Or just attraction and friendship and intimacy are enough? Let's talk about it.
Is falling in love the main reason that leads you to a relationship?
Love from the first sight. Always!
I actually didn’t get the question...you mean you have a friend. How can you get into relashionships if conditions haven’t changed and you haven’t fell in love?
Otherwise it’s fwb.
I actually didn’t get the question...you mean you have a friend. How can you get into relashionships if conditions haven’t changed and you haven’t fell in love?
Otherwise it’s fwb.
Posted by GemitatiYou are right.... I guess I have been a bit confused on the situation
Love from the first sight. Always!
I actually didn’t get the question...you mean you have a friend. How can you get into relashionships if conditions haven’t changed and you haven’t fell in love?
Otherwise it’s fwb.
So OK if you are not in love and therefore not in a relationship.... What about sex.... I am not really a fan of one night stands :/
Posted by nothankuHaha that's what happens usually... But is it that he doesn't like you or that he is acting more normal and with less enthusiasm cause you are together now?
Because now its like he doesnt like me and now i’m head over heals for him and its just not fair
Posted by FieryOceanaYou are master of confusion!!! LolPosted by GemitatiYou are right.... I guess I have been a bit confused on the situation
Love from the first sight. Always!
I actually didn’t get the question...you mean you have a friend. How can you get into relashionships if conditions haven’t changed and you haven’t fell in love?
Otherwise it’s fwb.
So OK if you are not in love and therefore not in a relationship.... What about sex.... I am not really a fan of one night stands :/click to expand
What ABOUT sex?
I think you are clearly talking about fwb.
Do you?
Posted by GemitatiI am an absolute master of confusion haha especially in relationships....Posted by FieryOceanaYou are master of confusion!!! LolPosted by GemitatiYou are right.... I guess I have been a bit confused on the situation
Love from the first sight. Always!
I actually didn’t get the question...you mean you have a friend. How can you get into relashionships if conditions haven’t changed and you haven’t fell in love?
Otherwise it’s fwb.
So OK if you are not in love and therefore not in a relationship.... What about sex.... I am not really a fan of one night stands :/
What ABOUT sex?
I think you are clearly talking about fwb.
Do you?click to expand
It seems I talk about fwb but I wasn't really prepared to jump into this..... I am in the border of trying that cause waiting to fall in love doesn't really help and I begin to get bored..
Posted by clownloyalHow soon does that happen and what is your sun sign.
I wouldn't commit if there wasn't love
Posted by FieryOceanaOk love...if you going to think about it like that - you’ll lose your mind!
Falling in love is caused by sexual attraction so...
But I mean its frustrating you need to wait until you fall in love.... And the other person to feel the same towards you and the feeling passes by after some time ahh
Can you summarize your issue?
I happen to understand perfectly this post and what you saying.
Basically you are very sexual human being and you want sex on a regular basis but you aren’t meeting right man...right?
Posted by LadyNeptuneFor clueless...it happens immediately...following by sex...room service...then formal introduction might follow...Posted by clownloyalHow soon does that happen and what is your sun sign.
I wouldn't commit if there wasn't loveclick to expand
Posted by GemitatiI’m asking her, not you.Posted by LadyNeptuneFor clueless...it happens immediately...following by sex...room service...then formal introduction might follow...Posted by clownloyalHow soon does that happen and what is your sun sign.
I wouldn't commit if there wasn't loveclick to expand
I already know you love to fuck dudes without knowing their name.
Posted by LadyNeptuneIt seams you getting use to it and that doesn’t make you to bang your head against that wooden table...👍Posted by GemitatiI’m asking her, not you.Posted by LadyNeptuneFor clueless...it happens immediately...following by sex...room service...then formal introduction might follow...Posted by clownloyalHow soon does that happen and what is your sun sign.
I wouldn't commit if there wasn't love
I already know you love to fuck dudes without knowing their name.click to expand
Posted by FieryOceanaIf I see long term potential then I’m up for a relationship.
Or just attraction and friendship and intimacy are enough? Let's talk about it.
Posted by oxSunQueenxoThanks for the answer.... With the first boyfriend I was too immature so looking back it was actually all about affirmation for me at least and less about anything else from my side... And of course I felt the way a person being in love feels but then he told me straight he wasn't in love with me so it all broke down.Posted by FieryOceanaIt is never a good idea to try to be exclusive with someone if the feelings are not mutual. Have you ever had an actual romantic relationship where the feelings were mutual?Posted by oxSunQueenxoWell I would love to mention it cause I have been a bit frustrated on the whole relationships field lately.
OP, what is the situation you're referring to? Can you explain what had been happening to cause you to pose this question?
I am 20 currently and I have been in love lf that was love just once and I got together with that person even though he wasn't in love with me but he liked me a lot...... Didnt last a lot of course
Have had some crushes here and there
So now I really want to be in a relationship and have a boyfriend and I keep meeting people that I don't want to commit to.... And I see that I have no power over this..... And it frustrates me.... So thats why I ask if in your experience falling in love is prerequisite.... Cause as it seems in my experience it was too :p
It is also best to avoid wanting to be in a relationship for the sake of being tied to someone exclusively. The more you desire to have a relationship (especially when you want to have one with a specific person), the less likely it will happen. The strongest relationships form and grow when neither party is particularly inclined to have a s/o. When you have a desire to be in a relationship, you start molding yourself to fit into anyone's idealized image of you in order to make yourself a candidate as a romantic partner, and that gives for artificial attraction, which in the long run would not work out for either person involved.
Wanting a relationship also indicates that you don't want to be alone. It may be uncomfortable for you. However, a person would only ever really be ready to be in a relationship with someone if they are comfortable being by themselves first. If someone goes into a relationship without first being independent, they latch onto their partner, clinging on and doing anything to make the partner stay with them. That is also unhealthy.
But I got sidetracked... The short answer to your question would be that it depends on the people involved.click to expand
Anyway.... Other than that I agree with what you say absolutely.... Bottomline It's more of a sex thing than a relationship as I realise myself
Posted by oxSunQueenxoWasn't meant to be one but it is nowPosted by FieryOceanaSo this is a FWB situation you're making the thread about?Posted by oxSunQueenxoThanks for the answer.... With the first boyfriend I was too immature so looking back it was actually all about affirmation for me at least and less about anything else from my side... And of course I felt the way a person being in love feels but then he told me straight he wasn't in love with me so it all broke down.Posted by FieryOceanaIt is never a good idea to try to be exclusive with someone if the feelings are not mutual. Have you ever had an actual romantic relationship where the feelings were mutual?Posted by oxSunQueenxoWell I would love to mention it cause I have been a bit frustrated on the whole relationships field lately.
OP, what is the situation you're referring to? Can you explain what had been happening to cause you to pose this question?
I am 20 currently and I have been in love lf that was love just once and I got together with that person even though he wasn't in love with me but he liked me a lot...... Didnt last a lot of course
Have had some crushes here and there
So now I really want to be in a relationship and have a boyfriend and I keep meeting people that I don't want to commit to.... And I see that I have no power over this..... And it frustrates me.... So thats why I ask if in your experience falling in love is prerequisite.... Cause as it seems in my experience it was too :p
It is also best to avoid wanting to be in a relationship for the sake of being tied to someone exclusively. The more you desire to have a relationship (especially when you want to have one with a specific person), the less likely it will happen. The strongest relationships form and grow when neither party is particularly inclined to have a s/o. When you have a desire to be in a relationship, you start molding yourself to fit into anyone's idealized image of you in order to make yourself a candidate as a romantic partner, and that gives for artificial attraction, which in the long run would not work out for either person involved.
Wanting a relationship also indicates that you don't want to be alone. It may be uncomfortable for you. However, a person would only ever really be ready to be in a relationship with someone if they are comfortable being by themselves first. If someone goes into a relationship without first being independent, they latch onto their partner, clinging on and doing anything to make the partner stay with them. That is also unhealthy.
But I got sidetracked... The short answer to your question would be that it depends on the people involved.
Anyway.... Other than that I agree with what you say absolutely.... Bottomline It's more of a sex thing than a relationship as I realise myselfclick to expand
You can read what I answered to Gemitati above and get a better clue on the situation 🙂
first a common ground needs to be established, ideally through friendship. To commit to a romantic relationship, I need physical attraction, mental stimulation and sexual chemistry.
For me love definitely isn't the main factor in a relationship.
I have to feel connected to a person for it to progress anywhere beyond aquaintance. And connection doesn't equate love in my mind.
I have to feel connected to a person for it to progress anywhere beyond aquaintance. And connection doesn't equate love in my mind.
Posted by oxSunQueenxoSo education is a deal breaker for you?Posted by nothankuEvery way? No one will ever be able to please 100% .
With my current cap I really wanted to establish a friendship before we got together but he just wanted to be with me and kept insisting when I gave in. I think its important to make sure you like the person in every way before you get into a relationship
But I do think fundamental requirements have to be met before you give in and release your emotions. There is no way, for example, that I would ever fall in love with a man who doesn't at least have a bachelor's degree.click to expand
I can fall in love with anyone. It’s about how they make me feel not about what they have or how good they are.
Posted by CheesecakeI agree with you... Our culture worldwide is passing messages that falling in love is the ultimate thing and then young people try to find their way out..... of something they can't control........
Honestly, people who are obsessed with love kind of making me sick, and for the record, the sausage-to-bun ratio in this place is messed up.
I'm not a big fan of romance either, but I feel deficient in that respect, rather than it being another Disney propaganda B.S.
When I get married, I want to do it the same way my grandfather did. Just pick a nice girl, treat her right and stop being an asshole.
Anything else is extra, and wasteful.
Posted by oxSunQueenxoNo totally agree with you but I know what you mean.Posted by pisceswoman123Among other dealbreakers, yes.Posted by oxSunQueenxoSo education is a deal breaker for you?Posted by nothankuEvery way? No one will ever be able ito please 100% .
With my current cap I really wanted to establish a friendship before we got together but he just wanted to be with me and kept insisting when I gave in. I think its important to make sure you like the person in every way before you get into a relationship
But I do think fundamental requirements have to be met before you give in and release your emotions. There is no way, for example, that I would ever fall in love with a man who doesn't at least have a bachelor's degree.
I can fall in love with anyone. It’s about how they make me feel not about what they have or how good they are.
I like to talk. I want to be able to communicate about world affairs, my career path, his career path, politics, etc. And in this day and age, a college degree is required for anyone to have any sort of chance at getting a stable job that pays well enough to sustain a person.click to expand
I know people with out a degree that they are very clever and earn lots of money. So for me it’s more about the connection than about who they are.
Posted by oxSunQueenxoPosted by pisceswoman123Of course, there are exceptions to everything. And my Leo Sun really loves putting on the rose-tinted sunglasses and pardoning prospective s/o's of their shortcomings... 😑Posted by oxSunQueenxoNo totally agree with you but I know what you mean.Posted by pisceswoman123Among other dealbreakers, yes.Posted by oxSunQueenxoSo education is a deal breaker for you?Posted by nothankuEvery way? No one will ever be able ito please 100% .
With my current cap I really wanted to establish a friendship before we got together but he just wanted to be with me and kept insisting when I gave in. I think its important to make sure you like the person in every way before you get into a relationship
But I do think fundamental requirements have to be met before you give in and release your emotions. There is no way, for example, that I would ever fall in love with a man who doesn't at least have a bachelor's degree.
I can fall in love with anyone. It’s about how they make me feel not about what they have or how good they are.
I like to talk. I want to be able to communicate about world affairs, my career path, his career path, politics, etc. And in this day and age, a college degree is required for anyone to have any sort of chance at getting a stable job that pays well enough to sustain a person.
I know people with out a degree that they are very clever and earn lots of money. So for me it’s more about the connection than about who they are.
click to expand
😄 Don’t get me wrong. I was just surprised at how clear you were about that requisite.
I have never planned in that sense.
If I fall in love I fall in love and we will make it kind of attitude.
Posted by oxSunQueenxoI think I am very picky too. They have to fit exactly to my mold, but my mold it’s always changing.Posted by pisceswoman123I am extremely (usually overly) picky about who I date... But then the rose-tinted sunglasses come on and I ignore the flaws until they become too apparent for me to continue ignoring. And then I split and get upset. 😒Posted by oxSunQueenxoPosted by pisceswoman123Of course, there are exceptions to everything. And my Leo Sun really loves putting on the rose-tinted sunglasses and pardoning prospective s/o's of their shortcomings... 😑Posted by oxSunQueenxoNo totally agree with you but I know what you mean.Posted by pisceswoman123Among other dealbreakers, yes.Posted by oxSunQueenxoSo education is a deal breaker for you?Posted by nothankuEvery way? No one will ever be able ito please 100% .
With my current cap I really wanted to establish a friendship before we got together but he just wanted to be with me and kept insisting when I gave in. I think its important to make sure you like the person in every way before you get into a relationship
But I do think fundamental requirements have to be met before you give in and release your emotions. There is no way, for example, that I would ever fall in love with a man who doesn't at least have a bachelor's degree.
I can fall in love with anyone. It’s about how they make me feel not about what they have or how good they are.
I like to talk. I want to be able to communicate about world affairs, my career path, his career path, politics, etc. And in this day and age, a college degree is required for anyone to have any sort of chance at getting a stable job that pays well enough to sustain a person.
I know people with out a degree that they are very clever and earn lots of money. So for me it’s more about the connection than about who they are.
😄 Don’t get me wrong. I was just surprised at how clear you were about that requisite.
I have never planned in that sense.
If I fall in love I fall in love and we will make it kind of attitude.
I am trying to stick to my picky side... Without being overly selective.click to expand
But something that is always the same it’s I always fall for the guy that all other women think is the best.
Yes absolutely
Posted by oxSunQueenxoPosted by pisceswoman123In what ways has your mold changed?Posted by oxSunQueenxoI think I am very picky too. They have to fit exactly to my mold, but my mold it’s always changing.Posted by pisceswoman123I am extremely (usually overly) picky about who I date... But then the rose-tinted sunglasses come on and I ignore the flaws until they become too apparent for me to continue ignoring. And then I split and get upset. 😒Posted by oxSunQueenxoPosted by pisceswoman123Of course, there are exceptions to everything. And my Leo Sun really loves putting on the rose-tinted sunglasses and pardoning prospective s/o's of their shortcomings... 😑Posted by oxSunQueenxoNo totally agree with you but I know what you mean.Posted by pisceswoman123Among other dealbreakers, yes.Posted by oxSunQueenxoSo education is a deal breaker for you?Posted by nothankuEvery way? No one will ever be able ito please 100% .
With my current cap I really wanted to establish a friendship before we got together but he just wanted to be with me and kept insisting when I gave in. I think its important to make sure you like the person in every way before you get into a relationship
But I do think fundamental requirements have to be met before you give in and release your emotions. There is no way, for example, that I would ever fall in love with a man who doesn't at least have a bachelor's degree.
I can fall in love with anyone. It’s about how they make me feel not about what they have or how good they are.
I like to talk. I want to be able to communicate about world affairs, my career path, his career path, politics, etc. And in this day and age, a college degree is required for anyone to have any sort of chance at getting a stable job that pays well enough to sustain a person.
I know people with out a degree that they are very clever and earn lots of money. So for me it’s more about the connection than about who they are.
😄 Don’t get me wrong. I was just surprised at how clear you were about that requisite.
I have never planned in that sense.
If I fall in love I fall in love and we will make it kind of attitude.
I am trying to stick to my picky side... Without being overly selective.
But something that is always the same it’s I always fall for the guy that all other women think is the best.click to expand
Meaning that they are always different. Not set rules. More like I meet them and I am. Yes, this is the one I want 😄 And they are completely different from each other.
Posted by GemitatiDon’t worry. A ho’s shameless behavior never makes me want to self-harm.Posted by LadyNeptuneIt seams you getting use to it and that doesn’t make you to bang your head against that wooden table...👍Posted by GemitatiI’m asking her, not you.Posted by LadyNeptuneFor clueless...it happens immediately...following by sex...room service...then formal introduction might follow...Posted by clownloyalHow soon does that happen and what is your sun sign.
I wouldn't commit if there wasn't love
I already know you love to fuck dudes without knowing their name.click to expand
Has anyone mentioned loneliness?
Posted by oxSunQueenxoIt was for Libras 😂Posted by AerialViewGood one.
Has anyone mentioned loneliness?click to expand
Posted by oxSunQueenxoYou don't want happiness then 😂Posted by AerialViewMmhmm.Posted by oxSunQueenxoIt was for Libras 😂Posted by AerialViewGood one.
Has anyone mentioned loneliness?
I steer clear of those men... and the other Air men as well...click to expand
Posted by oxSunQueenxoCool story 😂Posted by AerialView🙄Posted by oxSunQueenxoYou don't want happiness then 😂Posted by AerialViewMmhmm.Posted by oxSunQueenxoIt was for Libras 😂Posted by AerialViewGood one.
Has anyone mentioned loneliness?
I steer clear of those men... and the other Air men as well...
I "dated" an Air Sun during my tween days. He is an Aquarius. Was an interesting time... but, it didn't work out. And I don't regret it.click to expand
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