Purely sexual relationship-> Longterm/commited?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by aulait on Thursday, April 3, 2008 and has 12 replies.

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@aulait
18 Years

I am interested in a longterm relationship with a guy I've been seeing but I feel I have made a wrong start by leaping into bed with him too early. Now it seems like only sex bonds us together, is it likely that the relationship will steer into something more?

What are your opinions on a longterm, committed relationship building on from something purely sexual?

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

Every guy in which shows a female attention .. the female views him in terms of wanting long-term .. we're emotionally desperate that way.

aka: Emotional Baggage

What I really find surprising is when a woman then believes that the man who does decide to having a relationship, after her first sexual seduction, and then emotional manipulation to get him to commit .... to be her soulmate.

If a woman has had many soulmates .. then she has had none.

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@newbie
18 Years1,000+ Posts

"I am interested in a longterm relationship with a guy I've been seeing but I feel I have made a wrong start by leaping into bed with him too early."

Define too early.

And what's with these timescales for when things should happen? Isn't sex part of a relationship? I mean unless you have absolutely nothing in common I dont see where the concern comes in. Just enjoy the relationship and do what comes naturally.

I slept with my guy after a month and I've been with him for....um...far too long.

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@Aqua_duck
18 Years

If he only makes arrangements to see you for the purpose of having sex, it doesn't look good. If he wants to see you even though there is no possibly for sex, you might have a chance.

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@chistateofmind
18 YearsPisces

"You have a serious problem of understanding..."

LOL - The way you worded it was certainly misleading. If you had put another DON'T after AND the message would have been conveyed clearly.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

What makes it hilarious, is that instead of recognizing how this sentence is mis-leading, even after explaining what it implies ... she still doesn't get it, makes a suggestion that it's not that difficult to understand, offers in caps the following quote suggesting that she has to explain to people how acting like a mother is damaging because we're too stupid to get this concept, "ACTING LIKE A MOTHER MAKES HIM LOSE INTEREST" .. and then says somebody else has a problem understanding.

That's funny shit, right there ...

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@aulait
18 Years

we were supposed to meet today for a "date", however he cancelled last minute with the excuse of a busy work schedule. I expressed a little emotion indirectly and discreetly by saying that I'll be thinkin of him during these next two weeks (as he is apparantly busy these 2 weeks).
He however, has not replied yet, I assume hes thinking...