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How to tell if she's a lesbian and how to approach her
How to tell if she is a lesbian and approach her
It can be difficult to tell someone's sexuality based on appearance alone. Pay attention to her behavior, interests, and social circle. The best approach is to engage in respectful conversation and express your feelings honestly when you feel comfortable.
actually consent is in important
ask her to kiss her first
and moisturize with coconut oil aka lesbian catnip
😉
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
short nails AND Soccer
I mean come on!!!!
she's gayer than me
and I'm pretty gay
just kiss her
Whaaaat?!
I don't grow my nails long and I used to play soccer! Okie I never used to grow my nails long because I used to hand paint...
Very straight!
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what length are your nails now?
lesbians hand paint too
hehe
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
Ask her if she has a boyfriend
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Thanks, I will try this out.
Posted by Librasetting
You gotta grab her by the pussy just like Trump since you're a Gemini too like him.
LMAO
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
short nails AND Soccer
I mean come on!!!!
she's gayer than me
and I'm pretty gay
just kiss her
Whaaaat?!
I don't grow my nails long and I used to play soccer! Okie I never used to grow my nails long because I used to hand paint...
Very straight!
what length are your nails now?
I never wear them long... Clipped short! Only time I let them grow was before dance performances...
But I wear my hair long...either waist length or few inches below my shoulders... And I dress flirty and feminine!
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the nails are more of an indicator
i dress like a tomboy sometimes
other times femme
but i always wear my hair long
unless it's up
in the lesbian world if your nails aren't short even if you're cute
you're not getting laid lol
i need to cut my nails more
Posted by Adreamuponwaking
actually consent is in importantask her to kiss her first
and moisturize with coconut oil aka lesbian catnip
😉
Hahaha hey girl I wish I could eat her whole but I need to take baby steps first
What worked for me might not work for you. So it's kinda pointless to ask for advice since noone knows the first thing about her except you.
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
short nails AND Soccer
I mean come on!!!!
she's gayer than me
and I'm pretty gay
just kiss her
Whaaaat?!
I don't grow my nails long and I used to play soccer! Okie I never used to grow my nails long because I used to hand paint...
Very straight!
what length are your nails now?
I never wear them long... Clipped short! Only time I let them grow was before dance performances...
But I wear my hair long...either waist length or few inches below my shoulders... And I dress flirty and feminine!
the nails are more of an indicator
i dress like a tomboy sometimes
other times femme
but i always wear my hair long
unless it's up
in the lesbian world if your nails aren't short and your cute
you're not getting laid lol
i need to cut my nails more
Okies 😄
I never knew these things...
From small my nails were clipped short and then dance that involved moving a lot across the floor and then med school... so I just ended up getting used to short nails
Awww😄
You should then!!!
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i'm pre med
but i am also learning to play guitar.
maybe i should just cut one hand lol
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Does she play soccer or just watch it?
She just watch it. She's kickboxing though. While I was lurking through her facebook profile I noticed she likes a couple of LGBTQ artists. If she's a lesbian, she hides her identity very well I must say.
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
Ask her if she has a boyfriend
Thanks, I will try this out.
omg no!
can you just ask her to hang out, in friendly manner, as in invite her to some social even, i guess you do have some friends with whom you can be open. and let her bring friends. do you have a bf is the first move ever made in dating scene!
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Thanks for the advice Juliette. Should I ask for her number?
Posted by GeminiSun
Hey everyone! I'm a bi girl having a crush on a girl lately, but my gaydar is a bit dusty. I really like her however I can't tell if she's a lezzie even if I have few indications proving this (mostly stereotypical ones). She's a tomboy, short hair, dressing like a boy, there's nothing feminine in her appearance, short nails, she likes women soccer, she has a couple of lesbian friends bla bla.. She works at the local market and we had a small talk once where I complimented her hair & looks. She's so kind & totally my type.. I really wanna ask her out.. But that's my biggest fear since I'm in closet and so scared to get ridiculed & gossiped if she ends up to be straight..What's your advice?
(If there are any LGBTQ friends here who can help me that would be awesome!)
short nails AND Soccer
I mean come on!!!!
she's gayer than me
and I'm pretty gay
just kiss her
Whaaaat?!
I don't grow my nails long and I used to play soccer! Okie I never used to grow my nails long because I used to hand paint...
Very straight!
what length are your nails now?
I never wear them long... Clipped short! Only time I let them grow was before dance performances...
But I wear my hair long...either waist length or few inches below my shoulders... And I dress flirty and feminine!
the nails are more of an indicator
i dress like a tomboy sometimes
other times femme
but i always wear my hair long
unless it's up
in the lesbian world if your nails aren't short and your cute
you're not getting laid lol
i need to cut my nails more
Okies 😄
I never knew these things...
From small my nails were clipped short and then dance that involved moving a lot across the floor and then med school... so I just ended up getting used to short nails
Awww😄
You should then!!!
i'm pre med
but i am also learning to play guitar.
maybe i should just cut one hand lol
Oh that's nice... This is what confuses me...when you say pre-med you mean to say you have taken up bio stream or are you already studying anatomy, microbiology and physiology?
I went from advanced level school(science+ math) to med college...
Awww nothing sexier than someone who knows to play guitar!
And noooo! Don't do that! Rofl
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yeah i've actually already taken those classes and done well
but they pretty much make it impossible in the states.
I have to retake classes because some are too old and I still haven't finish my Bachelors
In most countries with healthcare systems that are ranked higher than the US I would have been finished already.
Most countries have 6 yr med programmes and or the option to apply to med school without a bachelors.
College and med school is also a lot cheaper as well
There's only a handful of programmes like that here in the states.
No offense but the nail thing is shit. Because there are feminine women who like long nails but are gay and straight women who play football and look more butch than me. I keep my nails long and painted sometimes and I've seen other lesbians do that.
I would just be like "aiite lesbo" an she will say one of two things: "oh no u are utterly mistaken, I am no homo" orrr "aiiiteee lesbo" back....it's fool proof really 😎
I've seen other lesbians do that as well. That's why I don't judge by the looks. They can be misleading.
Since I'm not that straightforward how can I approach her in a more indirect way? Last time I saw her, I threw a couple of compliments. Hope she took the message..
Ahh I just saw you said you're in the closet so you have to be more discreet. It sucks that in 2018 we still have to worry about getting ridiculed if we ask a same-sex person out 😣 It's a tough place to be in but try not to overthink it. Maybe just invite her out as you would any new friend to a non-date type of thing and then you'll find out in conversation, it's bound to come up at some point. Don't sweat it 😉
Thank you Pisces, I'll take everything you said into consideration 😉
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short nails AND Soccer
I mean come on!!!!
she's gayer than me
and I'm pretty gay
just kiss her