Is This...

A valid enough reason for you gals?

Ive made up my mind to be non-exclusive with anyone for a long time for a major reason. Which is I dont think Ive got the ability to keep a woman interested over a long period of time.

As you all remember, I live in a city where women cheat regularly on their boyfriends/husbands. Or get in a relationship and wait till someone better comes along. And when that better guy gets on radar, the women dump their bf's for them. As I mentioned before, taken women are only attracted to me and its extremely rare when a single one is. Making a long story short, women in my town have major ADD when it comes to being in relationships.

Im not a expert when it comes to relationship management. The only things I know how to do is be nonjealous/nonpossessive with women. For example, at a party letting women I date handle with being hit on by other men. Im fine with it, doesnt bother me. That, and being happy with a girl having friendships with mostly guys. Thats cool by me.

Another skill I know is letting a woman have space. Which means not calling her at all, let her go out on her own with friends, or have quiet time by herself.

I do try to be interesting by keeping the conversation humorous or intellectually stimulating. I try to be spontaneous and change up what we do together on the weekends. Be it going to a concert/show one week, then another having a picnic during the evening, or playing laser tag/bowling and films/theater plays. Also taking her to games if shes a sports nut. Or taking dancing/cooking classes together.

I also make sure to stand up for myself during an argument. Only if I feel my opinion is right though. So she doesnt see me as a door mat

Despite all that's said been said, I dont think its enough to keep a woman interested in me. As been noted before, women (this town especially) get bored in relationships easily. Even though in sex I try doing something different and being dominant, it wont be enough for a girl.

I would rather be casual or just open relationship based on that. If a guy like me said they dont have the skill in keeping a girl interested and didnt want to waste your time is that a justified enough reason?

I would rather a girl just be casual with me and find someone who can keep them on their toes. So taking every thing that's been explained by me in this post, would you girls agree with these reasons I stated?

I wouldnt except that, I would be the one who would want to be the judge of whether or not you can keep me interested, but then again i'm not one of the girls from your town!

It may be your reason, and if it suits you personally I'll not judge you for it, but I'd keep moving.

Its easy to say move towns. In fact, before my accident I was making preparations to do a butt load of freelance gigs over the next couple of months. So I could try to be out of here by February at the earliest.

But this accident set everything back. I wont be able to leave for another year so have to deal with the women here for better or worse.

There's another thing as far as women are concerned. They like to feel protected being with men. Well, Im walking in a walker not much for me to able to protect.

I dont think Im boring to be with. Im spontaneous and do try to keep things fresh in terms of things to do and sex in a relationship. But women are wired differently than men. Not a criticism by any means, just a fact.


Ive seen guys like myself who are fun, manly, non-psycho jealous partners who get dumped for or cheated on by women with another guy. Ive seen everything in this town. So you can forgive me for being reticient about being in a relationship with someone here.