This hurts

So my ex ended our relationship this past Monday we live together and have been bonding as friends for the past few days. His female best friend is in town and I feel like shit because this is his hometown and I have no family or friends here so I have no one to hang out with. He picked me up from work and basically dumped me home to go get drink with his bff. They are probably talking crap about me ruining all chances of getting him back. I thought things are just getting better but no I'm not sure if he is avoiding being here to get away from me or really trying to catch up. I know it's not like he's my man right now but I still wish I didn't feel so ditched.

Awww..welcome to my club..dealing with a bad situation myself..sometimes men are selfish and clueless. I would give him his space and find something to do to stay busy..I hope someone else can give u better advice because I am in my pain now..so I just stay busy doing things that I like.

Posted by butterfly30
Awww..welcome to my club..dealing with a bad situation myself..sometimes men are selfish and clueless. I would give him his space and find something to do to stay busy..I hope someone else can give u better advice because I am in my pain now..so I just stay busy doing things that I like.

We could support each other I really need friends right now.

You said that you've been with him for over a year ..... you are living in HIS environment, where you have no family or friends.

Why haven't you made friends?

Sounds to me like you moved TO him.

Perhaps, you shouldn't thought before you moved.

Too late now .... you can never go home. You're stuck where you are indefinitely.

Perhaps, you shouldn't thought before you moved.

* should've

Posted by P-Angel

Too late now .... you can never go home. You're stuck where you are indefinitely.

Says the miserable old hag.

Posted by Starrylady07

Posted by butterfly30
Awww..welcome to my club..dealing with a bad situation myself..sometimes men are selfish and clueless. I would give him his space and find something to do to stay busy..I hope someone else can give u better advice because I am in my pain now..so I just stay busy doing things that I like.

We could support each other I really need friends right now.

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ofcourse...like I said I know the feeling but just stay busy. Find something you like to do and do it.. you can't change what already happen but you can work on moving forward

...why would you want this guy back? You have been stuck on stupid all week about all of this since it's happened.

It's a bit understandable, but you're being absolutely illogical and ridiculous right now and all it's doing is hurting yourself. Living with the guy isn't helping matters any.

From the sound of it, he's working on moving on and you're sitting here, pining and imagining that things are getting better.

It's break up season, yo. Guys do it because they realize they don't want to be with you and/or don't want to get you anything for Vday. If dude is gonna ditch you during this shitty time that shitty people choose to break up, you aren't really missing out on much are you?

LIfe moves on... You deserve better than this. First thing to do, what is over then is over ...Go get life !! Keep yourself busy whatever to do. Do not waste your time thinking about the past. Don't give a damn. It may be hard in the first but little by little you'll do it !!! Set your goal and go fot it!

Go back home then, if there's nothing keeping you there anymore.

I suggest get busy getting free. Look for a job to make money, find a place, rescue some abandoned puppies and kittens, donate coats to a shelter.

When you sit still and get lost in thought you start assuming and become helpless. Get up. Get the hell out of there.

Posted by Starrylady07

...... ruining all chances of getting him back.

Samething happened to me back in 2014. We had been together for four years and four months prior to me being blind sided I thought any day he was going to purpose our lives were on track we were deep into setting up a business. I wasn't even into the thought of marriage until that year. It was awful in the end I was scared in denial crying crazy so on. I had to fight to stay there because he wanted me out that night! I couldn't just pick up and leave like that. I demanded at least a thirty day notice. What I decided to do was move half way cross country. I was gone within two weeks of the break up. Girl it was the best decision looking back. Don't waste time. The pain and the tears were worth it. Things worked out indefinitely for the better. I believe that when a relationship ends its meant to be. There's nothing left don't hang on even if he does take you back. I moved on a lot faster than I initially thought. I was just scared now I realized I never truly was ever happy in that relationship nor was I ever in love with him. I was actually pretty repulsed by him. Don't get me wrong I loved him but was never in love with him. There's a reason why they say there is someone better out there waiting for you and will come into your life at the right timing so make room for him because girl if you thought your ex was something special imagine finding someone even better! I personally can testify on that to. My current sweetheart was so worth everything I had to go through in order to make room for him 🙂