I love love love this advice from Cary Tennis at salon.com
"He says nice things to you. Those things -- the slow-dancing, the CD, the dinner -- those are not the relationship. They are relationship-oriented products. He has shown himself to be an adequate producer of relationship-oriented products. You haven't really encountered him as a person yet; you've only encountered him as a competent dispenser of feeling-like substances."
"He says nice things to you. Those things -- the slow-dancing, the CD, the dinner -- those are not the relationship. They are relationship-oriented products. He has shown himself to be an adequate producer of relationship-oriented products. You haven't really encountered him as a person yet; you've only encountered him as a competent dispenser of feeling-like substances."