lucyL
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😕 btw is there a way to remove those other copies of the post, hm?
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aaah there it is! thanks
might as well flag this one, hear my own words echoing... 😄 not an interesting topic for the folks I guess.
Posted by lucyL
I mean the guy who dumped me heartlessly like a total prick .....
why mention that ^^^^ .. how is that relevant? Or, are you just butt hurt and can't get past it, so you find ways to correlate so you can hold onto being hurt.
dumping a person is heartless .... most people don't do that. Most people break up. If you were dumped on then perhaps you should check yourself to find out why
Posted by P-AngelPosted by lucyL
I mean the guy who dumped me heartlessly like a total prick .....
why mention that ^^^^ .. how is that relevant? Or, are you just butt hurt and can't get past it, so you find ways to correlate so you can hold onto being hurt.
dumping a person is heartless .... most people don't do that. Most people break up. If you were dumped on then perhaps you should check yourself to find out whyclick to expand
Ofcourse, I was hurt at that point, cause the way he left me (ended the relationship) was cowardly and pathetic. Don't have problems with break-ups.
Yes, the way he did it is equivalent for me as dumping. I was dumped. Some people dump perfectly functional things just cause they don't now how to handle things, so rather then deal with it, handle it some other way, it is easier for them to dump it.
Don't hold grudges on him. I passed that long time ago. It was a good lesson for me.
I was just making an example (maybe not the best one) how texting is irrelevant when it really comes the moment of being sincere with person and deal with situation. Texting is not good to measure one's love or affection, respect or sincerity towards yourself. People put to much significance to it.
I use to hate texting especially with men in the beginning... Thought that they should ring and talk/ask you out... However, I soon realised, if you can't bet them, join them! It's not going anywhere it's here to stay... And in saying that I have used this to my advantage at times when I didn't want to have a conversation. Used it to make excuses and an easy out, used it even in my work when I don't want a reply but need to tell my workers something and don't have the time for a full in conversation.
It is what it is and not going anywhere.
It is what it is and not going anywhere.
^^^THIS
People forget that the "cell" phone came about through corporate business and was used as a TOOL (key word "used") for business purposes, and used mainly during business hours 9-5 for the most part, mind you that was before "texting" was available. Then technology brought in texting and used as a TOOL (again key word "used"), and for the same purposes. Once cell phone providers jumped on the bandwagon and began the family plan bullshit where cell phones became social along with business it too was suppose to be used as a TOOL.
I choose not to be maintained/used like a tool by a man in any respect. If you want to date me, CALL ME. If you want to see me CALL ME. Any plans you want to make with me...CALL ME. Text only when, you are going to be late, to tell me you got home safely, to tell me a change in times for plans, for the insignigicant shit another words. It's just too impersonal. I swear if I go out to dinner one more time and see a couple together at a table and one is texting I'm going to rip the phone out of their hands and throw it across the room!!!!!!!!!! ugh!
I choose not to be maintained/used like a tool by a man in any respect. If you want to date me, CALL ME. If you want to see me CALL ME. Any plans you want to make with me...CALL ME. Text only when, you are going to be late, to tell me you got home safely, to tell me a change in times for plans, for the insignigicant shit another words. It's just too impersonal. I swear if I go out to dinner one more time and see a couple together at a table and one is texting I'm going to rip the phone out of their hands and throw it across the room!!!!!!!!!! ugh!
Posted by CapTennPosted by porcelainrising
I hate texting. Call me.
I hate calling. Text me.click to expand
Same here. Phone calls usually are disruptive and inefficient, imho.
Posted by LetltB
People forget that the "cell" phone came about through corporate business and was used as a TOOL (key word "used") for business purposes, and used mainly during business hours 9-5 for the most part, mind you that was before "texting" was available. Then technology brought in texting and used as a TOOL (again key word "used"), and for the same purposes. Once cell phone providers jumped on the bandwagon and began the family plan bullshit where cell phones became social along with business it too was suppose to be used as a TOOL.
I choose not to be maintained/used like a tool by a man in any respect. If you want to date me, CALL ME. If you want to see me CALL ME. Any plans you want to make with me...CALL ME. Text only when, you are going to be late, to tell me you got home safely, to tell me a change in times for plans, for the insignigicant shit another words. It's just too impersonal. I swear if I go out to dinner one more time and see a couple together at a table and one is texting I'm going to rip the phone out of their hands and throw it across the room!!!!!!!!!! ugh!
Although texting is God's gift to the male of the species, I do not disagree with what you said. Calls are for "important" things, as you stated.
Most everything people have to say these days is insignificant -- therefore my text preference. There's nothing worse than getting caught in a lengthy, hot-air filled, ear bender.
My dear mother naturally doesn't use texting. She can go on, and on, and on about absolutely nothing, and very happy to do so -- despite my obvious misery on the other end of the line. She also has no problem reminding me that she brought me in to this world, and that I'll listen to every damn word she has to say - whether I like it or not! 🙂
Posted by CapTenn
Although texting is God's gift to the male of the species, I do not disagree with what you said. Calls are for "important" things, as you stated.
Most everything people have to say these days is insignificant -- therefore my text preference. There's nothing worse than getting caught in a lengthy, hot-air filled, ear bender.
My dear mother naturally doesn't use texting. She can go on, and on, and on about absolutely nothing, and very happy to do so -- despite my obvious misery on the other end of the line. She also has no problem reminding me that she brought me in to this world, and that I'll listen to every damn word she has to say - whether I like it or not! 🙂
Texting and FWB is a gift to the male species..absolutely you fellas have it made, no doubt about that. Many women don't realize it either...
Let me also say...I don't like yacking on the phone either, but when it is a need for communication..pick the damn thing up and talk to me.
My Dad is the same way, but his time on this planet is limited, so he can talk my ear off all he wants. Boy does he like to talk too! Every Sunday I set at least an hour+ aside just for him. I make sure I'm coffeed up too! lol...
I think a mixture of both is a healthy balance. Texting for the usual at work or out at night brief, casual convos and calling a few times a week to just chat and hear each other's voice is nice.
There is nothing wrong with texting or FB (social media) in general. Those are very practical ways to exchange information.
The thing is, many people these days judge obsessively their realtionships and make assumptions about their partner's feelings towards them based on texting, FB. In the very beggining I made the same mistake. Soon I realized is just an obssesion, a habit or an addiction. It can lead to unecessary drama/destruction between two people.
The thing is, many people these days judge obsessively their realtionships and make assumptions about their partner's feelings towards them based on texting, FB. In the very beggining I made the same mistake. Soon I realized is just an obssesion, a habit or an addiction. It can lead to unecessary drama/destruction between two people.
I'm busy, I don't have time for idle chit-chat which is why I prefer texting over talking. It's to the point in most instances.
Texting is not as personal. And since people are trained to believe that something isn't valuable or fulfilling unless it's up-close-and-personal, then it makes sense that relationships are falling apart. Not b/c texting was so bad. But b/c they hate/love it so much.
Whichever way a generation decides to communicate will have it's goods and bads.
We think talking on the phone or meeting up in person is so damn good and is the be-all-fix-all of all communication issues. But remember, relationships used to go on just fine long before there were telephones.
The ideal is that words in writing don't carry as much weight as words spoken verbally or in person to an ear. Not necessarily true. Remember, there was a time when communication (even between lovers) via mail or love letters was the main and only line of communication. And their relationships/marriages were fine.
Let's not pretend like talking on the phone or in person has always been the 1 and only form of working communication b/w the masses. People found ways to get into (and stay into) healthy relationships even when writing was all they had. It worked for them b/c they made it work. They didn't have a choice. It was the trend. They went with what they were given.
So although I agree that texting probably isn't the best way to convey emotion or have serious convos (good or bad), I'm not going to bash it as if it's the underlying issue of why this generation's communication in relationships is so messed up
Whichever way a generation decides to communicate will have it's goods and bads.
We think talking on the phone or meeting up in person is so damn good and is the be-all-fix-all of all communication issues. But remember, relationships used to go on just fine long before there were telephones.
The ideal is that words in writing don't carry as much weight as words spoken verbally or in person to an ear. Not necessarily true. Remember, there was a time when communication (even between lovers) via mail or love letters was the main and only line of communication. And their relationships/marriages were fine.
Let's not pretend like talking on the phone or in person has always been the 1 and only form of working communication b/w the masses. People found ways to get into (and stay into) healthy relationships even when writing was all they had. It worked for them b/c they made it work. They didn't have a choice. It was the trend. They went with what they were given.
So although I agree that texting probably isn't the best way to convey emotion or have serious convos (good or bad), I'm not going to bash it as if it's the underlying issue of why this generation's communication in relationships is so messed up
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A guy that proved his love and affection towards me a countless time used to say Thank you as a text reply on my Love ya! 😄
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