The right thing to do ....

Ladies ... if a man isn't right for you, then the solution is to tell him straight up, offer to be friends if you have an interest and leave him alone.

I've seen in here where women give other women counsel that says ... stop chasing him, and if he wants you, he'll chase you.

And that ^^^^ is in error.

Because if the man isn't right for you, then you don't want him to chase you because he isn't a right match for you ... the right thing to do is to tell him you aren't interested in developing a relationship and leave him be, so both of you can live.

I am pissed off at you, actually .. and not really to do with the Leo girl. I couldn't care a less about the Leo girl ...

... you clearly stated that it's ok for a woman to move into another woman's territory according to a time frame ... case in point, he was only in a relatinship for 2 months, so how serious could he have been?

Bullshit ... if that's the counsel you give to ANY woman in here, than I don't cosign it.

if that's how you believe .. then I'm not condoning what you tell women, because there's no way I'm going let a woman think that I support such bullshit.

It's wrong .. I don't give a fuck about your agendas you had/have with that woman ... you told her it was acceptable to go for a man to whom she knew was taken.

It doesn't matter if the boy isn't interested .. what matters is how the girl feels she needs as a boyfriend.

Ladies .... if the man isn't right, then he's never gonna be right.

You cannot change him, you cannot save him

The wrong thing to do is to lead him to believe that he has a chance with you the way he is .. because he doesn't have a chance with you the way he is if you have to play any kind of game or trick on him like: ignoring him so he'll come back running to you, or try to make him jealous of you.

Because those things are only done to try and change him to suit you .. you cannot change a person to be compatible with you.

If the man isn't compatible with you, then the right thing to do is to tell him, and let both of you be so you can live.

It's not about the chase, it's not about the action of the getting the attention of the man .... it's about what is good for you, so you can be happy.

If the man is right .... you won't have to do anything except enjoy.

for the most part, yes, i agree. it still takes effort to maintain the relationship but if there is real compatibility then it just flows with greater ease.

Hmmmm... interested in the response from ellesque, tapping fingers and waiting

DetailsPlease...yeah sure you can, jump on board! Not trying to shake I prefer rollling with the waves

Posted by P-Angel
It's not about the chase, it's not about the action of the getting the attention of the man .... it's about what is good for you, so you can be happy.

If the man is right .... you won't have to do anything except enjoy.

I think in theory this sounds good, but its all a fantasy, isn't it? Especially as we get older. The men (and women) carry baggage, kids, hurt, emotions, fear, etc.. and its very hard not to bring some of that into a new relationship. So, the question is how can we tell if its worth more effort?

Fantasy?

You think it's a fantasy for women to hold themselves accountible for honoring thier own standards and values?

The baggage one carries has nothing to do with the equation.

"If the man is right...you don't have to do anything but enjoy"

No, I meant this last line P, its never that simple

Posted by TheLadySagittarius
"If the man is right...you don't have to do anything but enjoy"

No, I meant this last line P, its never that simple

Right ... but, it is that simple.

Baggage is only a burden to those who want discord .. for two people who are right for each other, the baggage never becomes an issue.