I think he was asking how you felt about it in a round about way. If you had told him you might be official now.
What's going on with this guy?!
Posted by ninjamu
I think he was asking how you felt about it in a round about way. If you had told him you might be official now.
I agree. I think he was passively-aggressively hinting to you that a relationship was something he saw in the cards with you 2. BUT to avoid rejection, he worded his question in a way so that he could get your perspective on things 1st before he put his heart & intentions out there.
Well, the min. you told him that you needed space, he thought about it & decided that he wasn't willing to take the risk of exposing his innermost feelings to you & facing rejection OR you giving him the "let's just be friends" line.
You all of the sudden needing space probably sent the message to him that commitment is not your primary focus right now. Sure, you may have your reasons, but he may have taken your reasons personal & may have assumed that you claiming to need space for other things was a big crock of bullshxt.
If he was thinking about wifing you up, his thinking probably changed the min. you needed space. He should've still been willing to be vulnerable, get straight to the point & tell you exactly where he wanted things to go, BUT like most people who fear rejection, he tested you 1st to see your reaction to his question. And based on your answer to his question, THAT is how he made his final decision about where you 2 would go.
It sucks b/c he's def. wrong. You might be the 1 person who actually means it with good intention(s) when you say that you need "space," but honey understand that most people who hear the "space" line usually take it personal and/or take it to mean that a relationship is the last thing in your focus.
He was probably about to open up to you but since you kind of gave him a "heads up" with the whole space thing, he decided to play it safe. He still wants to be friends b/c he's not yet done with you; he still likes you. BUT he didn't wanna take the chance of revealing his feelings for you b/c you sent the signal to him that things might not be mutual the other way around. Once again, he was obviously wrong, BUT understand where he's coming from & try to understand how he got to that level of thinking. I would've thought the same thing too if I were in his shoes
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