Phone Sex...

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by RealTalk on Monday, January 2, 2012 and has 41 replies.

What Is Phone Sex and How Does It Work

Phone sex is a form of adult entertainment involving erotic conversations over the phone. It can be an intense and exciting experience for many people, often used to enhance intimacy or explore fantasies remotely. Understanding boundaries and consent is essential for a positive experience.

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Yeah baby!!!! OMG!!!! I soooooooooo had some AMAZING phone sex recently...Geeze Loise!!!! Didn't realize sex over the phone could be so intense!!!

How do you men/women feel about it?

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Ehhh... not my thing. I'm not a phone person in general, but the idea of phone sex just seems awkward to me. I can understand in cases for long distance relationships because you don't have a lot of physical contact and intimacy. I've always been more of the sexting type anyway, and that's probably because I'm more creative when I can type/write out words than when I'm saying them.

But hey, if phone sex works for you, all the more power to you.

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Couple mornings ago, we were having a full on row then he just said quietly "I wanna make love to you" and then woah hell...horny, sweet and very intense. I liked

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Posted by Candeh15
Ehhh... not my thing. I'm not a phone person in general, but the idea of phone sex just seems awkward to me. I can understand in cases for long distance relationships because you don't have a lot of physical contact and intimacy. I've always been more of the sexting type anyway, and that's probably because I'm more creative when I can type/write out words than when I'm saying them.

But hey, if phone sex works for you, all the more power to you.

Oh the power is all mine boo-boo. You acting like I meant I have phone sex like I don't fuck...seriously? It's actually something that was very impromptu. We were talking & before I knew it, we were coming...Hahahaha...what's the difference between sexting & phone sex? Uh...there is none. You're just typing. Nothing creative about it. It's more creative when you can actually hear the person moaning & talking dirty but I digress...hehehe, that's just me. Sexting? Girl please...more power to YOU. Kids...

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Posted by seadream
Couple mornings ago, we were having a full on row then he just said quietly "I wanna make love to you" and then woah hell...horny, sweet and very intense. I liked

Right!! I feel you!! It just happens...it's not like you plan it, lol. Yes! It was really hot. πŸ˜„

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I once told a guy who was working that I'd like to kiss him in such a way, he hurried off to the office bathroom to finish what I started ! Ha!

The voice is such an aphrodisiac sometimes...

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Posted by RealTalk

Posted by Candeh15
Ehhh... not my thing. I'm not a phone person in general, but the idea of phone sex just seems awkward to me. I can understand in cases for long distance relationships because you don't have a lot of physical contact and intimacy. I've always been more of the sexting type anyway, and that's probably because I'm more creative when I can type/write out words than when I'm saying them.

But hey, if phone sex works for you, all the more power to you.

Oh the power is all mine boo-boo. You acting like I meant I have phone sex like I don't fuck...seriously? It's actually something that was very impromptu. We were talking & before I knew it, we were coming...Hahahaha...what's the difference between sexting & phone sex? Uh...there is none. You're just typing. Nothing creative about it. It's more creative when you can actually hear the person moaning & talking dirty but I digress...hehehe, that's just me. Sexting? Girl please...more power to YOU. Kids...

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Oh I'm sure it is. And I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I'm just saying that if it works for you, that's awesome. The only reason why I can't really do phone sex is because I can't really talk on the phone in general. It's a personal thing. Texting on the other hand, I can do. It's just, I'm a lot better at that than actually having conversations on the phone; knowing me, I'd just awkward it all up. I'm sure thought that if I got in the moment, I would enjoy it.

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Posted by RealTalk
Oh my bad. I thought you were belittling the mere act of it. I see. I just like talking dirty to my babe & listening to him squirm!! πŸ˜›

Lol it's okay. It's funny, because I find it a lot easier to do things like that in person, but over the phone, I just kind of clam up. I can't even hold a ten minute conversation let alone a phone sex session.

But if I could, I would. I like being seductive, and I have a huge imagination. It's why sexting works for me because I can be as detailed as I want without fearing I'm going to ruin the moment.

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I know a few people who didn't like the phone...what about phone conversations turns a person off? What's awkward about it? Serious question

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
I know a few people who didn't like the phone...what about phone conversations turns a person off? What's awkward about it? Serious question

I'll admit that I'm not really sure. I've actually gotten better about it over the years. I can hold conversations now with most people rather than just a couple. For me, I think it's because it requires me to think on my toes in terms of what to say, and I'm not really good with that, and I guess just the fear of that awkward silence that can occur when you've run out of things to say. For some reason, that awkward silence is almost unbearable on the phone compared to in person. You also can't gauge a person's reaction over the phone; yes, you can't do that with texting either, but at least with texting, there is almost no physical displays attached that you don't have to worry about it (albeit, that's the problem with texting, too). I only call people when I have to relay or recieve information very quickly; kind of like "Oh, when are we going to such and such place," "what are we doing tonight?". Things like that. The only people I generally sit on the phone with is my mother, brother, friends I don't see very often, and sometimes my boyfriend.

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I love the phone! I have spoken to friends, lovers, clients and family all the same! The only time I've ever felt awkward was when I made my first phone call to my first client, then bam I was over it.

I actually like long pauses on the phone, with love interests, because I can feel them over the phone. I love all forms of communication, verbal, body language, written, even telepathic (that ONE person) its great to be connected. When I get no feedback it disheartens me, and I move on.

I've never had sexts. Email and instant messages were great, depending on the writer. πŸ˜‰ Phone sex with immediate reactions make it real, and fulfill my needs a bit more. I've got Venus Gemini, and unfortunately words hold a heavy weight with my feelings... I learned that actions are more important but I really get going with a good phone convo πŸ™‚

P.s. Venus geminis get such a bad rap, but I've never been unfaithful. My Taurus moon won't let me. I do appreciate looking back at my many admirers, who still think of me amicably and in fond loving memories.

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Posted by iheartnerdyboyz
I have even telepathic (that ONE person) its great to be connected.

Wow...it's funny you said that. I was texting him throughout the day that day & we spoke on the phone earlier & we had a little disagreement & I was frustrated with him. When I got into bed, I kept thinking about him & I was longing for him to make love to me, but I wasn't going to call him because I'm just stubborn like that & then BOOM! He calls me to make up...oh we made up alright.

It's just crazy because I was thinking about him & he calls. Yeah...it is great to be connected. πŸ™‚

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Posted by 25thDecan
Even in sexting, it's that "barrier" that can be used to enhance what's underneath...seduction, repression of desire based on puritanical views. It's what you want so badly to say, that it becomes naughty...and...you're using this little device to say it too. It's rad to titillate someone using your voice or fingertips when you're "away" from them. Sex usually begins WELL before epidermises(sp) rub and create hot friction so there you have it.

Even better...well, can't speak for most guys...but repeating what I said, in person, in your ear, from behind you or whatever position I told you is so fulfilling...and then doing the deed like a toddler in pudding. Lol...yep, YOUR pudding. *raised brow

I think it's sexy if a woman can sext me back or do "phone" to me and make me put my hand over or on my crotch. If you haven't tried it, get that eardrum cherry popped. "Head bang that dinging sound". "Take it in the cochlea". "Fingerbang each other over sms". "replace the q-tip". "Do it in the ear with the receiver". "Stroke that qwerty-pad." "Tongue lash that imagination."
Enjoy!

Yes...this here. I send him sexy messages sometimes too, but I always deliver afterwards. πŸ˜‰"Do it in the ear with the receiver"...Lmao! That's exactly what I did too!! I put the phone by my crotch & let him listen to my juices flowing...hahahahahaha...yeah, I'm a freak.

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Posted by Candeh15

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I can't even hold a ten minute conversation let alone a phone sex session.

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Well I'm sorta like that on the phone as well. Sex is different though because I'm always down for that πŸ˜›, but like hour long convos, that can wait until I see that person IN person, but only if it's something deep. If we're just talking about superficial things then I'll stay on a little longer, but still I'd prefer to discuss in person.

But phone sex? Like I said it's never planned. It just happens & I'm pretty quick on my toes with words so it doesn't become an awkward situation. From start to finish...I always know just what to say. πŸ˜‰

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Posted by 25thDecan
"Yes...this here. I send him sexy messages sometimes too, but I always deliver afterwards. "Do it in the ear with the receiver"...Lmao! That's exactly what I did too!! I put the phone by my crotch & let him listen to my juices flowing...hahahahahaha...yeah, I'm a freak."

*emails this to my brother and cc's your mom

Smh
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Lmao!! You stupid!! My mom would kill me if she knew I was such a freak. She already calls me "fresh"...haha

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You guys are sooooo funny!!!!! I usually mostly read everyone's posts here and there (some more than others), but this one I had to jump in!!!! Phone sex is the BEST!!!!!!!! Someone mentioned that it's like added a 7th sense into the equation. One has to truly be inhibited for it to work--and when it does, it gets the job done!!!!!! Mmmm... mmmm. mmmm...

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Posted by jewels319
You guys are sooooo funny!!!!! I usually mostly read everyone's posts here and there (some more than others), but this one I had to jump in!!!! Phone sex is the BEST!!!!!!!! Someone mentioned that it's like added a 7th sense into the equation. One has to truly be inhibited for it to work--and when it does, it gets the job done!!!!!! Mmmm... mmmm. mmmm...

Ooooooooh weeeeeeeeee!!!!!! Lol, you ain't never lied!!! It's all in the voice & what you guys say to each other, + the connection is key. πŸ˜‰

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I hate phone sex...it's too forced and it reminds me of dirty old men hanging out at creepy strip clubs. Its just too cheesy..
But I do like cute, sexy texting..no pics though..you have to let the mind do some work....

There is no substitute for the real thing

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Posted by sunshine222
I hate phone sex...it's too forced and it reminds me of dirty old men hanging out at creepy strip clubs. Its just too cheesy..
But I do like cute, sexy texting..no pics though..you have to let the mind do some work....

There is no substitute for the real thing

Lol...well duh!!! NOTHING is better than the real thing...it's just fun & sexy... oooooh la la! I'm pretty witty so words fly off my tongue. I should've been a phone sex operator πŸ˜›.

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Posted by VirgoDeVille
Used to do it w/ the Leeb.. Enjoyed it for a while when it was new then got bored.. I prefer the real thing!

Yeah...ya can't make a habit out of it of course...it will get boring if it's done like everyday! But once in a while it's really hot!!

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Posted by RocDaBoat
iNever had phone sex but iHeard its good & the way y'all talk about it now i want to try lol πŸ™‚

Sorry about the hidden posts...DXP is retarted right now. But yeah, it's only great (to me) if it's with your man, or someone you're really digging you know. But it's cool. πŸ˜‰

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Like you know unfortunately I'm far away from my Virgo right now, And even though nothing can replace the real thing, Sometimes when you don't sleep around and you are faithful and your SO is not around you have to take other meassures.. I never thought phone sex could be so amazing..OMG when I hear his voice I go crazy, and specially when he just wakes up, that raspy hot voice..hmm I won't lie sometimes I get frustrated because I want the real thing..But its so intense and so hot, He knows when I'm *hot* just by listening to my voice. Hey I don't care what anyone says, its hot as all hell. The anticipation builds up and it drives you crazy. And when your body responds to his voice its even hotter.:p

I don't think phone sex can ever be planned, it just happends. Its al about the mind and know how to use it.

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I will tell you this..I have heard from other people that not everyone is good for phone sex,I mean couples that are in a relationship are not able to do it, they say they need the real thing or they wont get turned on...Its the chemistry, the connection between both of you..The mind is a great thing..it's all about the mind. πŸ˜‰

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Posted by TaurusBadGirl
I will tell you this..I have heard from other people that not everyone is good for phone sex,I mean couples that are in a relationship are not able to do it, they say they need the real thing or they wont get turned on...Its the chemistry, the connection between both of you..The mind is a great thing..it's all about the mind. πŸ˜‰

OMG...TBG totally!!!! It was with the gem...I know, I know. *singing Michael Jackson, never can say goodbye* πŸ˜›

But yeah man! I mean just hearing his voice, listening to him turns me on. He loves it. Hell, we both do. We don't do it all the time though because I would grow weary, but we just fall into it. That chemistry is a mofo...I always believed him & I share a karmic connection. I don't believe in soul mates or anything, but I do believe in instant bonding with someone. You know...that thing ya just can't shake. πŸ™‚

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Posted by RealTalk

Posted by TaurusBadGirl
I will tell you this..I have heard from other people that not everyone is good for phone sex,I mean couples that are in a relationship are not able to do it, they say they need the real thing or they wont get turned on...Its the chemistry, the connection between both of you..The mind is a great thing..it's all about the mind. πŸ˜‰

OMG...TBG totally!!!! It was with the gem...I know, I know. *singing Michael Jackson, never can say goodbye* πŸ˜›

But yeah man! I mean just hearing his voice, listening to him turns me on. He loves it. Hell, we both do. We don't do it all the time though because I would grow weary, but we just fall into it. That chemistry is a mofo...I always believed him & I share a karmic connection. I don't believe in soul mates or anything, but I do believe in instant bonding with someone. You know...that thing ya just can't shake. πŸ™‚

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Oh that's great girl!! Its all about what makes you happy and you know that he loves you girl, thats what makes the phone sex so much more passionate!! Im glad Im not the only one that things phone sex is hot...Yeah its not good for an everyday thing.

Hey girl email me..I think your email got erased. Im moving in the next 1-2 weeks!!

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You're right RTN, both of you need to be in sync. For me words just fly off of my tongue because he turns me on so much that it's just an automatic flow that comes natural to me. Hahahaha...comes natural, lol...no pun intended again. πŸ˜›