Incompatibility

Do you think it's possible that in an initial dating phase, one person can feel a disconnect/compatibility issue and the other be totally unaware?

What I said! After dating casually the last couple of months, I can see that we're not compatible enough but I don't know if he feels the same. I'm seeing him tomorrow..I'm going to bring it up.

I need to be brave and confront the issue. I hope he will not be angry or offended.

Yeah, like I say..it's initial stages but I just feel like couldn't really care less one way or the other. He says otherwise...but I'm going with my gut and by his actions.

Posted by Koni

Sure. Lot's of people are completely clueless

The story of my life. Just because I date you dosent mean I want a marriage. If the compatibility isn't there then I continue on a FWB trial basis.

Yeah..but I don't want the FWB situationship. It's more than that right now, but there's definitely a vibe that's not right/natural.

OP,

What is the compatibility issue here?

You date someone in order to see if you are compatible with them. The issue you see may not be what the other sees. You are two individuals trying to blend together. You will have different criteria and expectations, wants and needs, you will have things you are and are not willing to compromise on and other things will simply not be important.

The clue is in the name. Compatibility.

Mostly I feel like he doesn't value my time, and one of the things I said from the start is that I hate anyone trying to waste it. He's late every time we meet, he changes plans at the last minute and these things might be petty to some people, but to me it shows lack of respect. I don't wait around, that's not the point.

I think there might be someone else on the scene..not that he's necessarily seeing, but in communication with. He's just feeling really shady, I need to see him and tell him. I don't think texting it is a good idea. That's the other thing, he's definitely colder in his communication now.

Posted by Manana

Mostly I feel like he doesn't value my time, and one of the things I said from the start is that I hate anyone trying to waste it. He's late every time we meet, he changes plans at the last minute and these things might be petty to some people, but to me it shows lack of respect. I don't wait around, that's not the point.

I think there might be someone else on the scene..not that he's necessarily seeing, but in communication with. He's just feeling really shady, I need to see him and tell him. I don't think texting it is a good idea. That's the other thing, he's definitely colder in his communication now.

Your post said it’s time for changes!

Good luck girl!

I'm so nervous 😐

I ended it tonight anyway. He wasn't bothered and I'm going to sleep so well tonight with it off my chest.