relationship getting serious , I'm scared my interracial boyfriend will not accept me

Im asian ,my parent accept any race, doesn't care what race I date, non traditional

his family on the other hands, he said his mom and dad aren't really "racist" but the rest of his family are.

They're black and lives in Louisiana. They want their children to marry other religious black within the community.

We haven't set a planned date for me to meet them since we live in different states but I can't help overthinking that despite him saying his mom and dad aren't like the rest of his family, they'll still see me as an outsider.

I don't know if I'm ready to find out because his mom/dad not accepting me would be a deal breaker to me because I know how important family is to him.

So now Im overthinking about something I can't control, losing confidence in myself, thinking the worst that it's not gonna work out and I should just end it now (even though I dont ), that he would just be better off bringing home a black girl

how should I stop my fear and negative thoughts ? 😢

Posted by seraph

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im asian ,my parent accept any race, doesn't care what race I date, non traditional

his family on the other hands, he said his mom and dad aren't really "racist" but the rest of his family are.

They're black and lives in Louisiana. They want their children to marry other religious black within the community.

We haven't set a planned date for me to meet them since we live in different states but I can't help overthinking that despite him saying his mom and dad aren't like the rest of his family, they'll still see me as an outsider.

I don't know if I'm ready to find out because his mom/dad not accepting me would be a deal breaker to me because I know how important family is to him.

So now Im overthinking about something I can't control, losing confidence in myself, thinking the worst that it's not gonna work out and I should just end it now (even though I dont), that he would just be better off bringing home a black girl

how should I stop my fear and negative thoughts ? 😢

By not caring whether they accept you. That’s not in your control. If they don’t and in turn he doesn’t, then it’s his decision anyway and not mommy and daddy’s. I assume he’s over 18 and can think for himself.

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thanks, seraph im started to feel a little better already after reading that.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im asian ,my parent accept any race, doesn't care what race I date, non traditional

his family on the other hands, he said his mom and dad aren't really "racist" but the rest of his family are.

They're black and lives in Louisiana. They want their children to marry other religious black within the community.

We haven't set a planned date for me to meet them since we live in different states but I can't help overthinking that despite him saying his mom and dad aren't like the rest of his family, they'll still see me as an outsider.

I don't know if I'm ready to find out because his mom/dad not accepting me would be a deal breaker to me because I know how important family is to him.

So now Im overthinking about something I can't control, losing confidence in myself, thinking the worst that it's not gonna work out and I should just end it now (even though I dont ), that he would just be better off bringing home a black girl

how should I stop my fear and negative thoughts ? 😢

Think positive. If they don't like you so what, he likes you. I really think they will like you.

What's his sign? Sounds like he's lying, most black families really don't care who you date.

Posted by miriyahhh
What's his sign? Sounds like he's lying, most black families really don't care who you date.

@miriyahhh hes a cancer sun

do you think so? what could be a reason?

Posted by coldwateryvirgo

Posted by miriyahhh
What's his sign? Sounds like he's lying, most black families really don't care who you date.

@miriyahhh hes a cancer sun

do you think so? what could be a reason?

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from experience even the most religious black family wouldn't care if you were Asian. They only care if your gay. Maybe he's just waiting for whatever reason he has. I'd ask him a little more in depth why. But sumthing to me seems fishy

@miriyahhh hmmm I see

mind me asking , are you black by any chance ?

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
@miriyahhh hmmm I see

mind me asking , are you black by any chance ?

Duh lol

Posted by miriyahhh
What's his sign? Sounds like he's lying, most black families really don't care who you date.

Not entirely true... There are rules..

No marrying outside your race and no having kids outside your race.

There are even people here who openly admit to these rules.

Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im asian ,my parent accept any race, doesn't care what race I date, non traditional

his family on the other hands, he said his mom and dad aren't really "racist" but the rest of his family are.

They're black and lives in Louisiana. They want their children to marry other religious black within the community.

We haven't set a planned date for me to meet them since we live in different states but I can't help overthinking that despite him saying his mom and dad aren't like the rest of his family, they'll still see me as an outsider.

I don't know if I'm ready to find out because his mom/dad not accepting me would be a deal breaker to me because I know how important family is to him.

So now Im overthinking about something I can't control, losing confidence in myself, thinking the worst that it's not gonna work out and I should just end it now (even though I dont ), that he would just be better off bringing home a black girl

how should I stop my fear and negative thoughts ? 😢

Good luck 🌷 You'll be fine and if not and the negativity is too huge: cut it out of your life! Life is too short for that kinda negativity - he either sticks to you or you get rid off him.

Try to stay positive and authentic, you can't go wrong with that!