happykitsune
@happykitsune
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Is this just how it's gonna be?
Ever just sat back and re-evaluated yourself? Sometimes it's not always the guys...could be you. Could it be you're going from relationship to relationship? Never finding time for yourself? IDK...Maybe you should just take this time and focus on yourself & what you want out of a relationship before you get involved seriously again. Just date around and don't get serious with anyone too soon.
BTW what is your sign?
We are young dude maybe that is at least some of it
Posted by Sagittarius89
We are young dude maybe that is at least some of it
This is it, it take time to know what you want and need so I would give yourself more time and you will find the right one and it will work.......
Dear Happy
I can see how your relationships are fucked up.
Hows Grumpy and DOOPY?
I can see how your relationships are fucked up.
Hows Grumpy and DOOPY?
Posted by everevolvingepithet
What sag89 said.PLus you seem to have a new guy every other week so maybe cool your jets a lil in that respect ?
But then again you're young so maybe just do it for the man-poon and don't throw your heart into it too ?
Oh I had no idea there was a new guy every other week...
WORK girl, WORK.
I simply mean one must realize self first. It's not up to another individual to make *me* happy. I have to BE happy first. Work means simply that. It's a daily thing at times. Nothing good comes easy, nor does it land in your lap. You have to keep plugging away at it, keep feeding it. Don't dwell on negatives, if there's a problem, slap that crap out on the table and squash it while it's small. Not before it spirals into a doomsday detonation. Simple things, common sense things like not talking smack about your S/O behind their back, saying what you mean..or giving it a damned good go.
I am making allowances for happy due to the fact she's in her very early 20s, so her own definition of what she wants now will change when she's 30..40. She'll grow as a woman and hone and craft what she feels is best for herself. Apparently so far, these clowns ain't cutting the mustard.
Howwwwwever, if deep down she doesn't really know what she wants and clearly, or is setting the bar ridiculously high then no one will satisfy on any level. I'm not talking about lowering your standards either, but paying too close attention to fairy tales and not reality. The reality is in a relationship you can be extremely happy, or the most miserable you've ever been in your life. It's a choice on how you make things for yourself.
I am making allowances for happy due to the fact she's in her very early 20s, so her own definition of what she wants now will change when she's 30..40. She'll grow as a woman and hone and craft what she feels is best for herself. Apparently so far, these clowns ain't cutting the mustard.
Howwwwwever, if deep down she doesn't really know what she wants and clearly, or is setting the bar ridiculously high then no one will satisfy on any level. I'm not talking about lowering your standards either, but paying too close attention to fairy tales and not reality. The reality is in a relationship you can be extremely happy, or the most miserable you've ever been in your life. It's a choice on how you make things for yourself.
LOL Sorry, sometimes I lay a Cliffs Notes version down and depart. But I will answer if asked. 🙂
Posted by everevolvingepithet
What sag89 said.PLus you seem to have a new guy every other week so maybe cool your jets a lil in that respect ?
But then again you're young so maybe just do it for the man-poon and don't throw your heart into it too ?
Yeah I like this idea. It's something I've tried recently, though I'm not really in it for the conquest. I do enjoy a good time every now and then. The guys I talk about nowadays are the ones I just flirt with. I haven't been on any dates since my last "serious" thing.
Posted by venusianbull
I simply mean one must realize self first. It's not up to another individual to make *me* happy. I have to BE happy first. Work means simply that. It's a daily thing at times. Nothing good comes easy, nor does it land in your lap. You have to keep plugging away at it, keep feeding it. Don't dwell on negatives, if there's a problem, slap that crap out on the table and squash it while it's small. Not before it spirals into a doomsday detonation. Simple things, common sense things like not talking smack about your S/O behind their back, saying what you mean..or giving it a damned good go.
I am making allowances for happy due to the fact she's in her very early 20s, so her own definition of what she wants now will change when she's 30..40. She'll grow as a woman and hone and craft what she feels is best for herself. Apparently so far, these clowns ain't cutting the mustard.
Howwwwwever, if deep down she doesn't really know what she wants and clearly, or is setting the bar ridiculously high then no one will satisfy on any level. I'm not talking about lowering your standards either, but paying too close attention to fairy tales and not reality. The reality is in a relationship you can be extremely happy, or the most miserable you've ever been in your life. It's a choice on how you make things for yourself.
Yeah I get what you're saying. Good stuff here. I realize I don't need someone to make me happy. This is all just making me discouraged...I guess because it's something I've looked forward to since I was able to talk...finding that special someone I mean. It just really discourages me when things don't work out. So from now I've taken out expectation and stopped dating, at least for the summer. I took a lot of time off after my most serious ex and didn't really engage in anything serious for a long while. I was fine with being single this summer, but the sag drew me in because he had a lot of what I liked in a guy. If I can find someone else like that...who I get along so well with, meets my standards, and I want to be with them at a time when I don't care if I have anyone, then I know it's someone I want to be with fully.
Posted by venusianbull
I simply mean one must realize self first. It's not up to another individual to make *me* happy. I have to BE happy first. Work means simply that. It's a daily thing at times. Nothing good comes easy, nor does it land in your lap. You have to keep plugging away at it, keep feeding it. Don't dwell on negatives, if there's a problem, slap that crap out on the table and squash it while it's small. Not before it spirals into a doomsday detonation. Simple things, common sense things like not talking smack about your S/O behind their back, saying what you mean..or giving it a damned good go.
I am making allowances for happy due to the fact she's in her very early 20s, so her own definition of what she wants now will change when she's 30..40. She'll grow as a woman and hone and craft what she feels is best for herself. Apparently so far, these clowns ain't cutting the mustard.
Howwwwwever, if deep down she doesn't really know what she wants and clearly, or is setting the bar ridiculously high then no one will satisfy on any level. I'm not talking about lowering your standards either, but paying too close attention to fairy tales and not reality. The reality is in a relationship you can be extremely happy, or the most miserable you've ever been in your life. It's a choice on how you make things for yourself.
Yeah I get what you're saying. Good stuff here. I realize I don't need someone to make me happy. This is all just making me discouraged...I guess because it's something I've looked forward to since I was able to talk...finding that special someone I mean. It just really discourages me when things don't work out. So from now I've taken out expectation and stopped dating, at least for the summer. I took a lot of time off after my most serious ex and didn't really engage in anything serious for a long while. I was fine with being single this summer, but the sag drew me in because he had a lot of what I liked in a guy. If I can find someone else like that...who I get along so well with, meets my standards, and I want to be with them at a time when I don't care if I have anyone, then I know it's someone I want to be with fully.
Posted by thomas1214
looking for a serious relationship during a age group where people are not serious will not work.click to expand
If I may interject for a moment, I really become bothered when someone says this. While it's understandable that we're at an age where we should be having fun and thinking about ourselves, I feel like being "serious" is subjective. Just because you're in your early to mid 20s doesn't mean that you can't look for a serious relationship, and it doesn't mean everyone our age isn't serious in some way.
IMO, I'm not the biggest fan of casual dating. I'd rather be single if the relationship isn't worth something. I'm all for fun, but I enjoy being with someone I care about too.
If a serious relationship isn't working out, then it is the people she is dating or her own missteps that are causing the problem, not necessarily because she is at a certain age. You live and you learn, but it doesn't mean you have to deny yourself of something you want because some people think you shouldn't.
I feel like there is no such thing as "you're too young to get serious" (unless you're like... 15 or something), but I do think there is such as thing as you need to take time to let yourself heal and grow before you jump into something.
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