dogsbody
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Meeting People
The airport. People feel comfortable having a whiskey/guiness/glass of wine/gin & tonic...whatever, and just shooting the crap with complete strangers, plus, if there is no connection, you never have to worry about seeing that person again (well, not never, but the probability is low 🙂 ).
I'm with you on that one...nightclubs suck and are too loud. And you dont really meet people at pubs etc.
Just talk to people where ever you are, whether it be at the supermarket, gym, playground, shops everywhere. put on a smile when you see people and say hi and talk, that way you get to meet everyone and the ones that you click with male or female you have to extend yourself out there. that's what I learnt when i moved countries anywho....and be open and brave enough to ask to have coffee or a drink or meet somewhere. i made a heap of new friends this way and before you know it you are meeting their friends...and one day you may even find love like that.
But I think the ball is really in your court.
Just talk to people where ever you are, whether it be at the supermarket, gym, playground, shops everywhere. put on a smile when you see people and say hi and talk, that way you get to meet everyone and the ones that you click with male or female you have to extend yourself out there. that's what I learnt when i moved countries anywho....and be open and brave enough to ask to have coffee or a drink or meet somewhere. i made a heap of new friends this way and before you know it you are meeting their friends...and one day you may even find love like that.
But I think the ball is really in your court.
Well of course, there's always the obvious...1. Internet dating (and there are hundreds of different dating sites out there)
2. Go to SPORTS BARS. I say that b/c that's where alot of men go for happy hour or when they 1st get off work. They are usually relaxed, at their calmest & even better, that's when they're most likely to notice you since you might be one of the ONLY females in there. In other words, go to places where men are the most likely to be in a relaxed state where there aren't 50 million girls all over the place (the problem with clubs--it's no wonder it's so hard for a man to focus on just 1 girl when he's got dozens of hot girls passing him every 10 seconds)
3. The GYM. This is another place where a man is the most likely relaxed. He'll be in his own element & if you love to work out, you'll already & automatically have something in common. He most likely won't be surrounded around any women that went out of their way to look sexy at the gym, so if you get your work-out on while looking sexy, he will notice you. And since you'd both be in a relaxed setting, he won't feel so nervous about approaching you.
4. The library..public places like the mall, grocery stores.
5. Even better, what are your hobbies? If music, for ex. go to a cd store or any place where you can honestly feel sexy & in a state of comfort no matter what. It's always a PLUS when you meet a guy when/where you at a place you loved being at anyways. If a guy comes into your fav. store, restaurant, place, etc. you both already have something in common.
6. I wouldn't recommend airports b/c most people are not as comfortable there. They are on a mission to move & get to their destination. And at airports, people are usually under the most pressure and/or so mentally consumed with other things. There are too many people walking around like chickens with their heads cut off for you to get noticed in the way you'd want at an airport.
Go to places where you can easily stand out. Where you won't have to compete with 1,000 different women. Places where everybody else dresses just down or casual..that way you'll especially stand out when you bring your A-outfit to the scene
2. Go to SPORTS BARS. I say that b/c that's where alot of men go for happy hour or when they 1st get off work. They are usually relaxed, at their calmest & even better, that's when they're most likely to notice you since you might be one of the ONLY females in there. In other words, go to places where men are the most likely to be in a relaxed state where there aren't 50 million girls all over the place (the problem with clubs--it's no wonder it's so hard for a man to focus on just 1 girl when he's got dozens of hot girls passing him every 10 seconds)
3. The GYM. This is another place where a man is the most likely relaxed. He'll be in his own element & if you love to work out, you'll already & automatically have something in common. He most likely won't be surrounded around any women that went out of their way to look sexy at the gym, so if you get your work-out on while looking sexy, he will notice you. And since you'd both be in a relaxed setting, he won't feel so nervous about approaching you.
4. The library..public places like the mall, grocery stores.
5. Even better, what are your hobbies? If music, for ex. go to a cd store or any place where you can honestly feel sexy & in a state of comfort no matter what. It's always a PLUS when you meet a guy when/where you at a place you loved being at anyways. If a guy comes into your fav. store, restaurant, place, etc. you both already have something in common.
6. I wouldn't recommend airports b/c most people are not as comfortable there. They are on a mission to move & get to their destination. And at airports, people are usually under the most pressure and/or so mentally consumed with other things. There are too many people walking around like chickens with their heads cut off for you to get noticed in the way you'd want at an airport.
Go to places where you can easily stand out. Where you won't have to compete with 1,000 different women. Places where everybody else dresses just down or casual..that way you'll especially stand out when you bring your A-outfit to the scene
Oops! Def. was wrong in assuming he was a she! ;~P
Hmm...well in that case...
1. Gym's a still a good place to meet women. Even though some women go to the gym in numbers/groups, women don't necessarily aim at looking their best while they're all sweaty..so a nice looking man approaching a woman in this kind of atmosphere will surprise her if nothing else. And depending on the woman, catching her off guard is a GOOD thing ;~)
2. Festivals. Places where yes, there are flocks of beautiful women BUT also places that bring out the creativity in others
3. Church. Idk if your spiritual/religious at all & some people might see this as kind of harsh BUT in church atmosphere's most women are either completely guarded at church b/c they fear the guilt of hooking up with someone at church. However, women that approached in the right way tend to be the most nicest & most willing to listen to your approach since there are loads of other people standing around & watching. In other words, it'll be hard for a woman to give you the "cold shoulder" if her pastor/priest is around!
4. Comedy clubs. Not every woman in there will be taken. Some go with their girls & the BEST time to approach a girl is when she's laughing, b/c her guard will already be down. Plus, it'll be good for YOUR sake to know what kinds of things humor her. You'll already be coming in knowing certain things about her & that get her attention.
5. School
6. Work. Even though this is frowned upon in alot of places..the good thing about approaching someone you work with is that this allows them the opportunity to see & have the chance to actually like your character. There's a good chance she's already seen you & made a decision as to whether or not you're "her type." And if you are, you'll already be 1 foot in the door by the time you approach her
Hmm...well in that case...
1. Gym's a still a good place to meet women. Even though some women go to the gym in numbers/groups, women don't necessarily aim at looking their best while they're all sweaty..so a nice looking man approaching a woman in this kind of atmosphere will surprise her if nothing else. And depending on the woman, catching her off guard is a GOOD thing ;~)
2. Festivals. Places where yes, there are flocks of beautiful women BUT also places that bring out the creativity in others
3. Church. Idk if your spiritual/religious at all & some people might see this as kind of harsh BUT in church atmosphere's most women are either completely guarded at church b/c they fear the guilt of hooking up with someone at church. However, women that approached in the right way tend to be the most nicest & most willing to listen to your approach since there are loads of other people standing around & watching. In other words, it'll be hard for a woman to give you the "cold shoulder" if her pastor/priest is around!
4. Comedy clubs. Not every woman in there will be taken. Some go with their girls & the BEST time to approach a girl is when she's laughing, b/c her guard will already be down. Plus, it'll be good for YOUR sake to know what kinds of things humor her. You'll already be coming in knowing certain things about her & that get her attention.
5. School
6. Work. Even though this is frowned upon in alot of places..the good thing about approaching someone you work with is that this allows them the opportunity to see & have the chance to actually like your character. There's a good chance she's already seen you & made a decision as to whether or not you're "her type." And if you are, you'll already be 1 foot in the door by the time you approach her
Yoga
@Kaleid...Yeah I don't think approaching people when they're out doing certain things is the best choice. Airports, gas stations, etc...any place where the average person could care less about looking cute, & moreso about getting something done & getting it done now. When people are rushing, their guard is automatically up the min. someone approaches them. I've been approached soooo many times at the gas station. Idk, it's not the most ideal place to think back 5 years from now, saying "babe, that's where we 1st met." There's no romance in meeting at the gas station!
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Where's a good place to meet people?
Im over the nightclub thing and after work im to tired to do anything or go anywhere 😢
Any Suggestions ?