Damnata
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Values test
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
a) She/he really wants to make the marriage work and wants to get some time apart with the primary goal being to work on fixing things.
b) She/he is having serious doubts about the marriage and wants to get a feel for how it feels outside the marriage and see who just happens to pop up in her/his life.
c) Get real. The spouse that wants the separation basically wants to go see is she/he can find something better while keeping the other spouse hanging on as a second or third option. It is usually just pure selfishness.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
a) Fine. Always sell yourself and keep your options open.
b) Okay as long as it helps him/her in the job and he/she doesn't actually "do" anything.
c) Kinda gross. I realize sometimes you gotta play along at least a little bit but it is really something to be avoided most of the time.
d) Nasty. Just don't do it, no job is worth that.
a) She/he really wants to make the marriage work and wants to get some time apart with the primary goal being to work on fixing things.
b) She/he is having serious doubts about the marriage and wants to get a feel for how it feels outside the marriage and see who just happens to pop up in her/his life.
c) Get real. The spouse that wants the separation basically wants to go see is she/he can find something better while keeping the other spouse hanging on as a second or third option. It is usually just pure selfishness.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
a) Fine. Always sell yourself and keep your options open.
b) Okay as long as it helps him/her in the job and he/she doesn't actually "do" anything.
c) Kinda gross. I realize sometimes you gotta play along at least a little bit but it is really something to be avoided most of the time.
d) Nasty. Just don't do it, no job is worth that.
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore or that I don't like my spouse anymore, I'm gonna start thinking about other options.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss sit is?
d) Wrong in all but the most extreme circumstances. I am an adult and it is disrespectful and disloyal not to work out issues with my spouse.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse.
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
c) Get real. The spouse that wants the separation basically wants to go see is she/he can find something better while keeping the other spouse hanging on as a second or third option. It is usually just pure selfishness.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
I don't understand the question. Is she "flirting" to get ahead proffessionally or... ? Yes I think that would be disrespectful towards their partner unless it's some strategy they've worked out together, lmao.
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore or that I don't like my spouse anymore, I'm gonna start thinking about other options.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss sit is?
d) Wrong in all but the most extreme circumstances. I am an adult and it is disrespectful and disloyal not to work out issues with my spouse.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse.
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
c) Get real. The spouse that wants the separation basically wants to go see is she/he can find something better while keeping the other spouse hanging on as a second or third option. It is usually just pure selfishness.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
I don't understand the question. Is she "flirting" to get ahead proffessionally or... ? Yes I think that would be disrespectful towards their partner unless it's some strategy they've worked out together, lmao.
I also didn't understand the 5th question. I answered b) because I took it as making professional connections and just being bubbly and friendly with your coworkers.
Lily, I take the love not being there anymore on both sides. That sounds fair to me.
Lily, I take the love not being there anymore on both sides. That sounds fair to me.
With the 4th question..I actually thought about my parents. I answered c) like you Enfant.
They divorced once, got back together, divorced again. In between the 2 marriages there was a separation period which went..nowhere.
But I've heard of people who took a break and actually found their way back together.
They divorced once, got back together, divorced again. In between the 2 marriages there was a separation period which went..nowhere.
But I've heard of people who took a break and actually found their way back together.
1. C -I am torn between C and D on this one. The only reason I said C is because if the other person in the commitment breaks their vows to me in a way that I'm not able to forgive (cheating or another form of betrayal are the first things that come to mind)
then I would feel that there was no other option except to move on.
2. C
3. D
4. B
5. C
then I would feel that there was no other option except to move on.
2. C
3. D
4. B
5. C
1- D Won't make that vow unless I mean it for life
2- C we ALL discuss stuff with our close friends and/or family, you are lying if you claim you don't. We all need sounding boards to bounce things off of.
3- D- money is the devil! would never lie to my spouse and lie by omission is still a lie. Even if you go back after 30 days, doesn't take away the fact that you kept something from him/her.
4- B&C I do think it can be a easy out to find someone else, but it may be something that a person really needs to do to realize that they really do love someone. this is hard because both parties may realize they need to separate and in that case it may be healthy for them to do so.
5- C flirting to gain advancement at work is just wrong. if you are a flirtatious person and it doesn't mean anything nothing wrong with it.
2- C we ALL discuss stuff with our close friends and/or family, you are lying if you claim you don't. We all need sounding boards to bounce things off of.
3- D- money is the devil! would never lie to my spouse and lie by omission is still a lie. Even if you go back after 30 days, doesn't take away the fact that you kept something from him/her.
4- B&C I do think it can be a easy out to find someone else, but it may be something that a person really needs to do to realize that they really do love someone. this is hard because both parties may realize they need to separate and in that case it may be healthy for them to do so.
5- C flirting to gain advancement at work is just wrong. if you are a flirtatious person and it doesn't mean anything nothing wrong with it.
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
d) No matter how much I feel I've fallen out of love or don't like my spouse, going back on my vows is not an option. Working on it is the only solution.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
2 answers:
b) Okay, as long as I keep the way I talk about my spouse from getting extreme.
c) Acceptable if it is a really close friend or family member.
>> I would still try to work it out with my spouse though so almost 3 answers there. I'm going to do everything to fix things up.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse and there's always the chance he/she might go sleep with someone else before the month is up.
1 C
2 C
3 D
4 C
5 C
2 C
3 D
4 C
5 C
Hmmmm....okay I'll bite...(some of the answers have been altered--I have trouble following rules 😉)
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore I will leave*.
2)If there is something about my marriage* I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
d) Wrong in all but the most extreme circumstances. I am an adult and it is disrespectful and disloyal not to work out issues with my spouse. (*I removed serious relationship because marriage would be the only time this answer applies)
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse* (cheating isn't a concern, nor should it be if I hurt my spouse).
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
either:
a) She/he really wants to make the marriage work and wants to get some time apart with the primary goal being to work on fixing things.
or
b) She/he is having serious doubts about the marriage and wants to get a feel for how it feels outside the marriage and see who just happens to pop up in her/his life.
It would depend on the reason for the separation and the character of the person asking for it.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
*e) Questionable and offensive to your spouse
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore I will leave*.
2)If there is something about my marriage* I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
d) Wrong in all but the most extreme circumstances. I am an adult and it is disrespectful and disloyal not to work out issues with my spouse. (*I removed serious relationship because marriage would be the only time this answer applies)
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse* (cheating isn't a concern, nor should it be if I hurt my spouse).
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
either:
a) She/he really wants to make the marriage work and wants to get some time apart with the primary goal being to work on fixing things.
or
b) She/he is having serious doubts about the marriage and wants to get a feel for how it feels outside the marriage and see who just happens to pop up in her/his life.
It would depend on the reason for the separation and the character of the person asking for it.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
*e) Questionable and offensive to your spouse
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The original questions stated marriage or "serious relationship". "Relationships", no matter how serious, is not in the same league as marriage. Different expectations. Different standards.
And it's Phoenix 😉
*question
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The original questions stated marriage or "serious relationship". "Relationships", no matter how serious, is not in the same league as marriage. Different expectations. Different standards.
And it's Phoenix 😉
Are you talkin' to me? *looks away*
Responding to a hidden message is just cheesy. It was hidden for a reason. -.-
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Lol, ok. *ignore*? I posted it as you were hiding your post since I clearly saw it and responded to what you actually wrote, not a hidden post. I wasn't going to hide mine after it was posted, so it is what it is. Not my issue if you hid your post while DXP was having technical difficulties.
As for the grammar issue, thanks doll 😉. Nice to know we have each other's back regarding spelling error *bump chest*.
Was it okay that I responded to this post? Smh..
No worries, I won't make that mistake again.
1-D
2-C
3-D
4-C
5-D
2-C
3-D
4-C
5-D
I am going to go over all of this tonight, post the scores and ask people who have different opinions than me 🙂
I appreciate the input, keep posting folks
I appreciate the input, keep posting folks
Yeah, this isn't easy to answer because obviously circumstances differ, with time being the biggest factor ... my perspective of a 31 year partner, would extremely different from a 6 month partner.
1. d .... we have mortgages, grandchildren, everything we own (which is a lot) is all mutual ... you don't just bail when life fucks up.
2. none of the choices apply - e. a person should be able to seek professional guidance if needed about marital problems
3. a .... I only need to say to him, "trust me" and he would accept anything I did without question.
4. a
5. a ... but not for the reason of "Always sell yourself and keep your options open". My husband is extremely outgoing and chatters with people ALOT. Work isn't any different, so he should be any different.
Posted by Damnata
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore or that I don't like my spouse anymore, I'm gonna start thinking about other options.
d) No matter how much I feel I've fallen out of love or don't like my spouse, going back on my vows is not an option. Working on it is the only solution.
Somewhere between these. Yeah you should work at it, and hard. But no, that isn't the ONLY option.
Posted by Damnata
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
This one just depends. Yes you can talk to your friends. No you shouldn't blast your partner all the time to them. And you should be able to go to your partner with anything.
Posted by Damnata
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
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b) Aren't comfortable with it but leaning towards yes.
That's rough but all it says it move out and say you want a divorce. No rules on why, you just can't say what's up. I don't know...
Posted by Damnata
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
c) Get real. The spouse that wants the separation basically wants to go see is she/he can find something better while keeping the other spouse hanging on as a second or third option. It is usually just pure selfishness.
A separation says you're done trying but not ready to give up whatever benefits you get from it.
Posted by Damnata
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?click to expand
d) Nasty. Just don't do it, no job is worth that.
I don't like these choices. I wanted to say "B" but you said he gets ahead for it. I "flirt" with everyone and see nothing wrong with it. I have never cheated and never will. However, if you treat someone special to advance yourself that's not flirting it using. That is bad so I chose "D".
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
D. I don't say things I don't mean. Ever.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
D? I don't think it's wrong I just don't like to have others involved in private affairs. Especially not people close to me who will obviously have biased opinions.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
A I'd hope being my spouse some trust is already established, if it can be shaken that easily well I'd still be richer lol.
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
A It's what I would personally think, no reasons really.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
B That's taking the dictionary meaning of flirting which includes sexual undertones, no bueno.
D. I don't say things I don't mean. Ever.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
D? I don't think it's wrong I just don't like to have others involved in private affairs. Especially not people close to me who will obviously have biased opinions.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
A I'd hope being my spouse some trust is already established, if it can be shaken that easily well I'd still be richer lol.
4)You know that one person asks another for marriage because he/she wants to be with him/her. You know one spouse asks another for divorce because he/she does not to be with him/her anymore. But, when it comes to one spouse asking for a "separation", you think it means...?
A It's what I would personally think, no reasons really.
5)I think if one spouse flirts at work it is...?
B That's taking the dictionary meaning of flirting which includes sexual undertones, no bueno.
d) No matter how much I feel I've fallen out of love or don't like my spouse, going back on my vows is not an option. Working on it is the only solution.
Most of those who answerd this (1d) are full of shit. So you're prepared to spend the rest of your days with the person you don't like... on general principle? 😆
Most of those who answerd this (1d) are full of shit. So you're prepared to spend the rest of your days with the person you don't like... on general principle? 😆
on no. 3!!! 😆
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
....is this Kill Bill over again?? when she leaves, and he goes insane...and does the UNTHINKABLE? 😛
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
....is this Kill Bill over again?? when she leaves, and he goes insane...and does the UNTHINKABLE? 😛
1. I pick C. Although unconditional love seems ideal, I don't believe in it. I have a huge problem with the concept that you should be able to do anything to me & b/c of our marriage, I'm supposed to take it. Some things aren't workable. Example: Constant abuse, constant disrespect, etc.
2. I pick D. You can't go outside of your marriage to fix the problems inside of it. However, friends & family don't stop being valuable advice givers just b/c you're married. I'd be very choosy about who's advice I seek though, b/c inviting too many people in your marital business, even if the problem is simple or fixable, is a disaster. And unfortunately, just b/c you may have gotten past it once it's fixed doesn't mean that others have. There's nothing worse than others continually bringing up a situation you've fixed & are trying to move on from. However, if I'm being abused, I'd want someone else to know, especially if I couldn't get away right away.
3. I pick D. The long term damage such a deal with the devil could cause is not worth it. 1 million dollars is not worth 30 more years of a marriage never quite being the same b/c of such a breakdown in trust/communication. When a marriage is affected, the children are too. No amount of money is worth destroying my family dynamic that we worked endlessly to build. Plus, if I felt that my husband would sex someone else after only a month of issues then I'd divorce him immediately.
I think it's laughable that some folks swear "forever" but yet are quick to leave or check out all over 2 weeks of not getting what they want in the moment. Grow up. Everything won't be peaches & cream for 10+ years straight!! That's why friendship & a strong foundation are so important. Having those 2 things, in addition to being in love with them, is what saves your relationship once it starts getting rocky. If you don't have that, good luck on expecting "forever."
If you expect to be with someone for the next 40+ years, 1 month full of issues is nothing compared to the 365x's 40 you'll have to love/deal with them.
2. I pick D. You can't go outside of your marriage to fix the problems inside of it. However, friends & family don't stop being valuable advice givers just b/c you're married. I'd be very choosy about who's advice I seek though, b/c inviting too many people in your marital business, even if the problem is simple or fixable, is a disaster. And unfortunately, just b/c you may have gotten past it once it's fixed doesn't mean that others have. There's nothing worse than others continually bringing up a situation you've fixed & are trying to move on from. However, if I'm being abused, I'd want someone else to know, especially if I couldn't get away right away.
3. I pick D. The long term damage such a deal with the devil could cause is not worth it. 1 million dollars is not worth 30 more years of a marriage never quite being the same b/c of such a breakdown in trust/communication. When a marriage is affected, the children are too. No amount of money is worth destroying my family dynamic that we worked endlessly to build. Plus, if I felt that my husband would sex someone else after only a month of issues then I'd divorce him immediately.
I think it's laughable that some folks swear "forever" but yet are quick to leave or check out all over 2 weeks of not getting what they want in the moment. Grow up. Everything won't be peaches & cream for 10+ years straight!! That's why friendship & a strong foundation are so important. Having those 2 things, in addition to being in love with them, is what saves your relationship once it starts getting rocky. If you don't have that, good luck on expecting "forever."
If you expect to be with someone for the next 40+ years, 1 month full of issues is nothing compared to the 365x's 40 you'll have to love/deal with them.
Posted by enfant_terrible
d) No matter how much I feel I've fallen out of love or don't like my spouse, going back on my vows is not an option. Working on it is the only solution.
Most of those who answerd this (1d) are full of shit. So you're prepared to spend the rest of your days with the person you don't like... on general principle? 😆
It does say spouse. I don't know.. I view it much more than a girlfriend. If I ever make that vow then surely I need to be certain of a few things. Or are people just marrying for the sake of a partner.
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Respond honestly, pls. I'm curious about where people stand on this 🙂. Thoughts on your choices are also welcomed 🙂
1) If I make vows to someone to be there 'through sickness and in health' and 'till death do us part' what I really mean is?
a) I just mouth the words, that's too much responsibility.
b) I'm committed 'till things get stressful' and 'till I'm unhappy'
c) I will be there and I will sacrifice. But, if I start feeling the love isn't there anymore or that I don't like my spouse anymore, I'm gonna start thinking about other options.
d) No matter how much I feel I've fallen out of love or don't like my spouse, going back on my vows is not an option. Working on it is the only solution.
2)If there is something about my marriage (or serous relationship) I don't like and I don't feel like dealing with my spouse or his/her reaction, I believe that going to someone besides my spouse to discuss it is?
a) Just fine, he/she shouldn't be such a jerk.
b) Okay, as long as I keep the way I talk about my spouse from getting extreme.
c) Acceptable if it is a really close friend or family member.
d) Wrong in all but the most extreme circumstances. I am an adult and it is disrespectful and disloyal not to work out issues with my spouse.
3)Some eccentric billionare (man or woman) comes to you and offers the following deal which will be put in writing: You move out and tell your spouse you want a divorce immediately and he/she will give you one million dollars in one month, at which time you can go back to life as usual and tell your spouse about what happened. You don't have to cheat or do anything else for the money, you just can't let anyone in on what's happening till the one month is up. You...?
a) Agree immediately, I'll explain later.
b) Aren't comfortable with it but leaning towards yes.
c) Leaning toward no, it just dosen't feel right.
d) Say thanks but no thanks. It would really be emotionally damaging to my spouse and there's always the chance he/she might go sleep with someone else before the month is up.