What is intamcy for you?

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What is intamcy for you? Not just sexual but all of the above.

Some of my best memories of intimacy wasn't sex itself, it was how comfortable she was with me. Showing me and being with me at her most vulnerable. I've got great memories laying bed with my ex walking around with nothing on but a long shirt bearly covering down to her butt cheeks. Another wearing nothing but a loose fitting open robe walking around. Even opened and retied it in my direction. Another a shear gown where I could see EVERYTHING but not clearly🫠....A woman being physically Vulnerable with me is intamcy😍

Mentally is Communication wise. Emotionally by opening up and sharing her inner struggles and thoughts IN PERSON also melts me.

I'm easy to please. Love language to receive is physical touch, quality time, and 3rd communication.

Soft kissing (no tongue)

Forehead kisses

Soft caressing

All around gentle treatment

Also I agree, if I'm allowed to be quiet and not be involved in some shared activity, I feel accepted and comfortable. My first 2 exes let me watch them play beautiful video games with a good story line- GTA 4, Fable, Silent Hill, Red Dead Redemption, Arkham City, etc- in silence without participation, it was the best ever and I never bonded in that way w anyone else

Posted by MidAtBest
Soft kissing (no tongue)

Forehead kisses

Soft caressing

All around gentle treatment

Also I agree, if I'm allowed to be quiet and not be involved in some shared activity, I feel accepted and comfortable. My first 2 exes let me watch them play beautiful video games with a good story line- GTA 4, Fable, Silent Hill, Red Dead Redemption, Arkham City, etc- in silence without participation, it was the best ever and I never bonded in that way w anyone else

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too.

Tho the feeling I got from your post felt like sarcasm. Unless you guys discussed the game, what to do and go and gave suggestions and etc. participating....Kinda like when s/o is driving and you are handling the directions, playlist, and general planning. Couple activities are interactive.

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too. Presence counts on the low energy days🙃

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by MidAtBest
Soft kissing (no tongue)

Forehead kisses

Soft caressing

All around gentle treatment

Also I agree, if I'm allowed to be quiet and not be involved in some shared activity, I feel accepted and comfortable. My first 2 exes let me watch them play beautiful video games with a good story line- GTA 4, Fable, Silent Hill, Red Dead Redemption, Arkham City, etc- in silence without participation, it was the best ever and I never bonded in that way w anyone else

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too.

Tho the feeling I got from your post felt like sarcasm. Unless you guys discussed the game, what to do and go and gave suggestions and etc. participating....Kinda like when s/o is driving and you are handling the directions, playlist, and general planning. Couple activities are interactive.

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too. Presence counts on the low energy days🙃

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It wasn't sarcasm at all

I'm a serious loner and get anxious being on the spot playing a game with others or some shared activity

Sometimes I can't even spell when someone is watching

I genuinely appreciate the artistry in games

Yes I agree. Definitely some non sexual moments are somehow the most intimate and memorable.

There is someone I'm dating and as we watch movies etc he strokes the palm of my hand sometimes very gentlly and wants me to do the same to him and.. I think I kind of come a little from that 😂 But also want to cry a little because it's just so cute.

Posted by MidAtBest

Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by MidAtBest
Soft kissing (no tongue)

Forehead kisses

Soft caressing

All around gentle treatment

Also I agree, if I'm allowed to be quiet and not be involved in some shared activity, I feel accepted and comfortable. My first 2 exes let me watch them play beautiful video games with a good story line- GTA 4, Fable, Silent Hill, Red Dead Redemption, Arkham City, etc- in silence without participation, it was the best ever and I never bonded in that way w anyone else

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too.

Tho the feeling I got from your post felt like sarcasm. Unless you guys discussed the game, what to do and go and gave suggestions and etc. participating....Kinda like when s/o is driving and you are handling the directions, playlist, and general planning. Couple activities are interactive.

A couple being able to do Thier own thing in each other's presence is also quality time too. Presence counts on the low energy days🙃
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It wasn't sarcasm at all

I'm a serious loner and get anxious being on the spot playing a game with others or some shared activity

Sometimes I can't even spell when someone is watching

I genuinely appreciate the artistry in games

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That is a unexpected response for sure.

Have to ever talked about the game and co piloted.

Lol I did that a lot for friends. Especially on hard stuff.

sounds like an old english aristocracy middle name

Posted by hydorah
sounds like an old english aristocracy middle name

Mr. Intamcy is there to collect the dowry

I honestly dont know what that is. I've been with a dozen women, and have a handful of close friends. I feel like I won't understand what that word truly even means until they are dead. I feel like I have this deep primal nature just to be in the now. I do have deep emotions, and do feel a deep level of respect for those I trust. My emotions are internally specific to me though, and not to others. Like I could watch a video and feel intense sympathy/ empathy and even cry, though if you asked me about my favorite memory with another person I'd say, "Idk, they existed?" I truly feel a deep disconnect with everyone, everything, and even myself. For some reason I dont really feel much about something until its gone. Yet I've already though about it happening, and accepted the fact it will eventually be gone long before it even is. I could cuddle, make good memories, have good sex, have good times, but right now I'm just laying here typing up my thoughts. All that stuff from the past is long gone, and just a memory. A strange part of me doesn't believe intimacy, or even love actually exist. Its just people faking emotions till one of them leave or die.

Posted by ThatWomanAgain11
Like when we do the same move with someone else at the exact same time.

I can remember twice the father of my sons and I do move at the same time at the same direction, one is when one of our sons does something, we start moving to his direction at the exact same time. And there is also one time, when even though we are position wise are at the opposite direction then we move to the same destination which happened to be a cabinet in our house and we arrived at the same time. It's intimacy to me.

It happened and I cherished it a lot. Btw i dont know exactly why I am thinking about that rn but maybe it's just my tingling sense I am receiving of that pisces in the kitchen roaming around. And now he is already in my periphery talking about our son's uniform.

Ya syncing up with someone is a lot of fun. That deep level bonding and connection. It's actually possible to do with anyone. Naturally/intuitively. Or over time through learning each other and practice.

I recommend looking into EASTERN tantra practices. It trains you to both pay attention to not only yourself and your energy but your partners. The couples practices sound silly but the effects are no joke.

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Posted by Lostthoughts

Posted by ThatWomanAgain11
Like when we do the same move with someone else at the exact same time.

I can remember twice the father of my sons and I do move at the same time at the same direction, one is when one of our sons does something, we start moving to his direction at the exact same time. And there is also one time, when even though we are position wise are at the opposite direction then we move to the same destination which happened to be a cabinet in our house and we arrived at the same time. It's intimacy to me.

It happened and I cherished it a lot. Btw i dont know exactly why I am thinking about that rn but maybe it's just my tingling sense I am receiving of that pisces in the kitchen roaming around. And now he is already in my periphery talking about our son's uniform.

Ya syncing up with someone is a lot of fun. That deep level bonding and connection. It's actually possible to do with anyone. Naturally/intuitively. Or over time through learning each other and practice.

I recommend looking into EASTERN tantra practices. It trains you to both pay attention to not only yourself and your energy but your partners. The couples practices sound silly but the effects are no joke.
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Oh thanks! I just googled it a bit and it seems worth to try. I don't know how to do it but I will study it later.

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From reading your post, I'd say you are already doing it on some level.

Tantra isn't about sex per sa, just involves sex as a means/reference point of understanding. Absolutely not necessary.

I also strongly recommend breathing meditation. Awareness of your own body physically and emotional energy. To play with your own energy by cycling it through your body using the rhythm of your breathing. Often refer to as body breathing. It builds awareness, which you show signs of already having to a good level🙂