(same as aqua board post) Advice, input, Help.....

This aqua male, he calls and I can tell him don't come over, no i don't want to see him, and as Aqualeo puts it, he adapts! HELP!

He is not taking no for a answer and I really would like to move on, don't want no drama, he has completely changed displays of affection if you will. ?

He is not "dating" me, he is really "bootycallin me" and we have two years at this, I don't want to be his FWB and it does not seem to matter what i want, his actions, seeing him once a week, and dont hear from him otherwise..........

Am I gonna have to get "ugly" or "fugly" about it, and if so, will it do me any "good" as far as the results?

When he called, I almost didn't answer, he knew it, he said "answer your phone" when i said, i almost didn't, he said "i know". He literally came anyway, me saying no the whole way, even, "is it always gonna be like this, i say no and you come anyway?" he replied, "no". ————? HElP! HELP!!! DON'T WANT NO DRAMA, just a clean break away, so i can do me. I don't believe he is gonna step to the plate yall.......don't believe that at all.

He "plays" the control card, i even told him i had nothing nice to say to him, i was not happy with him, what more does a lady have to do. Some say stalker.....he has those tendencies, but i am not fearful of him at all. I see some sort of "infatuation" or "obsession" maybe.........this is help i am asking for, am i missing something here?

we do not date, fyi

If you REALLY want him out of your life, then all yea really have to do is not answer his calls, don't return texts, or do not answer your door. But I would think you would have already figured that part out.. so do you REALLY want him out of your life or are you enjoy this extreme chase he is doing? I had a tendancy to really enjoy making someone who had hurt me..suffer. I enjoyed them damn near begging me to come back... kinda sounds familiar to those situations.

I'm a pro at detachement and know that if you do not want to be contacted, you don't humor their efforts.

Just my observation 🙂

Baby Gurl, you may be right, when i read what you said, this man hurt me in as deep a way as anyone could last year, i did live in fear of him for sometime and even went to some extreme to keep him from knowing where i was living for a long period of time. During that time, he did not call or text, he would call and sit on my line w/the id blocked and listen to me answer the phone, he was the only called at 3a.m. etc....

school shyat, sit on the line, punch buttons on the phone, it goes on with this kind of behavior from him last year.


Hmmmmmm, thus, i got passed it, and allowed him to communicate intially w/me about it, ahhhhhhhh, just struck me, Aqualeo, adaption?


Yes, honestly, if i cant have what works for me out of a relationship, i see no sense in continuing for further hurt.

Thanks BabyGurl, really...........some more self searching to do!