Questions

For the mistresses out there...

1. Why do you always justify sleeping/dealing with a married man by saying, "Had the wife been doing her job & pleasing her husband, he wouldn't be around?

My response? As Dr. Phil said, who are YOU to grade another woman's report card. If he's being dishonest with his own wife about how faithful he is, what makes you think he'll be honest with YOU about how horrible/great his wife is? Sorry but married men who cheat do NOT have the best "credibility" when it comes to honesty. If he's NOT even honest in his own home/sanctuary, all outsiders (YOU) don't even have a chance.

For the committment-phobes out there...

1. It's alot HARDER to juggle 5 women/men than it is to suck it up, & find ONE good one, don't ya think?
2. Once you've developed feelings for someone, half the battle has already been won...The hardest part is in giving someone your time, energy, heart & trust. So why is the "title" (just a word in the dictionary) so hard? If you're already acting like you're in a relationship with someone, how would attaching the "title" to it hurt?

For the cheaters out there...

1. If you're THAT unhappy, leave. And if you can't leave for whatever reason, how come your "fix" to the situation is to go screw someone else? If you're mad that your girlfriend doesn't cook anymore, why go have sex with someone else? Why not just go find another cook? What will having physical sex with someone else do for you/fix the problem? Screwing someone else WON'T make your wife a better cook?!

For all the gold diggers out there...

1. If you want nice & materialistic things in life, why not go get them yourself? All the energy you spend in chasing some rich (And probably married) guy could be energy spent on earning/making your OWN money? Think about it...if someone else is the only reason you've got nice things, you're SCREWED when the breakup/separation happens! But if you earned/bought it yourself, you won't have to worry about some lawyer or some "breakup" taking it all from you in the end.

For all of those who can't ever be single...

1. Why do you keep falsely convincing yourself that your insecurities won't show themselves in the next relationship? Your inner demons/insecurities WON'T leave you alone until you fix them YOURSELF, instead of expecting the "next guy/girl" to come along & fix it, simply b/c they're around. Haven't you figured out yet why you conveinantly STILL feel alone with someone?

For those who want to have 3-somes....

1. Why not just get them out of the way while you're SINGLE? If you want to "share" someone for a night, why not just have a 3-some with a F buddy or someone you don't really care about? Why wait until you're in the best relationship of your life to all of the sudden remember that you have 3-some fantasies? Pretty bad timing, don't ya think?

For those who "stay for the kids"....

1. Aside from your kids having the priveledge of growing up in a 2 parent home, don't you think your kids ALSO oughta deserve 2 parents (separated or together) who love/respect eachother? Are you REALLY doing your kids a favor by teaching/showing them that everyone ELSE'S happiness oughta come 1st before their own?

For the dead beat dads...

1. Maybe you wouldn't be so mad/disappointed that she decided to keep the baby had you actually had some standards & ONLY slept with the women you could imagine yourself having to deal with for the next 18-21+ years! Every time you sleep with someone unprotected, you're signing over your HEALTH card & FINANCIAL card to them. So why be willing to give all that up for someone that you'll dog or don't even care about?

Posted by krysrenee7

For the committment-phobes out there...

1. It's alot HARDER to juggle 5 women/men than it is to suck it up, & find ONE good one, don't ya think?
2. Once you've developed feelings for someone, half the battle has already been won...The hardest part is in giving someone your time, energy, heart & trust. So why is the "title" (just a word in the dictionary) so hard? If you're already acting like you're in a relationship with someone, how would attaching the "title" to it hurt?

title = restriction, confinement, a well decorated cage

i have no use for titles...just play your position and everything will be fine. some people need boundaries to feel safe, secure, and to sleep at night. who cares as long as your sleeping next to me every night.

For the women who want to know all the "Details" about the other woman...

1. Will knowing how much more prettier, smarter or sexually talented the other woman is make you feel any better or justify why you're man cheated? Matter of fact, why even call the other woman to find out what YOUR MAN is doing? Isn't the problem in the 1st place that it's embarrassing that you've gotta go OUTSIDE of your own relationship to find out what's going on INSIDE of it? Outsiders can't help you b/c even THEY'VE been lied to too.

For all the women who put their hands on men...

1. Why get mad when he finally knocks you the F out? If you'd have the right to knock someone out for being violent with you, what makes you think that others don't also have that right? Certain actions bring certain consequences & if you can't handle the consequences, why commit the action(s) in the 1st place? No one feels sorry for the woman who finally got knocked out AFTER she hit her man 50 times

For all the men who are dogs, cheaters, abusers, etc....

1. Why treat a woman the very same way you would NOT allow someone else to treat your daughter, mother or sisters? Why haven't you remembered that "Karma is a B" & that "What goes around, comes around?" By the time you're FINALLY ready to stop playing games & hurting others, THAT will be the time that you meet your match & end up with someone JUST LIKE YOU! It's never fun/games when the joke/pain is on YOU!

Posted by krysrenee7
For the mistresses out there...

1. Why do you always justify sleeping/dealing with a married man by saying, "Had the wife been doing her job & pleasing her husband, he wouldn't be around?

My response? As Dr. Phil said, who are YOU to grade another woman's report card. If he's being dishonest with his own wife about how faithful he is, what makes you think he'll be honest with YOU about how horrible/great his wife is? Sorry but married men who cheat do NOT have the best "credibility" when it comes to honesty. If he's NOT even honest in his own home/sanctuary, all outsiders (YOU) don't even have a chance.

its crazy how many women believe the shit that comes out of a married man's mouth.

poof pow be gone

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Sounds like you've compiled everyone's answers from recent months into one post.Awesome !🙂

hehe

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Posted by krysrenee7

For the committment-phobes out there...

1. It's alot HARDER to juggle 5 women/men than it is to suck it up, & find ONE good one, don't ya think?
2. Once you've developed feelings for someone, half the battle has already been won...The hardest part is in giving someone your time, energy, heart & trust. So why is the "title" (just a word in the dictionary) so hard? If you're already acting like you're in a relationship with someone, how would attaching the "title" to it hurt?

title = restriction, confinement, a well decorated cage

i have no use for titles...just play your position and everything will be fine. some people need boundaries to feel safe, secure, and to sleep at night. who cares as long as your sleeping next to me every night.

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Well let's flip what you just said. If the title isn't that big of a deal, then why would it kill you/be so hard to have it? If it's "no big deal" why not go for it? After all, you should feel secure & loved with OR without it right?! Why feel so "secure" when there's no title, but yet start accusing yourself of being insecure just b/c you want it?

For the women who try to guilt/pressure their ex/current crush into being with them....

1. What's the real victory in knowing that someone only agreed to be with you b/c you made them feel like shxt or pressured them into it? What's the fun in knowing that someone is only "yours" b/c they're doing it for YOU, vs. them doing it b/c the naturally felt you were worth it & decided to make it official based on their OWN emotions for you (not yours)? How can you really feel like you've "won" someone over if you only won b/c you had to damn near bribe them? There's NO real victory in that ladies.

For the women who get mad at the guys who break their hearts...

1. Why get so upset when a guy shows you his true colors, especially early on? Aren't you GLAD that you found out now instead of later? Why not just THANK the guy who left you, therefore technically brought you 1 step CLOSER to the REAL MAN that's right for you? In this case, you should be sending him a "Thank you" card instead of slashing his tires =P

For those who tell their ex's, "You'll never find another like me....

1. Don't you realize that when you say this to someone, you're only FURTHER REMINDING them of why they oughta get the hell away from you?!! Once someone makes the conscious/justified decision to leave you, their entire INTENT is to NOT ever find someone like you again! Had they wanted someone "like you" they would've just stayed with you, right?! Smh smh If you're trying to get your "ex" back the last thing to do is to remind him of WHY he made the right choice in leaving your crazy ass!

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I'm really liking this thread.
all of it is right on the ball.
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For the guys who are dead-set on having a bachelor party...

1. What exactly are you "doing for the last time?" Just curious =P
2. And if what you're "doing" for the last time was NOT ok before the bachelor party/during the relationship, what makes you think you have the right to be a "Bad boy" the day before your wedding? Pretty bad timing, don't ya think?! If partying 1 last time with strippers & your buddies is something you just can't live w/o or need so desperately, why not get all of that out of your system BEFORE you made this girl your girlfriend, let alone your soon to be wife?! Bachelor parties are NOT "Get out of jail free" cards. If cheating or engaging in inappropriate contact with the opposite sex was NOT ok before the engagement OR after the marriage, what makes you think it'll be ok the day before she becomes your wife?

For those who cheat (for whatever reason)...

1. If you're gonna cheat, why not cheat on your partner with someone whom you can ride off into the sunset with, just in case your partner finds out & leaves you? If you're gonna cheat, wouldn't it make more sense to make sure your mistress or "dude-dress" is someone you can ALSO see yourself with?! It makes NO sense to lose an "everything" all for a "nothing." Oh yeah, telling your partner that the other woman/guy meant nothing to you is the WORST thing you can say! If you're gonna risk giving it all up for someone, it better be with someone you can ALSO ride off into the sunset with!

For the bitter ladies/men who feel that "ALL" men/women are the same way...

1. Why haven't you figured out yet that YOU also were the common demoninator in all your failed relationships? Better yet, unless you've dated ALL the men/women in the world (which is IMPOSSIBLE), how can you logically believe yourself when you convince yourself that all men/women are the same? No, it's more like all the men/women YOU'VE dated are that way! And in that case, if you keep on meeting the same "breed" you might wanna take a look into your OWN mirror, instead of being arrogant & assuming that all men/women are the same. Plus, people who think this way are the very 1st ones to disagree when someone tells them that all women/men are the same. If YOUR the exception, why not assume that there's probably 500,000 other women/men in the world who are the exception too?

For the people who believe their married men/women are NOT sleeping with their spouses...

1. Don't be a fool! If he's sleeping with you (an outsider), YES he/she is absolutely sleeping with their own spouse! And even if he wasn't sleeping with his own wife, you shouldn't be bragging about the fact that the ONLY thing you share b/w eachother that he doesn't share with others is sex. Don't you ALSO wish that he was willing to ONLY give their time/energy/heart to you too? I'm assuming you do, considering some of you actually have the NERVE to demand that a married man not sleep with his own damn wife! Oh yeah, & if he's cheating on his own wife, trust that you're NOT the only affair he's had/having

That is all =)

Posted by krysrenee7

Posted by DMV

Posted by krysrenee7

For the committment-phobes out there...

1. It's alot HARDER to juggle 5 women/men than it is to suck it up, & find ONE good one, don't ya think?
2. Once you've developed feelings for someone, half the battle has already been won...The hardest part is in giving someone your time, energy, heart & trust. So why is the "title" (just a word in the dictionary) so hard? If you're already acting like you're in a relationship with someone, how would attaching the "title" to it hurt?

title = restriction, confinement, a well decorated cage

i have no use for titles...just play your position and everything will be fine. some people need boundaries to feel safe, secure, and to sleep at night. who cares as long as your sleeping next to me every night.

Well let's flip what you just said. If the title isn't that big of a deal, then why would it kill you/be so hard to have it? If it's "no big deal" why not go for it? After all, you should feel secure & loved with OR without it right?! Why feel so "secure" when there's no title, but yet start accusing yourself of being insecure just b/c you want it?

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nope, i dont need a title. my feelings and actions should suffice. if my partner really needed one, id give em one

@Lena...I'm not talking about those who are content with being single by choice. The keyword was "content" though. I'm talking about the people who expect others to "complete" them or someone make their insecurities go away. I'm basically saying that if you're constantly jumping from 1 person/relationship to the next, & yet if these relationships keep failing, it's probably b/c you literally won't take the time out to be single & fix the problems only YOU can fix

Posted by krysrenee7
For the guys who are dead-set on having a bachelor party...

For those who cheat (for whatever reason)...

1. If you're gonna cheat, why not cheat on your partner with someone whom you can ride off into the sunset with, just in case your partner finds out & leaves you? If you're gonna cheat, wouldn't it make more sense to make sure your mistress or "dude-dress" is someone you can ALSO see yourself with?! It makes NO sense to lose an "everything" all for a "nothing." Oh yeah, telling your partner that the other woman/guy meant nothing to you is the WORST thing you can say! If you're gonna risk giving it all up for someone, it better be with someone you can ALSO ride off into the sunset with!

2. Apply the 80-20 rule. Make sure what you're leaving behind is the 20...

Thought I'd add my 20% !! HA! These are good and are ALL logically correct! I concur...until you start adding emotion...then what?

krys...Love your thoughts

In regards to cheating and this is directed mostly at men...in light of all the recent cheating they have been doing...
I know there women that cheat too...to be fair

Arnold...why—? And woman he cheated with who has not been identified...why—? The rule amongst we ladies is "NEVER EVER STEAL ANOTHER WOMAN'S MAN"

Here is something I only have thought about recently but not sure why I never thought of it before...

S*x feels the same no matter who you are with..think about it..every partner you have ever had was it really any better/different with anyone of them?...it FEELS THE SAME....the act feels the same with any human...
Not that it isn't good...it's just that it is pretty much the same thing with anyone I have ever been with
So why do we all feel the need to be with another? Actually I don't because I am faithful..but all these men with wondering eyes...get over it...and work on what you have because once you are with that new person the "act" is going to feel the same...all women feel the same way!!! Just as most men feel the same to a woman...I have been with a few diff men..diff sizes...and guess what "IT FELT THE SAME!" There was nothing really earth shattering...or diff...
SO CAN WE ALL STOP CHEATING AND WORK ON LOVING EACH OTHER? Of course I have been attracted to diff guys..and I look but
do I feel the need to get physical all the time? Why do men feel this need to s*rew as many women as they can get their hands on?? Guy's...it feels the same...blonde, brunette, redhead. If you have a good relationship...talk to her about your needs...PLEASE...if you tell her the right way...she'll listen...don't ruin a good thing!!

The problem is men mentally convince themselves that having "variety" feels different physically, when really the only rush they're getting is emotionally.

You're right, all sex feels the same; Granted some women are more "skilled" but for the most part, there is nothing another woman can do that your own girlfriend/wife can't do.

Men convince themselves that having the physical variety is the perk of cheating, but really it's all mental. It's selfishness & greed. It's habit. BEFORE the relationship, they were never forced/pressured into only being sexual with 1 person, thus sometimes men don't know how to break out of that cycle just b/c they technically get into a relationship.

Sure, they may have the relationship "title" with 1 woman, BUT mentally, they're still in the "single/variety" mindset which is why some women can do everything RIGHT & yet still get cheated on.

And that's what sucks about cheating. In particular, mistresses always love to say, "Well if you were F'ing your man right, he wouldn't need to cheat." Personally, I think that line is BULL. Some women are absolutely doing everything right & yet they STILL get cheated on.

Same goes for the ladies. If a woman/man is not emotionally ready to be monogamous, they very well may agree & promise to be faithful, BUT if that single/variety mindset never left to begin with, cheating IS going to happen eventually, no matter how great or not the relationship is

krys..That's my point exactly..the variety thing is cr*p

I STAND MY GROUND. ALL SEX FEELS GOOD, BUT IT STILL "FEELS" THE SAME...WITH ANYONE...
AND TYDYED...LIKE I SAID I HAVE BEEN WITH MEN OF DIFFERENT SIZES, (WHICH IS THE SAME AS YOU SAYING "SOME ARE SMALLER SOME ARE ECHO CHAMBERS"...I GET YOUR POINT) ... BUT IT STILL "FELT" THE SAME...THE ACTION OF IT, THE MOTIONS, POSITIONS, THE PHYSICAL THINGS THEY DID, THE WAY THEY TOUCHED ME...YOU GET THE PICTURE

Sorry it feels the same...I'm betting the reason Arnold cheated was because this woman was "different" than his wife. Oh I read she was coming on to him...so he cheated, but I can guarantee it felt the same...when it was time to actually give it to her.
Do you see? Some foreplay kissing etc then you do it...the motion is the same and most of us vary positions, but even they are usually the same ones...and when you are acutally going thru the act...its the same thrusting etc...even woman on top most girls all do the same thing...I am not saying its boring...it just repetitive no matter who you are with I could be with George Clooney and I'll bet it feels the same as someone I was with 10 yrs ago.

In the words of Dr. Drew whom I watched last nite regarding Arnold...he said to the men "STOP IT" "STOP IT NOW" "Think of your kids..."

Everyone does cheat for different reasons. BUT, yes I do feel that any & EVERY cheater alive was selfish in the moment b/c there's NO excuse for cheating on someone vs. just leaving the relationship or trying to actually fix the problems before you go out & convince yourself that someone on the outside can fix them.

Of course all sex doesn't literally feel the same, BUT Sunshine is right in that the general concept of sex feels the same, whether you're having it with a virgin, Angelina Jolie or anyone else.

And here's the thing, none of us actually know how good or not the sex will be UNTIL the sex is actually had. So we must remember that there was SOMETHING (i.e. selfishness) going on within us in order for us to have even made the mental/emotional decision to stray in the 1st place. Having "variety" damn sure doesn't guarantee that what you "get" is actually gonna be good

As I always tell anyone whose ever lost a good thing b/c they cheated..."You lost the best thing that ever happened to you over 20 minutes of sex that probably wasn't even good!"

And even if the sex was great, so what? Sex isn't everything. Whatever happened to other qualities/traits that actually matter too? Can you really say that it's worth it to lose someone you've got an emotional, physical, sexual, spiritual, & psychological connection with all for someone you're "hoping" is good sexually? NO

krys...

All you need to do to back up your above comment is take a look at Maria Shriver vs this Patricia Beanea woman...was this bulldog looking woman worth losing Maria...wow she looked beautiful on Oprah's last show taping...not only her looks, but how together she is,and remember she is 55. Why so these men continually go out for hamburger when there is steak at home??

Elin Woods vs the ugly women Tiger was with...and I know looks are not everything...but "most" men are visual...so looks do matter to most of them.

And I am sorry but I have seen most of the women Tiger cheated with on the net....there was not one that was more beautiful than Elin. They all looked so skanky. I could site more examples......
To put it in perspective, if I was married to George Clooney (who does not even appeal to me), why the heck would I want to have sex with Danny Devito?? I would rather talk to George and say hey look I need more thrills in the bed...

A male friend explained to me recently that some men would have died to be in Tiger shoes...which is what led me to say, "They all feel the same when doing the act" (I cleaned it up!)He just looked at me like "yea your right" I knew my point was made... and he got it. And that's when I started to think about the "all sex feels the same" thought.

MEN PLEASE EXPLAIN...Is it the thrill of someone new? then fantasize and keep a good thing going!!!!!!!!!!