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This is a question for people who've broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and wanted to reconcile or get back together with them afterwards.

Did the no contact work - make you miss them more, check up on them, eventually reach back out to them?

Or did it push you away - make you think that they are happier without you, don't want anything to do with you anymore, etc.?

My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and at the time of the breakup, I sent him some messages which he just ignored. I never contacted him again after that day, but have been posting stories on Instagram and Snapchat, and he always views all of them.

No contact definitely made me and my ex miss each other more. I thought it would help me move on more easily, but I missed him a lot. Months later, he contacted me first, and it just pissed me off because I was trying to move on. We eventually reconciled, but just recently ended it again. We're not contacting each other at the moment, but I have a feeling he'll contact me later down the road. I refuse to reconcile again though. I think it really just varies from person to person.

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This is a question for people who've broken up with their boyfriend/girlfriends and wanted to reconcile or get back together with them afterwards.

Did the no contact work - make you miss them more, check up on them, eventually reach back out to them?

Or did it push you away - make you think that they are happier without you, don't want anything to do with you anymore, etc.?

My boyfriend broke up with me about a week ago and at the time of the breakup, I sent him some messages which he just ignored. I never contacted him again after that day, but have been posting stories on Instagram and Snapchat, and he always views all of them.

Yes, no contact works, but only if he has no new love interest. If he is not interested in anyone else, then he will begin to miss you within a month or 2.

Regarding posting stories on social media, usually the happier you seem, the more the other person will want to be part of your life again.

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A few years ago I actually left my boyfriend (different boyfriend) for someone else. I felt connected with the newer person, spent nights staying up late talking about everything with this new person, etc. Hung out once in person, he was cute, funny, more common interests, etc. I left my boyfriend and started dating the new guy. However, my old boyfriend was relentless in his attempts to get me back. After about 2 weeks of talking, him trying to win me back, etc. we got back together.

However, it's different in this case because I think girls think/react differently, I actually responded to him, we had ongoing communication even after the breakup, etc. so I'm not sure it works the other way around when it's the guy that dumps you.

You're not staying true to no contact if he's still connected to you through social media. No contact works, but you have to do it right.

If you value your own self-perception you'll move onto better things and keep the past behind you. I don't waste any time in severing ties and neither should you. I am pretty gutless tbh. Don't waste your emotions on people that don't deserve it. I just don't see the value in salvaging something that is already lost.

I believe in cutting a bitch off. I was in a long term relationship with a Libra girl once. She ended up being a complete cunt with tons of baggage + a kid. Tried to stick with her anyways, and she ended up cheating on me. This was after 2 years of us being together.

I ended it, and cut her off completely. She tried to contact me several times throughout the years and I completely ignored her. Some people think it's harsh, but I don't care. She was a terrible person, and I didn't want to be involved with someone like that in any capacity ever again. I think it's been around 5 or 6 years now. It took a while to get over, but Now I completely don't care about her existence.