The BIGGEST dating faux pas YOU COMMITTED

Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

Posted by idk
faux pas implies an accident.
i'm an asshole on purpose.

Well thats lovely

Posted by RedSpark
Yay, Aries Moon The guy is just a jerk, he is so insecure that he tried ti take you to bed when you were feeling vunerable, that's is so borring and fuck those guys, not literally 😄, Sex is fun when you actually have sex cuz it's fun and passionate...wot... oh god, hope yu got that part 😉

Dating sins...hmmm...I don't know actually, I don't see anything as a sin, I am to blunt for those things, or maybe it's becasue I don't really think much...

Just hate politics, never talk about politics on a date, i guess you never head that one before 😄

Don't take things seriosly, there are so many hot people arround you!!

What is a WOT?

No we did not have sex, kinda disappointed about that because he would of been good, but at the expense...not worth it. But somehow I still bad, I am working on trying to not take things too seriously, but I beat myself up a lot. I just feel silly and dumbfounded at the sametime that I did what I did because i KNOW better but my spiritual adviser says dont feel bad because it needed to happen because i was blindly walking into a bad situation. That faux pas helped reveal his true intent and take the wool from over my eyes.

As for politics, yeah I know that is a big no no, interestingly enough, he was quite serious about getting into that conversation...I hated it.

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Posted by RedSpark
Yay, Aries Moon The guy is just a jerk, he is so insecure that he tried ti take you to bed when you were feeling vunerable, that's is so borring and fuck those guys, not literally 😄, Sex is fun when you actually have sex cuz it's fun and passionate...wot... oh god, hope yu got that part 😉

Dating sins...hmmm...I don't know actually, I don't see anything as a sin, I am to blunt for those things, or maybe it's becasue I don't really think much...

Just hate politics, never talk about politics on a date, i guess you never head that one before 😄

Don't take things seriosly, there are so many hot people arround you!!

What is a WOT?

No we did not have sex, kinda disappointed about that because he would of been good, but at the expense...not worth it. But somehow I still bad, I am working on trying to not take things too seriously, but I beat myself up a lot. I just feel silly and dumbfounded at the sametime that I did what I did because i KNOW better but my spiritual adviser says dont feel bad because it needed to happen because i was blindly walking into a bad situation. That faux pas helped reveal his true intent and take the wool from over my eyes.

As for politics, yeah I know that is a big no no, interestingly enough, he was quite serious about getting into that conversation...I hated it.

Nevermind, just silly me 😉

Well yeah, don't feel to disapointed in that, I was once like you, I was really taking things in life very seriosly and was beating myself up, not literally ofcourse, but then magic happend, my brain stopped working, I mean, why should I care about some thug ;d, there are probably million people like him in the world, try to spend 5 minutes not thinking of anything, it really helps you be in the present moment. When things like that happend to me I just forget they happend, quite literally, they are past, and past doesn't exist so yeah... 😄, hope you get the point! 😉

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Yes. Just taking a moment to breathe and enjoy your surroundings helps get me out of my head, unfortunately it is not instinctual for me yet. I have to really focus on getting out of my head. In reality, I should be thrilled that I dodged a bullet and focus on all his bad qualities but instead I am blaming myself, and it isnt exactly like i wamt him back either...i know he would d been trouble.

But thank you dear, you have been so kind ^_^ you are right, fuck the jerk. He was way older than me too, too old to be being so heartless smh.

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Posted by malloryor
Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

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What exactly did you fuck up?

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Talking too much. He opened up and my honest, needing to be transparent self thought if he is trusting me with such stuff, I should do the same and not be some ice queen. No. I should of been an ice queen hahaha.

Its okay but since no one is sharing mistakes I feel royally dumb, haha, such is life.

Posted by someoneeee
On a positive note, you saved your time.
These kind of dating mistakes are good, because it challenges your relationship and you get to know what this person really feels about you or where you stand with this person.

About my dating faux pas - too many, not even gonna get into that 😛

That is a good way to look at things and ahaha well at least there's comfort in knowing you arent alone in that arena.

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Posted by RedSpark
Yay, Aries Moon The guy is just a jerk, he is so insecure that he tried ti take you to bed when you were feeling vunerable, that's is so borring and fuck those guys, not literally 😄, Sex is fun when you actually have sex cuz it's fun and passionate...wot... oh god, hope yu got that part 😉

Dating sins...hmmm...I don't know actually, I don't see anything as a sin, I am to blunt for those things, or maybe it's becasue I don't really think much...

Just hate politics, never talk about politics on a date, i guess you never head that one before 😄

Don't take things seriosly, there are so many hot people arround you!!

What is a WOT?

No we did not have sex, kinda disappointed about that because he would of been good, but at the expense...not worth it. But somehow I still bad, I am working on trying to not take things too seriously, but I beat myself up a lot. I just feel silly and dumbfounded at the sametime that I did what I did because i KNOW better but my spiritual adviser says dont feel bad because it needed to happen because i was blindly walking into a bad situation. That faux pas helped reveal his true intent and take the wool from over my eyes.

As for politics, yeah I know that is a big no no, interestingly enough, he was quite serious about getting into that conversation...I hated it.

Shit I saw that off the bat! This was a blessing

Yes, a true blessing. I feel better, reading other people's advice made me really think of how positive this is instead of the negative I saw it as.

Posted by Koniucha
I asked a guy if he ever wanted kids! Lol

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Oh man ahahaha, let me guess he was sent running to the hills huh? I think it is a bit of male ego to, to read into things because I have known men to ask casually if I wanted a family or kids in the future, but dear god if I ever asked...lol

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Posted by Koniucha
I asked a guy if he ever wanted kids! Lol

Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't see that as something bad to ask on a first date.


It's not like you're asking the man to impregnate you.

We kept seeing each other for a while, so couldn't have been that bad.

His answer was, 'That would be cool' lol

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Oh he sounds responsible hahahaha

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Posted by Koniucha
I asked a guy if he ever wanted kids! Lol

Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't see that as something bad to ask on a first date.


It's not like you're asking the man to impregnate you.

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It isn't bad but people jump to conclusions when their ego is involved.

Typical Aries foot in mouth-

It was my birthday dinner and all my friends were there, along with this guy. The server comes around taking orders, asking if my check was separate. I shrugged and said sure, and mentioned something about how someone would probably pick it up since I was the birthday girl.

I didn't even mean it in any entitled way- that's just how my friends and I roll. We go out and someone always pays for the birthday person. I just didn't mean it in such a weirdo way, but in my mind, that was the logic behind it.

I mentally facepalmed with how it came across though. :/ It's like fuck, I should have just left it at "yeah mine's separate." Thought process and mouth don't always match haha.

Posted by malloryor
Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

That wasn't a faux pas at all.

You got to see his character right off the bat.


Very nice.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
Typical Aries foot in mouth-

It was my birthday dinner and all my friends were there, along with this guy. The server comes around taking orders, asking if my check was separate. I shrugged and said sure, and mentioned something about how someone would probably pick it up since I was the birthday girl.

I didn't even mean it in any entitled way- that's just how my friends and I roll. We go out and someone always pays for the birthday person. I just didn't mean it in such a weirdo way, but in my mind, that was the logic behind it.

I mentally facepalmed with how it came across though. :/ It's like fuck, I should have just left it at "yeah mine's separate." Thought process and mouth don't always match haha.

Ugh I hate those moments. How did your friends react? Did they end up covering your part of the bill?
At this point I am sure all is forgotten.

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Posted by malloryor
Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

That wasn't a faux pas at all.

You got to see his character right off the bat.


Very nice.

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I do feel like that now, I actually prayed on it (God give me a grip on my emotions) and now I just feel embarrassed that someone could be so content with being so blantantly insensitive and an marker. Ahahaha I just cant believe some people give no treetrunks about being jerks. I would be embarrassed by my actions.

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Posted by Koniucha
I asked a guy if he ever wanted kids! Lol

Maybe I'm just weird, but I don't see that as something bad to ask on a first date.


It's not like you're asking the man to impregnate you.

It isn't bad but people jump to conclusions when their ego is involved.

Exactly! I totally agree. To me, if a guy got freaked out by that question it would be a sign of immaturity. No need to waste my time with him anymore.

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Yup and my response would of been, "oh for fucks sake, I didnt say I want your child or that I can picture a future with you, I just am curious as to the type of person you are...."

...of course to an egotisical person, they still would not see the logic in finding out if a person is a bachelor for life or the settling down type. These are important things to weed out sooner or later, for both individuals time and sanity.

Posted by malloryor

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by malloryor
Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

That wasn't a faux pas at all.

You got to see his character right off the bat.


Very nice.

I do feel like that now, I actually prayed on it (God give me a grip on my emotions) and now I just feel embarrassed that someone could be so content with being so blantantly insensitive and an marker. Ahahaha I just cant believe some people give no treetrunks about being jerks. I would be embarrassed by my actions.

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Low.

That's the word that comes to mind regarding people

who have no problem using others (perceived)

weaknesses for their own gain... fkg parasites.

Forgive the expression, but it's just not civilized.

Hm. Giving a man all of me but yet, none of me.

Posted by RedSpark
.....there is a free trial haha

I think I'll buy 😉

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by malloryor

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by malloryor
Hey everyone,

So I am feeling pretty down on a situation with a guy I was seeing. I committed one of the biggest mortal sins of dating, something that is totally obvious...I overshared...yes, I know not to talk politics or exes, I knoe not about oversharing and still I dont know how or why I did what I did. I usually never have word vomit. But the worst part is the guy handled it like a royal jerk, then tried to use my emotions to see if i was vunerable enough to sleep with him. Prince Charming up until then...


So I am wondering, what has been the biggest dating sin or disaster ( or mistake, perhaps that is less dramatic) that you specifically have committed?

That wasn't a faux pas at all.

You got to see his character right off the bat.


Very nice.

I do feel like that now, I actually prayed on it (God give me a grip on my emotions) and now I just feel embarrassed that someone could be so content with being so blantantly insensitive and an marker. Ahahaha I just cant believe some people give no treetrunks about being jerks. I would be embarrassed by my actions.

Low.

That's the word that comes to mind regarding people

who have no problem using others (perceived)

weaknesses for their own gain... fkg parasites.

Forgive the expression, but it's just not civilized.

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You are a Leo with a Pisces moon, I am a Pisces with a Leo asc...probably no big deal but I like the familiarity...no wonder your posts have all resonated with me.

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