Should men wear their wedding rings?

This topic was created in the Relationships forum by london_libra on Saturday, May 30, 2009 and has 13 replies.

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@krysrenee7
18 Years5,000+ Posts

Well, there are several reasons why men LEGITLY don't wear their rings:
1. They might work in a field (construction, factory work, plumbing, etc.) where the chances of losing or destroying their wedding rings are high

2. They might be allergic to the kind of material or metal used in their ring

3. Their marriage might be in trouble

4. They might be separated

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@oddball73
18 Years500+ PostsVirgo

I know some guys who put the ring on a neck chain and wear it like that. I think that's alright πŸ™‚ I think married men should definitely wear the ring in some way or another though.

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@ramfishtwins
17 Years1,000+ PostsAries

Mine rarely wears his because he's a carpenter...could lose a finger that way!
Then, when he's not working, it's hard for him to remember to put it on because it's hardly ever on him. There is something comforting when he does remember and I look down and it's there.
I never take mine off. Mainly because it doesn't come off easily and it's so beautiful that I love wearing it. It's also a nice shield when needed πŸ™‚

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@VirgoHero
18 Years5,000+ Posts

While I'm not married, I wouldn't wear me normally.

The ONLY reason is I'd lose it. Hell, I lose my keys most days of the week. Hell hath no fury if my future wife found out I lost my wedding ring lol.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

I don't see a point in it, actually.

If he has one, and he wears it in your presence ... then this will be your clue, because you can visibly see this symbol, that he's your husband.

If he has one, and he wears it in your absence ... then this will be other people's clue that he is married, eventhough he already told them he was .. doesn't matter, if they cannot see the symbol, then it means he was lying when he told them he was a married man.

If he has one, and he does not wear it in your presence ... then you might forget you are married because you cannot see the symbol on his finger.

If he has one, and he does not wear it in your absence .. then he might forget he is married because when he looks at his finger and the ring isn't there, then this means he is single.

So, how exactly does this ring make a marriage? How does it define a marriage? How does it represent a marriage?

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@sucha_d0ll
17 YearsCancer

IMO

The ring is tradition. If you value that sort of thing; he should wear it for you. (obvious cicumstances aside) If I were married, I'd want my husband to wear one. I find it charming and masculine. Being a husband is something to be proud of. (same as being a wife) It can symbolize commitment, dedication, and loyalty.

It's really not that big of deal - so if he made a big deal about it; I would think WTF?

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@DyarStra?e
18 Years1,000+ PostsVirgo

So, how exactly does this ring make a marriage? How does it define a marriage?

It doesn't.

How does it represent a marriage?

It is symbol of unity - the closed circle.

IMHO, most married guys will wear their ring when & if they can. Back when I flew jets, it was a real pain in the ass to have to remember to take the thing off before I got to the jet, and then remember to don it again after the post flight. But, I did it.

As for not wearing it: Hey Guys! I got hit on much more often wearing the gold band / ring of power than not... just food for thought.

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@london_libra
17 YearsLibra

Thanks for the opinions, good to read them all.

I think (danger of losing it in your job, allergies to the metal - begging the question of why you chose that metal in the first place?! - aside) it is a sweet gesture to wear it. How much it cost shouldn't be an issue and you should wear it to show the world that you are committed. It's funny, the most loving husbands I see always wear their rings. It seems they are more proud of their roles as husbands.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

It doesn't matter.

If a guy is going to not wear it, when you are not around ... then he's not going to tell you. In your presence, he is the epitome of all this honor everybody speaks of.

A unity symbolized in the form of a ring .. means squat if when he is not with his woman, he isn't wearing it ... which means, he is only doso to please her, and has nothing to do with honor.

How does this escape people?

This thread was started because you have noticed that many men don't wear their rings, while women usually do .... and speculated that the guys are off entertaining foul play .. to this is what I responded to.

Others only responded to what they think the ring is SUPPOSED to mean .... what something is suppose to mean, in theory, and the actual application .. if they don't match, then "supposed to" don't matter ... actions do matter.

If the guy isn't wearing his ring in her presence .... then all this talk about honor of commitment is folly, because for her to see him do it in front of her, doesn't equate to honor .. it equals deception.

"If you value that sort of thing; he should wear it for you."

^^^^ Seriously .... he should wear it for you? Not for the real honor of commitment, he should wear it for you, the woman, to feel better during his decieving you.

Please.

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@i love ewe
18 Years1,000+ PostsAries

my dad has never ever worn his wedding ring (he's a libra).

my mom couldn't care less (she's a saggi)

i guess i wouldn't really care that much if my future hubby didn't wear the ring. i think man jewelry takes time to get used to.