It's done

*VENT*
So tonight I'll finally let go, let him go.

This morning I reached out to the cancer man sending a rather cute/romantic email, putting all of my cards down, how I feel and where I stand. Told him to let me know if he still wants me to stick around, wait and be supportive, if he still sees a future with us. If not, simply tell me, I can take it, at least I'll know where I stand.
He replied with "beautifully written. I wanted to call you yesterday but didn't make it (WTF). I don't expect you to easily let go. As for the rest, I prefer to reply later"

A WHOLE DAY PASSED and no answer. Never seen this cowardly attitude from him. But I got my answer as silence also says a lot 🙂 I'm gone. I'm truly sorry how this ended, I still have unsolved questions but apparently all he does is run and hide.

I don't want to fall into depression even more thn I already did this week without me even realizing. I have chest pains and I've lost so much weight.

I deserve more than this.

I'm going to bed so I will 🙂 Sassy BlackMamba

Posted by DonJohnson
L M A O

he rolled over from having sex with another woman to reply to your email.


basically his intention is this


"Wait for me. let me get back to you."


keeping you on the hook.

straight up disrespectful.



you need to go no contact. delete his # and email address. do not reach out to him and ignore his reply.

Yep pretty much what I want to do. Thank you

Nu merita.

Pleaca din viata lui si nu te mai uita inapoi.

Posted by bloobaz

Told him to let me know if he still wants me to stick around, wait and be supportive, if he still sees a future with us.

I just don't get people, none of you, since all of you supported her, so you actually approve of her leaving the demise of her life up to him to choose for her if this is what she is to do.

How bizarre.

How ridiculous .. no wonder you all act like such fools all the time.

You're not really worth much, since you believe your fate is in someone elses hand to decide your value. There's no doubt in my mind that you won't be capable of actually grasping what the means.


Or maybe you do .... and this is a game. You've given him bait, now let's all dive deep into your drama and await to see if he takes it .... is that it?


It sounds to me like you're the coward, since you've given him all of your personal power. You must not be able to think for yourself, and make proper decisions for yourself, and that's why you give him the power to decide where you should be, and decide your relative future.

Posted by bloobaz

I don't expect you to easily let go.

And look how accurate he was with that .... I see it clear as day.


You even call him names for not taking your bait, when your whole premise to him was for him to realize you could handle his choice.

You can't even honor yourself, much less him. You said you could take it, so stfu and take it.

Oh, no .. no, no. You'll continue to be the fool who can't honor her own words.

He saw it. Sounds like he was more present than you. Surely, you're too self absorbed to realize this reality.

Good advice P-Angel.

Agreed.
By the way O.P I was in your spot not long ago and I somewhat know how you feel and what you're going through. My advice to you is try your very best to let go. That guy don't want you. You might stumble a few times and run back especially if he reaches out but do yourself a favor and go find someone who know how to love you for you, cause this crab dude clearly don't give 2 shits.

Remember sweetheart, love those who love you.

Da-l in pizda masii.

what an ass...

how could he be so cold?? or so stuck up?? maybe he thought he still has you.. lol such a fool he has no idea that when he makes up his retarded mind ull be long gone..

Sorry, I had to.

'Told him to let me know if he still wants me to stick around, wait and be supportive,

if he still sees a future with us.

If not, simply tell me, I can take it, at least I'll know where I stand. '



Don't put yourself at someone's mercy like that.... doing that isn't being a 'cool girl'--

he's going to end up working you like a day job.

Also, don't let that punk within a 2 mile radius of the Kitty... just saying.

Posted by P-Angel

I just don't get people, none of you, since all of you supported her, so you actually approve of her leaving the demise of her life up to him to choose for her if this is what she is to do.

How bizarre.

How ridiculous .. no wonder you all act like such fools all the time.

You're not really worth much, since you believe your fate is in someone elses hand to decide your value. There's no doubt in my mind that you won't be capable of actually grasping what the means.


Or maybe you do .... and this is a game. You've given him bait, now let's all dive deep into your drama and await to see if he takes it .... is that it?


It sounds to me like you're the coward, since you've given him all of your personal power. You must not be able to think for yourself, and make proper decisions for yourself, and that's why you give him the power to decide where you should be, and decide your relative future.

This story is far longer (mostly posted in the cancer board). The initial breakup/break wasn't rough. We didn't fight. He was having some issues and I waited, left him alone, still being supportive in order to overcome this situation.
In that email I simply put all my cards down, like "this is where I stand and how I feel. Where do YOU stand?".
I was willing to take everything he said, if he rejected me or simply told me he found someone else. At least the truth would set me free. I know it wouldn't have been easy but at least it's better to know than to still question everything and not get answers on it.

What bugged me the most yesterday is the LACK of ANY response whatsoever.
I don't like to play games.

Posted by crabRiot
Good advice P-Angel.

Agreed.
By the way O.P I was in your spot not long ago and I somewhat know how you feel and what you're going through. My advice to you is try your very best to let go. That guy don't want you. You might stumble a few times and run back especially if he reaches out but do yourself a favor and go find someone who know how to love you for you, cause this crab dude clearly don't give 2 shits.

Remember sweetheart, love those who love you.

Thank you CrabRiot. Not going to answer him anyways

Posted by Kodak375
God I really hope you don't hop on the "fuck cancers for life" bandwagon. That thing is about to bust open from all the weight.

No lol, it's alright.
I felt disrespected, that's all, after all that happened between us.

Posted by KsamCancer
That sucks, youre really good looking, hes missing out

was thinking of the same thing... but im a girl.. would have sounded awkward lol

I hope she finds a better person..

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Posted by thinktoomuch
When someone bluntly states "it´s over!!!!!" it rarely is. When you heart and mind want the same thing, THEN it´ll be over.

in retrospect, that's actually true.






the real break-ups are cold and calculated. or when the person straight up disappears.

In my experience, real break ups are looooooong. If someone can just dissapear, what the hell kind of a relationship was there?

But I was referring mostly to the many women who make these topics, saying NOW it´s over! THIS TIME AROUND it´s FUR REAL!!! And then two weeks later there is a "I miss my.." or "he wrote me a text, does he love me", stuff like that.
I´ve gone back and forth many a time, but I was never one to make the "IT´S OVER!" topics, ´cause I know that´s never how it goes. (OP, hopefully you´ll get, that this is a challenge personally directed at you, and I´m exspecting a "challenge accepted!!!!" back!)

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LoL OF COURSE I accept that challenge!

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Posted by KsamCancer
That sucks, youre really good looking, hes missing out

and a good person too.....beauty is skin deep (well to some people)

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Beauty was always in the eyes of the beholder.

Thank you nonetheless

Posted by Damnata
Nu merita.

Pleaca din viata lui si nu te mai uita inapoi.

what she said yo

Posted by Gobshite
Oh, btw bloobaz, I'm here for you... 😆

bloop

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Posted by Damnata
Nu merita.

Pleaca din viata lui si nu te mai uita inapoi.

what she said yo

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It's "He isn't worth it. Leave him and never look back" in Romanian

Posted by bloobaz

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Posted by Damnata
Nu merita.

Pleaca din viata lui si nu te mai uita inapoi.

what she said yo

It's "He isn't worth it. Leave him and never look back" in Romanian

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lol I know, which is why I said "what she said yo".

I took a big breath after reading your post, I feel lighter that you've dropped him and moved on, all the best

I feel better day by day. The emotional weight is still there but I'm doing good. All the best for you too!