if you have more then 3 failed relationships.. (Page 2)

Posted by DAMEN VI

Posted by VirgoMerlot
That's a dumb thing to say.

Not counting my marriage, here's a rundown of my relationships since I was 25.

32 years old...Dated and got a place with a GF. She took the rent money and spent it on who knows what, but told me that the rent was paid. We got evicted because the rent hadn't been paid in 3 months. That lasted about a year. OVER!

30 years old, dated a girl who disappeared twice. She broke up with me, THEN tells me that she cheated on me, THEN stalks me. Restraining order. This lasted about 6 months. OVER!

29 years old...dated a girl who had just gotten out of a relationship that she wasn't over yet, but didn't realize it at the time. I ended it, but we still talk on Facebook from time to time. This lasted about 6 months.

27 years old, dated a girl who was clearly a rebound from my first marriage. She wasn't very bright, and I got bored, so I left her. Ok, I should have never dated this girl, so I guess I was the problem in this one. It lasted about 4 months.

25, I dated and married a gorgeous woman. A 9.5 on a scale of 1-10. Little did I know, she had a drug problem and hid it from me for 2 years. She went psycho on me, and ran me over with her car. Strangely, about a month later, I took her back...still unaware of the drugs. 3 months after that, she left me for a drug dealer. That is when I found out about the drugs.

So, with the exception of the rebound, how am I the problem?

seems like you like to save women that don't deserve to be saved..a "captain save-a-hoe" is what we call your kind (no offense)

those women you dealt with would be great to date & fool around with from time to time, but you can't build with those types of women, they only know how to destruct(i.e=self destruction)

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Virgomerlot - Do you have a Mars in Pisces—

Posted by bkbella86
^^^^^^ exactly my point! some people dont show thier true colors or intentions for a while....is that our fault too?

Get to know who they are before you get into a relationship with them.

My friend met a guy - within six months of meeting him, they are married. He's been married FOUR times already. I'm like WTF— Are you stupid? You can't get to KNOW him first? He still has women texting him because they don't know he got married. She made him change his cell number and delete his Facebook. Obviously, his true colors will come out eventually and it won't be fun helping her pick up the pieces.

Well, if you take the time and be honest and look at and analyze all the patterns you might find some patterns. I do agree that someone with a lot of failed relationships might be the problem. It is difficult to look at ourselves objectively and see our own negatives and positives.

I'm not counting short 2-6 month relationships (that's ruling out chemistry, ability to get along, learning the real them), I count the ones that last about a year or more, where you really get to know someone.

Every person and every relationship is different, but you have to admit the common denominator is you.

Do you fall in love too fast without getting to know someone? Are you choosing people that need fixing or rescuing thinking you can fix them? Are you controlling? Are you too needy/jealous/clingy/etc? Are those people con artists and players who are attracted to something in you that allows them to treat you a certain way (i.e. low self esteem/naive/etc)?

You don't have to post results here, obviously. Just look and be objective. Somewhere there will be pattern. And it's not always your "fault" per say, but there will be a pattern. Once you recognize that pattern, you can figure out what to do to change that pattern.

Posted by VirgoMerlot
The man with an 8 year on and off relationship calls ME pussywhipped. LOL

Posted by bkbella86

o your just an ass I see....good luck with that on and off thing...something I dont put up with btw....maybe I should lower my standards like you and your girl and then ill be in luck.

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i clearly stated that we were on and off from 01 to 05, ever since then, we've been together 8 yrs straight..now i see why you two make horrible decisions when it comes to relationships, because you both aren't good at paying attention to obvious details

@VirgoMerlot..congrats on the marriage thou, hopefully you've learned to recognize certain actions the women in your past have made,and know whether or not if your current wife shows any of those same traits

@bkbella..so we're lowering our standards because we BOTH choose not to get married at the moment? lol,that makes no sense at all..and if a man felt that you're truly worthy of you're own standards,then you wouldn't be single..so you're definitely lacking somewhere..

Posted by Chance11
good points, damen. I've thought this for awhile..sure, there are variables but the common denominator is the person in question. historically, I've noticed people are often fooled by a different scenario with a similar context..and the law of attraction continues to work against them.

I guess it's not too ironic that the ones that are the least accountable and look outward to the next person are the most susceptible.

C/S

Posted by truecap
Well, if you take the time and be honest and look at and analyze all the patterns you might find some patterns. I do agree that someone with a lot of failed relationships might be the problem. It is difficult to look at ourselves objectively and see our own negatives and positives.

I'm not counting short 2-6 month relationships (that's ruling out chemistry, ability to get along, learning the real them), I count the ones that last about a year or more, where you really get to know someone.

Every person and every relationship is different, but you have to admit the common denominator is you.

Do you fall in love too fast without getting to know someone? Are you choosing people that need fixing or rescuing thinking you can fix them? Are you controlling? Are you too needy/jealous/clingy/etc? Are those people con artists and players who are attracted to something in you that allows them to treat you a certain way (i.e. low self esteem/naive/etc)?

You don't have to post results here, obviously. Just look and be objective. Somewhere there will be pattern. And it's not always your "fault" per say, but there will be a pattern. Once you recognize that pattern, you can figure out what to do to change that pattern.

exactly

What an elitist. I knew a guy that was taking film and video classes, who after a segment of film critique all of a sudden thought he knew absolutely everything about movies. He told a friend of mine that because he liked the Transformers movies that he had bad taste in movies. Period. It was obviously something his teacher said, probably in jest, but this guy took it as literal. This guy also had all of the Transformers movies that were out at the time on DVD, but swore that he didn't like them, and only had them for his girlfriend's kid.

You remind me of him. An Absolutely judgmental know it all.

What was the point of this thread Damien....the real motive? You actually sound a bit bitter. Because someone who claims to be happy in their own relationship wouldn't really have time to come and insult people who don't.

I'm happy your happy....good for you. Don't wanna hear about you being a failure in the near future.

Posted by bkbella86
What was the point of this thread Damien....the real motive? You actually sound a bit bitter. Because someone who claims to be happy in their own relationship wouldn't really have time to come and insult people who don't.

I'm happy your happy....good for you. Don't wanna hear about you being a failure in the near future.

i was thinking about my cousin & how he's always choosing the wrong types of women to deal with..it makes me think that he actually wants drama in his life honestly

and i wasn't trying to insult anybody, but the truth hurts sometimes

Posted by VirgoMerlot
What an elitist. I knew a guy that was taking film and video classes, who after a segment of film critique all of a sudden thought he knew absolutely everything about movies. He told a friend of mine that because he liked the Transformers movies that he had bad taste in movies. Period. It was obviously something his teacher said, probably in jest, but this guy took it as literal. This guy also had all of the Transformers movies that were out at the time on DVD, but swore that he didn't like them, and only had them for his girlfriend's kid.

You remind me of him. An Absolutely judgmental know it all.

not even,im here to enlighten

So, virgomerlot? DO you have Mars in pisces? You didn't answer my question.

Posted by truecap
So, virgomerlot? DO you have Mars in pisces? You didn't answer my question.

I have no idea. I was born at 2:30 PM, on September 7, 1973 in Rockledge, FL. Do I? lol

and what does that mean if I do?

Posted by DAMEN VI

Posted by VirgoMerlot
What an elitist. I knew a guy that was taking film and video classes, who after a segment of film critique all of a sudden thought he knew absolutely everything about movies. He told a friend of mine that because he liked the Transformers movies that he had bad taste in movies. Period. It was obviously something his teacher said, probably in jest, but this guy took it as literal. This guy also had all of the Transformers movies that were out at the time on DVD, but swore that he didn't like them, and only had them for his girlfriend's kid.

You remind me of him. An Absolutely judgmental know it all.

not even,im here to enlighten

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You aren't enlightening anyone on this thread. All you are doing is telling people what you think is wrong with them, with no experience to back it up. I won't be replying to anymore of your posts on this thread. You are not listening to what people have to say, yet you continue to judge them anyway. Hope you have a nice life.

Posted by VirgoMerlot

Posted by truecap
So, virgomerlot? DO you have Mars in pisces? You didn't answer my question.

I have no idea. I was born at 2:30 PM, on September 7, 1973 in Rockledge, FL. Do I? lol

and what does that mean if I do?

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Yours is in Taurus. The reason I asked because Mars in pisces likes to take on people with problems, the damsels in distress, and likes to be the rescuer.

This is your chart (from cafeastrology.com):

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Virgo 14.59 Ascendant Sagittarius 20.56
Moon Capricorn 18.59 II Capricorn 23.31
Mercury Virgo 19.29 III Aquarius 29.12
Venus Libra 23.25 IV Aries 3.47
Mars Taurus 8.11 V Taurus 3.23
Jupiter Aquarius 2.59 R VI Taurus 28.18
Saturn Cancer 3.22 VII Gemini 20.56
Uranus Libra 21.05 VIII Cancer 23.31
Neptune Sagittarius 4.48 IX Leo 29.12
Pluto Libra 3.33 Midheaven Libra 3.47
Lilith Capricorn 2.34 XI Scorpio 3.23
Asc node Capricorn 4.53 XII Scorpio 28.18

Posted by VirgoMerlot

Posted by DAMEN VI

Posted by VirgoMerlot
What an elitist. I knew a guy that was taking film and video classes, who after a segment of film critique all of a sudden thought he knew absolutely everything about movies. He told a friend of mine that because he liked the Transformers movies that he had bad taste in movies. Period. It was obviously something his teacher said, probably in jest, but this guy took it as literal. This guy also had all of the Transformers movies that were out at the time on DVD, but swore that he didn't like them, and only had them for his girlfriend's kid.

You remind me of him. An Absolutely judgmental know it all.

not even,im here to enlighten

You aren't enlightening anyone on this thread. All you are doing is telling people what you think is wrong with them, with no experience to back it up. I won't be replying to anymore of your posts on this thread. You are not listening to what people have to say, yet you continue to judge them anyway. Hope you have a nice life.

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Lol quit acting like a lil faggot & man up in life..your last post came off real soft and feminine

Damen, we both have pistols in our avatars! hee! hee! 🙂

Posted by truecap

Posted by VirgoMerlot

Posted by truecap
So, virgomerlot? DO you have Mars in pisces? You didn't answer my question.

I have no idea. I was born at 2:30 PM, on September 7, 1973 in Rockledge, FL. Do I? lol

and what does that mean if I do?

Yours is in Taurus. The reason I asked because Mars in pisces likes to take on people with problems, the damsels in distress, and likes to be the rescuer.

This is your chart (from cafeastrology.com):

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Virgo 14.59 Ascendant Sagittarius 20.56
Moon Capricorn 18.59 II Capricorn 23.31
Mercury Virgo 19.29 III Aquarius 29.12
Venus Libra 23.25 IV Aries 3.47
Mars Taurus 8.11 V Taurus 3.23
Jupiter Aquarius 2.59 R VI Taurus 28.18
Saturn Cancer 3.22 VII Gemini 20.56
Uranus Libra 21.05 VIII Cancer 23.31
Neptune Sagittarius 4.48 IX Leo 29.12
Pluto Libra 3.33 Midheaven Libra 3.47
Lilith Capricorn 2.34 XI Scorpio 3.23
Asc node Capricorn 4.53 XII Scorpio 28.18

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I have no idea what any of that stuff means. lol I don't go looking for the damsel in distress. In fact, if a woman has too much drama going on, I will usually back away.

Relationships are complicated. There's no one size fits all remedy but I see what you are saying. Everyone should self reflect after failed relationships and honestly admit where they could have contributed to the downfall.