying "you have to set boundaries from the beginning of a relationship with someone" "thats how things would work on your benefits and blabla" but ive never really knew the meaning of setting up boundaries..

Like what is it? What does it mean? Any exemples?

I probably set boundaries just naturally when developping a relationship but im not sure im aware of it.. since I dont know what it is all about!!

Help?

How do you protect yourself?

Like how do I protect my feelings? Or not been seen as a fool? Im not rlly sure I can explain this.. Its quite complicated and a strategic process for me so people getting close to my person sees that i cant be fooled, taken for granted or somekind.

So i guess thats what it is, the way we protect ourselves = setting limits, boundaries? Makes sense

I don't mean you should or shouldn't. I just want to know how open are you in a new relationship. You mentioned you can't be taken for granted - why? Can't be made a fool? -why?

How do they know that. What do you do?

Mmmm. As I said its not so easy to explain.

I litteraly just tried to explain how I kinda protect my self, put limits and was half way thru my explaination and deleted.. Felt like all i was saying made no sense. My mercury in scorpio makes it so hard for me to explain my self. (My next subject thread lol.)

Can you give me an exemple of how you set your boundaries?

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Most people give examples of their experience.

I don't protect myself well. I'm an open book, I trust face value not understanding the deeper workings.

Saying "no" when it's appropriate. Not tolerating shitty behavior toward you. Not coming across as a pushover with situations where you should be putting your foot down, etc.

"No" goes a long way.

I rhink I have a better understanding of it. Thank you