sweethearts
@sweethearts
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What's up with men— Or is it women—
I think there is a very simple human reason. A man feels safe to explore the future and those feelings when the girl doesn't take him too seriously. The moment she takes him seriously, he has to really justify to himself what he saying and tends to freak himself out. If she starts pursuing him at that point, he heads for the hills as fast as he can.
Your best bet to is to say, "Oh yes. It will be wonderful when we go to Paris for our honeymoon, have seven children, whatever he is going on about ...so what movie do you want to see tonight?"
This allows him a chance to explore those feelings safely and get to know without fear you are going to take him seriously too soon.
Your best bet to is to say, "Oh yes. It will be wonderful when we go to Paris for our honeymoon, have seven children, whatever he is going on about ...so what movie do you want to see tonight?"
This allows him a chance to explore those feelings safely and get to know without fear you are going to take him seriously too soon.
So if they are so scared of commitment, why do they even go there and speak aloud or is that they love to hear there own flaming voices that they just say whatever falls out of their mouths!!!!
Seriously, I could soooo easily fall in love with you after a few short weeks and I want to grow old with you, I'm so comfortable with you that I can talk about anything and I want to be loved by you...gives a girl a certain reason to think or run with the idea!!! After all most girls are bought up with the fantasy of the wedding, gown, kids etc etc!!!
Getting totally anti-male
Seriously, I could soooo easily fall in love with you after a few short weeks and I want to grow old with you, I'm so comfortable with you that I can talk about anything and I want to be loved by you...gives a girl a certain reason to think or run with the idea!!! After all most girls are bought up with the fantasy of the wedding, gown, kids etc etc!!!
Getting totally anti-male
Because I have yet to meet a man who doesn't want a long-term partner. They want it but for them it means a lot of responsibility, etc. If it doesn't work out, it will cost him a lot. So they are safe to voice their desires AS LONG as the girl doesn't let him run away with it.
Women have to pace the relationship.
Talk to friends, we have come to the conclusion that a woman cannot love
with the same abandon that a man can. If she does, the man freaks out. It is unfair, but I haven't seen it work out the other way yet.
Women have to pace the relationship.
Talk to friends, we have come to the conclusion that a woman cannot love
with the same abandon that a man can. If she does, the man freaks out. It is unfair, but I haven't seen it work out the other way yet.
Ohhhh yes, "Pace the relationship" That's good advice right there, on BOTH sides.
I guess people can get carried away and then wake up the next day and have regrets. It happens to everybody.
Two months is really a short period of time (depending on the culture) I would have had yellow lights flashing in my head if that guy was saying so much so soon. Hell, hormones are still in play during the first couple of months after meeting someone. You're still in the honeymoon phase of things. There's no "set" time that it takes in getting to know someone, but length of time plays a role in issues they will deal with.
Issues and the way they are handled is what gives people a feel for eachother. In the space of only a few months, not much can really happen can it?
Sparrow is right about setting a pace for the relationship.
I guess people can get carried away and then wake up the next day and have regrets. It happens to everybody.
Two months is really a short period of time (depending on the culture) I would have had yellow lights flashing in my head if that guy was saying so much so soon. Hell, hormones are still in play during the first couple of months after meeting someone. You're still in the honeymoon phase of things. There's no "set" time that it takes in getting to know someone, but length of time plays a role in issues they will deal with.
Issues and the way they are handled is what gives people a feel for eachother. In the space of only a few months, not much can really happen can it?
Sparrow is right about setting a pace for the relationship.
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He says sweet things like how much he is missing her when she isn't around, he calls her baby or pet names, refers to the future when talking and makes her feel as though there is alot going on. They boost you up and make you feel oh soooo special and then as fast as it all happens they rip the rug out from underneath you!!! REMEMBER sex is not an issue here at all!!!
Yes my girlfriend has low self esteem and needs to work on herself BUT why do guys do this...lead you into believing that there is a future and you are THE ONE and oh so special, then they turn into cowards and all of a sudden they can't even give a descent explaination as to why. They either shut you out completely or give some half cocked excuse or try and lighten the blow when in fact the honest truth is the only thing that will help you get over them completely!!!
It's been a real eye opener to me and my situation as this guy (mate) of mine, I thought, would never, never treat a girl in this manner because of his religious standings and the person that he is. I totally understand if he feels she isn't the one for him, everyone has a choice...But push come to shove and he treats her as badly as any selffish man almost becoming in-human!!!