When a man says all he has to say to you

Then tells you not to contact him ever again and that he wishes you the best.
I did not even get a chance to say my peace-a breakdown in what I thoughts was great communication between us, then WHAM!
Should I try to make amends or just leave well enough alone?

You've got to be kidding?

Let me get this straight ... you really are actually considering chasing a man who threw you away.

I guess that means you consider yourself to be that trash ... well then, go chase him down so that you can savor in the feeling of being dumped.

What a piece of shit. He probably checked out 30-days prior.
sorry about his loss.

Nothing says I didnt really love you like...."Get out of my life."

Posted by wgamador2
What a piece of shit. He probably checked out 30-days prior.
sorry about his loss.

Nothing says I didnt really love you like...."Get out of my life."

We only dated for 6 weeks. He never told me he loved me. Didn't stop me from starting to feel for him. Which my friend pointed out to me the week he went POOF!

Posted by aquaj
I would personally refrain from contacting.

I wanted to send him flowers in a few weeks as a last attempt. What do you think AquaJ? Big NO NO huh?

^^ What is it that you wana accomplish by sending him flowers........................—

You'll look desperate and be even more of a nuisance. Just don't. Wouldn't you want your wish to be respected if the tables were turned?

I feel so sad.. and a little nauseated.. reading this saga as it unfolds...

What are flowers going to accomplish that sending him a New Year's text (that he completely ignored) did not?

He told you to leave him alone, outright. Wished you well, and asked you to never contact him again. It's not that cryptic, honey. There's no hidden meaning or motive in telling a woman to go away. Why do you insist on interpreting his dismissal and his silence as, "Keep contacting me, just not as often." .. and now, "If I ignore your attempts at communication, please send me flowers." ?? Right now he probably thinks you're just sad and desperate.. send those flowers and he'll think you're straight up stalkerish.

I mean, neither of you had a lot invested in this (or shouldn't have!) .. you barely knew each other! WHY is your self esteem so shockingly low?? What makes you sell yourself THAT short with a man? What makes you SO hung up on and obsessed with a guy you dated for SIX WEEKS, that after he ends your budding romance you continue to throw yourself at him desperately hoping he'll reconsider, change his mind, talk to you again, make everything all right? WHAT could he possibly say that would make it okay in your mind to toss you away like that, or to yo-yo in and out of your life? Why do you even WANT a man who doesn't want you?? Are you a masochist? Why? :c

You clearly don't have self-respect proven by your constant chase for a man that doesn't want you. What boggles my mind is that after a blatant rejection, leave me alone or get out of my life, you are still posting about what you should do. Jeez! You are not only looking desperate and pathetic to people on here, but I'm sure this guy senses that too. Believe me, desperation is not attractive to any man, irrespective of zodiac sign.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but based on your previous posts you come off very clinging. Just relax, take a yoga class, go out with the girls or drinks and forget him. Never make a man ur world😉

^^^What Aqua09 said...

@ Nikki, girl come on...flowers? Hell 2 da no!!!!!! He doesn't want to be
bothered with you anymore. DO NOT CONTACT HIM. I can't believe you're even
considering it. Is this how you acted with the Aqua guy? If so, I see where the
problem lies...Come on boo-boo, New Year...Get with it!

Flowers? Really...YOU DON'T SEND MEN FLOWERS!!!!!!!! I had to come back just for that. I don't know ANY women that sends a man flowers. That's just wrong...

self-respect is a must darling. you do not exist to him, therefore it is only fair if you think the same.

I regretted saying it after I posted it. I will admit my spirit is broken & I have to find me again. I need my power back, without criticism or blame. I do not take your comments personally. I need to
hear them.
I am building myself up & to all of you I thank you!
Please continue to help me on my journey...that's all I ask.

I am a firecracker-waiting to explode!

I am very blunt, brutally honest, very opinionated, intelligent, strong, gorgeous, independent, brash, harsh, loving, caring, outgoing, compassionate, heartfelt, loving and genuine.
I do not take anyones crap-so keep your bs to yourself.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ That is what you wrote about yourself in the "About Me" section. What happened? Be that chick you described! Would that chick send this dude flowers after what he said? Hell to the nizzo!!

Posted by RealTalk
Flowers? Really...YOU DON'T SEND MEN FLOWERS!!!!!!!! I had to come back just for that. I don't know ANY women that sends a man flowers. That's just wrong...

right on!

Posted by Mebs
I am a firecracker-waiting to explode!

I am very blunt, brutally honest, very opinionated, intelligent, strong, gorgeous, independent, brash, harsh, loving, caring, outgoing, compassionate, heartfelt, loving and genuine.
I do not take anyones crap-so keep your bs to yourself.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ That is what you wrote about yourself in the "About Me" section. What happened? Be that chick you described! Would that chick send this dude flowers after what he said? Hell to the nizzo!!

hell to the nizzo=good one.lol

think it's pretty obvious what happened...

Okay so I read the background story about the aqua ex coming back into your life, and with all that has happened, and with the way you feel about this guy, it's no wonder you're broken. You took your focus off him for a min, and that was fatal to your relationship because you directed your focus towards your aqua ex, from whom you basically picked up all these insecurities and decided to push the libra away because you thought he would hurt you in the end? I hope I got that right.

Anyways, I feel your pain. 1. As a woman, you began to doubt his intentions, which is the most common thing considering you only began dating, and it's a fear based on one's previous relationship. Every woman, heck every person goes through this! And your side must be heard.Or else you will always find yourself wondering WHAT IF I HAD GONE TO TALK TO HIM AND TELL HIM MY SIDE OF THE STORY?? WHAT IF, WHAT IF...and for me, that is the most painful thing...when you know that 5 years down the lane, you are still wondering about it,and he has completely forgotten about you.

I don't know if you tried to talk to him, but you need to try harder. There is actually no way you will be able to completely move on from this point without taking matters into your own hands, going up to him and talking to him. He does not need to talk to you, but he needs to listen. He is actually in pain, and feels betrayed that despite your connection,you doubted him when your ex, who doesn't even sound like he's been good to you ,popped into your life for what, to say hi?? This man must know the whole truth. Face to face. And you need to tell him everything, for his sake and yours. You're actually an over-the-top lover, like your whole heart,mind,soul goes in with force (feeling I'm getting), and he needs to know how you felt @ the beginning, how you felt when your ex came back and why, and how you feel now. More importantly you must accept that you lost him, but this talk, you must do for your own peace of mind. At the end, round it off, do not put any kind of pressure on him, simply wish him the best, and let him know what he means to you, that you need to begin building you up, and this was the starting point (expressing yourself).
whatever you decide, I hope it works out. You don't have to talk to him, if u feel you can get over it without doing so, then do that. But I hope you do what makes you happy in the end.

Posted by RealTalk
Flowers? Really...YOU DON'T SEND MEN FLOWERS!!!!!!!! I had to come back just for that. I don't know ANY women that sends a man flowers. That's just wrong...

LMAO. +1 here!!!

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Posted by NikkiMse1978
I regretted saying it after I posted it. I will admit my spirit is broken & I have to find me again. I need my power back, without criticism or blame. I do not take your comments personally. I need to
hear them.
I am building myself up & to all of you I thank you!
Please continue to help me on my journey...that's all I ask.

you need to view him in a disgust manner...that is the way to overcome the emotional attachment you have for him...

You can find BETTER...believe...and ask the universe...

Remove the dud and get yourself a stud !!! hehe 😄

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I like this. Don't communicate with him for as long as you can. If you feel that after a while you can't stand to not talk to him cus you need closure then maybe call him or text everything to him in one text...just get it all out that way you can have closure and move on.

I was dating a sag over the summer and while we didn't date long the way he ended it didn't give me closure. I thought working with him would give me closure but it didn't. Finally after months later the thought of him actually repulses me. Idk if it took me dating someone else to think this, but this is just me saying you will get over him, even if you haven't gotten closure...though getting closure is an option. But please do not send him flowers -.-

You people really boggle my mind with your closure bullshit.

If a guy says something to the effect of .... Leave me alone, I never want to see you again .... then what the fuck more of a closure do you need?

Unless, what you are talking about is an opportunity for YOU to project about it onto him because you can't handle the rejection

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Posted by wgamador2
What a piece of shit. He probably checked out 30-days prior.
sorry about his loss.

Nothing says I didnt really love you like...."Get out of my life."

We only dated for 6 weeks. He never told me he loved me. Didn't stop me from starting to feel for him. Which my friend pointed out to me the week he went POOF!

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If he went POOF! then I would say it is all over red rover.
Next.

You know the answer to your own question

It's not like his words are mysterious, confusing or 'read between the lines' kinda words.

He told you straight up that he was done with you.

It doesn't really matter why, when, where, who, or how. That's only something HE knows. Don't purposely stick around trying to figure it out as your excuse to still hang around

He doesn't want you. It's unfair & it sucks BUT it is what it is.

And if he doesn't want you, he no longer deserves your time, energy or conversation.

Be grateful that he didn't manipulate his words or lead you on. Although this kinda stuff sucks most women would KILL for a man to be this brutely honest!

When a man shows you who he is, believe him! And in this case he not only showed you but he also told you! What more else do you need to know?!

Move on! Chasing someone who doesn't want to be caught is only gonna aggrivate him even more

With this girl, however, it's not even closure ... it's stupidity

Once I go back and read her tale, it becomes obvious that she has no integrity

Seriously .... what a waste of oxygen

It's like .... people have to try and coax/convince you to have some brain cells .. like you can't figure it out on your own, eventhough it's elementary.

Aquaj come on. Pluto = pride. Pluto touches every single thing in my chart except mercury, but i will NEVER EVER chase. They could only wish..

Plus pluto can swing both ways, the plutonian person can obsess or others will over him/her. In my case ive obsessed only once (still didnt chase), but i have more restraining orders on ppl than any court house. Lol

Nikki has a venus in scorpio, dont know what aspect it makes to pluto, but i think she needs to control that energy instead of letting it control her. She is a good, loving person, only needs a firmer grip on her passions. It takes time & willpower, but its doable. Nikki be strong & plz dont do this to yourself. No man is worth you embarassing yourself like this. U've tried, but its enough now. New year, new beginnings, remember? I'm here for u if u feel the grip loosening.

Posted by TasteOfChaosss
She doesnt give head... Nuff said.

That has nothing to do with it. Sorry. 😢

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Posted by Mebs
I am a firecracker-waiting to explode!

I am very blunt, brutally honest, very opinionated, intelligent, strong, gorgeous, independent, brash, harsh, loving, caring, outgoing, compassionate, heartfelt, loving and genuine.
I do not take anyones crap-so keep your bs to yourself.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ That is what you wrote about yourself in the "About Me" section. What happened? Be that chick you described! Would that chick send this dude flowers after what he said? Hell to the nizzo!!

I agree, fight and find this girl back, she's inside you somewhere!

Thank you! 🙂

It's hard but look at it from another point of view, as much as one may not want to let go, let go 🙂 You are worth it, love yourself and before someone out there can love you. Make yourself better, be you and whatever shall happen afterwards will happen.

Good luck 😄

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Posted by P-Angel
You people really boggle my mind with your closure bullshit.

If a guy says something to the effect of .... Leave me alone, I never want to see you again .... then what the fuck more of a closure do you need?

Unless, what you are talking about is an opportunity for YOU to project about it onto him because you can't handle the rejection

I think many people here are telling her to seek closure within herself, which 'is' a healthy thing to do. Since it is rather evident that the man has already gotten on, along his way.

P-Angel, no need to get all hyped up 😄

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Precisely why I have blocked P-Angel a long time ago!

Posted by Mebs
I am a firecracker-waiting to explode!

I am very blunt, brutally honest, very opinionated, intelligent, strong, gorgeous, independent, brash, harsh, loving, caring, outgoing, compassionate, heartfelt, loving and genuine.
I do not take anyones crap-so keep your bs to yourself.

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ That is what you wrote about yourself in the "About Me" section. What happened? Be that chick you described! Would that chick send this dude flowers after what he said? Hell to the nizzo!!

I am finding her again. Thank you for posting this!

Posted by 25thDecan
What's wrong with getting flowers from a chicky pie? *eyebrows raised

Or some chocolates....maybe even a card that poetically spells out how she feels about you..if you AREN'T a douche.

But no..no...don't send him anything. Let it go and move on.

I gave him flowers once. He told me a girl never bought flowers for him before, and he was pleasently shocked. 🙂
I am not sending him anything. I am moving along. 🙂

You can block me all you want to ... doesn't change the fact that you're an idiot.

You have a man ... but, you decide to give your attention to another man, an ex.

Your man feels rejected because your giving of attention to another man makes him feel like shit.

then you come in here acting all innocent and nicey .... like what are you suppose to do to make him feel like you are still interested in him ... send him flowers maybe.

No different than FireGem when you get down to it ... in the fact that you play men and act like that's normal

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Posted by NikkiMse1978

Posted by aquaj
I would personally refrain from contacting.

I wanted to send him flowers in a few weeks as a last attempt. What do you think AquaJ? Big NO NO huh?

Nikki———— What are you thinking baby girl—? Flowers——? NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! Specially not to him....You are strong and worth more than that..look at yourself in the mirror and repeat after me...*Im a beautiful strong woman* dont let no man get to you like that please..I know it's hard because they get the best of us..But like I said before you are worth more than that. You are beautiful girl!! Look at yourself.... Now promise me, NO FLOWERS!!!!!!

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Hi IB!!! I promise, NO flowers!! I have not & will not send them.
I am handling things very well might I add! I am learning from this experience. So many lessons I've lost count! Thank you for your kind word. I am gorgeous, string & powerful. Believe me, I've looked lately! Lol.

I sent a text to the Libra. I know he would not meet me face to face, he is done with me after all.
So I sent a 4 text multi media message. Outlining how I felt then, how I felt when the ex popped in & how I feel now. Based on Leilaxxx's advice this was the best course of action to take responsibility for my actions towards the Libra. To let go & to move on. I've even begun cleaning my whole house from top to bottom. Transformation perhaps?!?! Lol.
In any case I feel much more at peace. I do still like the Libra but I M ok with not being with him. For in those 6 short weeks, & with all of your support. & guidance I have learned many hard lessons. About love, but mostly myself. For that I am eternally grateful. Thank you all! 🙂