Is there a future in this—?!?

Me and this 19 year old guy have recently been talking. We met on tinder about 3 months ago. we talk pretty much everyday besides when he left for the field for a week because he is in the army. I didn't know he was in a long distance relationship of four years when I met him but I found out when she came to visit him where we live. They broke up soon after that and we kept talking. Yesterday we met up for the first time and talked and then were intimate. I was a little shy but he told me there was no pressure to do anything I didn't want to do. He was really sweet and caring and after we both got up and put our clothes on because we had to go somewhere. He walked me out and we were talking like nothing ever happened. I want to ask him where this is going since he knows I am leaving soon but don't want to ask. What should I do? He is really easy to talk to and I enjoy talking to him daily but I don't want that to change once I move but I also like where things are and don't want to put pressure on him.

Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

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Me and this 19 year old guy have recently been talking. We met on tinder about 3 months ago. we talk pretty much everyday besides when he left for the field for a week because he is in the army. I didn't know he was in a long distance relationship of four years when I met him but I found out when she came to visit him where we live. They broke up soon after that and we kept talking. Yesterday we met up for the first time and talked and then were intimate. I was a little shy but he told me there was no pressure to do anything I didn't want to do. He was really sweet and caring and after we both got up and put our clothes on because we had to go somewhere. He walked me out and we were talking like nothing ever happened. I want to ask him where this is going since he knows I am leaving soon but don't want to ask. What should I do? He is really easy to talk to and I enjoy talking to him daily but I don't want that to change once I move but I also like where things are and don't want to put pressure on him.

Where do you want all this to go? once you know where you want it to go then ask him.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

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Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

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lol its funny you say that. i married at 18 and we just had our 28 anniversary. but you have a very good point. i will be nice and give you that.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

lol its funny you say that. i married at 18 and we just had our 28 anniversary. but you have a very good point. i will be nice and give you that.

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That's why I said "rarely". Usually that's way too young, barely older than a child and not fully developed yet mentally or physically. Arranged marriage, was it?

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

lol its funny you say that. i married at 18 and we just had our 28 anniversary. but you have a very good point. i will be nice and give you that.

That's why I said "rarely". Usually that's way too young, barely older than a child and not fully developed yet mentally or physically. Arranged marriage, was it?

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what you forgot the whole story already? we been messaging each other. have you forgot all about me already?

@Heavyentertainmentshow I guess in a way I'm not trying to tie him down because I know we are both young and need to live life but later on in the future once he is done with his partying every weekend phase maybe we could be in a relationship.

@WitchMitchAries I think for now I just want to keep things the way they have been because it has been working well for me without the whole complication of bringing sex into things. After we acted like nothing happened and went back to being how we usually are so I hope that is a good sign.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

lol its funny you say that. i married at 18 and we just had our 28 anniversary. but you have a very good point. i will be nice and give you that.

That's why I said "rarely". Usually that's way too young, barely older than a child and not fully developed yet mentally or physically. Arranged marriage, was it?

what you forgot the whole story already? we been messaging each other. have you forgot all about me already?

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I don't think we've covered how you met.

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@Heavyentertainmentshow I guess in a way I'm not trying to tie him down because I know we are both young and need to live life but later on in the future once he is done with his partying every weekend phase maybe we could be in a relationship.

You haven't said how old you are, but he's definitely not at the right age for a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life. And it wouldn't be smart for you to hold onto hope since you'd have to wait for years.

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@WitchMitchAries I think for now I just want to keep things the way they have been because it has been working well for me without the whole complication of bringing sex into things. After we acted like nothing happened and went back to being how we usually are so I hope that is a good sign.

the most emportant thing is that its working for you. i wish you the best with it.

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Definitely not. He's too young to be tethered to a long-term relationship. He needs to live his life.

Dont you think your jumping the gun? lol

Nope. He's 19, too young to be stuck with one person long-term. Rarely ends well.

lol its funny you say that. i married at 18 and we just had our 28 anniversary. but you have a very good point. i will be nice and give you that.

That's why I said "rarely". Usually that's way too young, barely older than a child and not fully developed yet mentally or physically. Arranged marriage, was it?

what you forgot the whole story already? we been messaging each other. have you forgot all about me already?

I don't think we've covered how you met.

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he was work at a gas station and i told him that i wanted his number. lol he told me his name and where he lived. he spent the whole not noing my name. there is more but that sums it up.