krysrenee7
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Transexuals
I believe that communication and honesty are very important foundations on any possible relationship, and that being able to be completely honest about any possible issues right from the beginning would be a strong backbone to any relationship. The secret itself isn't as much an issue as the fact that a person would feel a need to hide something important about themselves to their possible partner, especially when the secret could possibly destroy or alter the relationship irrevocably.
@Wings: Exactly. I know it's sometimes a devestating & uncomfortable feeling for some transexuals b/c they fear that if they're honest, they'll be stripped of their chances to find true love like everybody else.
BUT, problem is, I don't believe a person should even BE DATING unless they are 100% comfortable with who they are, regardless of what others have to say. And I'm the kind of person that believes people who are confident, don't hide/cover up the very things they claim they are comfortable with.
Yes, alot of transexuals will have to face the risk/chance that being honest up front might cost them a few future potentials, BUT we all know though that eventually there'll always be someone whose actually perfectly FINE with who they are. Transexuals hiding that is a CLEAR indication that even THEY know revealing such a thing could be a deal breaker; they hide it b/c they've inwardly acknowledged that being honest & up front about some things raises their rejection rate from a 1 to about a 9 1/2.
BUT, I think it's VERY selfish to purposely hide something that you know is a deal breaker for someone else. After all, if it's "not a big deal," then why hide it? And if you truly love someone, that means taking the risk that being 100% yourself & who you REALLY are is a risk you'd be willing to take. I don't think it's fair to strip someone of their right to know WHAT/WHO they're really investing in. They may not like that telling their partners could result in being dumped 5 seconds later, BUT hey, whose to say that they'd even be able to SUCCESSFULLY hide such a secret forever? Just b/c someone tries to conceal something doesn't mean it'll be concealed forever and/or that they won't EVENTUALLY get caught.
And if I was a transexual, I'd rather face all the rejection up front vs. allowing my feelings/the relationship to advance to a HIGH level, only to take the risk of losing all of that persay my partner were to ever find out. If they were to find out, not ONLY would they be upset that I lied, they'd be upset that they fell in love with the person their partner was PRETENDING to be vs. who they really were.
I don't understand how transexuals who hide such a thing don't see how they're being dead wrong & selfish for doing so. When they justify hiding that, it's the same as them saying their partner doesn't deserve the whole truth & that is wrong. DEAD WRONG
BUT, problem is, I don't believe a person should even BE DATING unless they are 100% comfortable with who they are, regardless of what others have to say. And I'm the kind of person that believes people who are confident, don't hide/cover up the very things they claim they are comfortable with.
Yes, alot of transexuals will have to face the risk/chance that being honest up front might cost them a few future potentials, BUT we all know though that eventually there'll always be someone whose actually perfectly FINE with who they are. Transexuals hiding that is a CLEAR indication that even THEY know revealing such a thing could be a deal breaker; they hide it b/c they've inwardly acknowledged that being honest & up front about some things raises their rejection rate from a 1 to about a 9 1/2.
BUT, I think it's VERY selfish to purposely hide something that you know is a deal breaker for someone else. After all, if it's "not a big deal," then why hide it? And if you truly love someone, that means taking the risk that being 100% yourself & who you REALLY are is a risk you'd be willing to take. I don't think it's fair to strip someone of their right to know WHAT/WHO they're really investing in. They may not like that telling their partners could result in being dumped 5 seconds later, BUT hey, whose to say that they'd even be able to SUCCESSFULLY hide such a secret forever? Just b/c someone tries to conceal something doesn't mean it'll be concealed forever and/or that they won't EVENTUALLY get caught.
And if I was a transexual, I'd rather face all the rejection up front vs. allowing my feelings/the relationship to advance to a HIGH level, only to take the risk of losing all of that persay my partner were to ever find out. If they were to find out, not ONLY would they be upset that I lied, they'd be upset that they fell in love with the person their partner was PRETENDING to be vs. who they really were.
I don't understand how transexuals who hide such a thing don't see how they're being dead wrong & selfish for doing so. When they justify hiding that, it's the same as them saying their partner doesn't deserve the whole truth & that is wrong. DEAD WRONG
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