When 1 person looks too good for the other

Have you ever seen that 1 couple...the couple where either the girl or guy appears to be SO MUCH MORE hotter than the other, that it leaves others to say, "How in the HELL did he/she land that?!"

...The incredibly hot & muscled guy that's all hugged up on some chick whose 400 pounds?! Or some gorgeous Angelina Jolie looking chick that's cuddled up with a guy whose normal rating is a 2 out of 10?


Or even worse, have you ever been out somewhere & noticed a hot guy & realized that he was def. gay? So gay that you feel bad that his girlfriend probably doesn't even know it?!

Ha! I saw my friend Craig at the mall yesterday, cuddled up with his girlfriend. I'm friends with both of them. We've all known for years that he was gay; hell it's pretty obvious. You don't even need "gaydar" with him! Problem is, when others have warned her in the past that he's gay, she refused to believe it! We tell her all the time...if a man is more into fashion than you, takes 2 hours longer in the bathroom than you, takes a little TOO much of a liking to your underwear (smirk), & has all gay male friends, that's clearly a sign that you're NOT in a relationship with someone who is heterosexual!

I guess it's true when they say that having a great personality can land you just about ANYONE you want! I'm starting to believe that this theory is very true. Personality def. gets you further =)

Hell even so far sometimes that you end up loving their personality THAT much that you conveinantly forget that he's gay, only has a 4inch slinger, is an ex convict & has the words "F everyone!" tatted in 3 places on their face?!

(Walks away shaking head)

I've seen both cases and always gave a 2nd thought but thats about it. Beauty fades but someone that makes you laugh and treats you well and has a great personality you will stay with longer...plus beauty is in the eye of the beholder...so who are we to say that they aren't what the other person sees?

As for the gay guy...you except it or you don't for whatever reason. I've been attracted to women but I'm not gay...there are butch woman out there that are hetro and guys that look gay but aren't.

I know a guy that I swore was gay even though he was married and had a wife that is now deceased and has two teenage children...he's been single for nearly 10 years after his wife died and chases woman. Is he ignoring his calling because of morals or has he just got more feminine genes than masculine?

LOL You just rock Bling. Plain and simple.

You're very welcome Sir Blingster of England Faire. *deep curtsy* The Lady from Septictopia doth shoot straight from the hip. *pew pew* 🙂

Posted by 69virgo
alot of pretty women with not so good looking guys have just gotten dogged out by alot of guys and the ugly duckling comes along at the right time and treats her like a princess and she's hooked on a guy she probably wouldn't have dated if all the other guys would've dogged her out and treated her bad..😉 now the good looking guys with the not so pretty women...lol...let me tell Yall a lil secret ladies...(come closer so I whisper in your ear)..🙂...men don't really care about looks when trying too get some pussy..and they fuck a not so good looking woman with bomb diggity..😛 that treats them great and their hooked..😉 now don't tell nobody i told Yall that...lol ..the gay thing is a whole other story...🙂

I totally agree with 69virgo. With women, timing is key. If they are vulnerable, they'll go for anything that treats me nice. It's a refreshing contrast after being abused by your ex. lol. As for the guys, I agree again with 69virgo. They don't care about looks when it comes to pussy. They start out with just getting pussy and then eventually get attached to taht avg looker for her amazing personality.

Overall I think it's just spending time with somone and getting to know them that does the trick. Personality wins at the end. Looks are just first impression bcause that's what you see at the very beginning.

Posted by BelovedAssata
You really can't make this argument without a bit of haterism in your blood...even if you are genuinely baffled at understanding the "why" of it. When you try to figure out what does that guy see in her...you are actually thinking, "what is it that I don't have, that she apparently has, because obviously I'm 'better' than her". So in the same line of thinking "if I'm 'better' than her, and she has a man, what does that mean for me?" If you try to dwell on the "why", you'll be pulled into jealously, feel the need to compare yourself on standards you don't even know, or at the very worse be SEEN as jealous. It's a lose-lose however you look at it. So as a point, I try to leave those situations alone.

I totally agree with you on that. Although I wouldn't use the term "haterism in your blood". I would jsut say that one who thinks that is a negative person. Positive people take anything or rather interpret in positive means, while a negative person sees it in bad ways. A person who compares themselves to someone they don't even know is a negative person. After all how do you know that the avg person isn't the nicest person you'll ever come across. Besides the good looking girl/guy maybe considered hot by you but not by the avg looker who is dating that person.

I think those who do look and think that are jealous and negative people. I'm too busy shopping and eating my ice cream to focus on whose with who and who's looking at me and who's not. The reason I mention that is every single time I go shopping with some of my gfs, they focus more on which girl/guy that just passed us by looked at them or gave them a dirty look. It's kind of insulting because you should be focussing on what I'm saying to you than which girl just gave you a cut eye or which guy just checked you out and wonder why that hot guy is with that nasty girl etc.

I admit that I feel more comfortable being the "prettier" one in a relationship. Maybe its insecurity, but I do not want to be walking next to a guy that is way better looking than me. What is important though, is that he has an air of confidence and authority, regardless of what he looks like.

"she's 10% prettier than that other one, but her chin is -5% prettier than that one over there"


haha



I don't like overly hot guys. I like the regular ones.

I don't think it's about "hating" at all. I think it's natural to expect birds of a feather to flock together, & even though it may sound ignorant or superficial, it's still a natural process to wonder why 2 people are together when they look the opposite just like it's just as natural to understand/see why 2 people are together b/c they appear to be the same.

When people see what THEY consider a pretty girl cuddled up with a hot guy, no one may say anything, BUT they do think about it. They don't have anything negative to say b/c in their minds it's more common to see hot people with hot people. And people naturally "think about it" when they see 2 things/people that are together that they normally don't see. Noticing the difference doesn't make you a hater or a bad person.

It's like the time when I saw my very Christian (damn near nun) virgin friend who was with this atheist guy who was completely the opposite. Yeah I noticed the difference. Yeah I "thought about it" but it doesn't mean that I had anything negative to say.

Why apologize for simply "noticing?" We all see the same things personality wise too. We all notice when our super shy friend is in a relationship with the most outgoing person in the world. Or when that 21 year old hot girl is with the wrinkly 80yr old man. WHAT you have to say about what you see may be wrong, but simply noticing it is natural.

I'd like to point out that I actually consider those kinds of relationships to be refreshing.

1 of my really hot male friends is in a relationship with an asian chick whose not HIS typical "type." When they 1st got together, everyone was hating on him & trying to make him feel bad for being with something other than the usual blonde-boob chicks he was used to dating. But not me! I asked him what he saw in her (I would've asked regardless) & when he said, "I love her personality & energy," I actually melted inside b/c it was nice to see a guy actually focusing more on what's on the INSIDE moreso than taking the easy route & focusing only on what he can consider eye-candy.

We all have opinions & different perceptions on what we consider "beautiful" or "hot" or "attractive" & that's nothing to apologize about. People have no shame in thinking that a person is rude, abusive or close-minded b/c hey, that's what their perception tells them. So I don't think it makes sense to tell someone that they have to universally think everything & everyone is "beautiful." It is what it is. What 1 person may consider trash, another person may consider treasure.

And sometimes it's not about what I'd consider to be attractive for someone else. When it comes to my male friends that I'm very close with, I'm around most of their girlfriends so over time, I've learned what their "type" is. So when I see them with someone that is usually not their type by their OWN standards/admission (not mine), of course I wonder. But I don't wonder with a judgemental eye or tone. As with anything, I'm always curious when someone randomly decides to step outside of their box & normal habits. There's nothing wrong with being curious.

It's the same as when I see a woman whose 5'11 dating a guy whose only 5'1. What's wrong with noticing the huge height difference?

Or what about when the gym-buff is dating someone who is 500 pounds? What's wrong with noticing that your friend is dating someone that has never been their "physical type" before?

Or when the virgin & innocent girl is dating the tattoed biker dude? What's wrong with atleast noticing?

Or the extrovert whose dating the extreme introvert? I mean seriously, there's nothing wrong with noticing. Noticing & being judgemental about what you actually notice are 2 different things

Posted by everevolvingepithet

Posted by MsPisces.
"she's 10% prettier than that other one, but her chin is -5% prettier than that one over there"


haha



I don't like overly hot guys. I like the regular ones.

😛
Seriously though, how does someone break it down, outside of their more obvious preferences, likes and dislikes ?
There is people who are that choosy/bitchy and the % thing is a blunt example, but what's it boil down to ?
Like if it's 'she's got bigger titties' or 'He's got bluer eyes' then those sort of people hopefully end up on their arse.
like even within the constraints of one's own preferences the list could be endless.
It's those yummy brains that seal the deal I guess.
(I was a zombie in a former life, I swear..............................)

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I agree triple E. Yummy brain seals the deal.

Posted by krysrenee7
And sometimes it's not about what I'd consider to be attractive for someone else. When it comes to my male friends that I'm very close with, I'm around most of their girlfriends so over time, I've learned what their "type" is. So when I see them with someone that is usually not their type by their OWN standards/admission (not mine), of course I wonder. But I don't wonder with a judgemental eye or tone. As with anything, I'm always curious when someone randomly decides to step outside of their box & normal habits. There's nothing wrong with being curious.

It's the same as when I see a woman whose 5'11 dating a guy whose only 5'1. What's wrong with noticing the huge height difference?

Or what about when the gym-buff is dating someone who is 500 pounds? What's wrong with noticing that your friend is dating someone that has never been their "physical type" before?

Or when the virgin & innocent girl is dating the tattoed biker dude? What's wrong with atleast noticing?

Or the extrovert whose dating the extreme introvert? I mean seriously, there's nothing wrong with noticing. Noticing & being judgemental about what you actually notice are 2 different things

Noticing without the judgment is perfectly fine. We are curious creatures. It's kind of like saying you can assume but don't believe the assumption. Clarify it.

Sounds like my last relationship: all my ex's friends thought I was in-the-closet & all my friends thought my ex looked too old for me. We never thought that at all, in fact, we always thought the other was the better looking one. I do agree that we did look like an odd couple though; she was older & looked conservative in appearance, I was young & flashy. I did match her type but she wasn't exactly my type, then again I don't really have a type. I wouldn't care about whoever's the better looking one, just as long as neither one of us thinks we're "too good" for the other.

I don't really hate on odd couples, but I do feel naturally suspicious when I see some rich, blinged-out old person w/ some hot young thing who's old enough to be their son/daughter & hope that they actually love the person who they're w/ and not the physical & material aspects what they have to offer (then again, who am I to judge, as long as they're both happy). Other than that, I don't really have knee-jerk reactions to Jack Spratt-esque couples. Love is blind though & that's part of the beauty of it.

I don' know, I could see myself with "Cat Woman!"

I am a dumpy old white guy, btw....

^^ as a reply to Virgo69 on page one

Posted by UrsaMediocre
Sounds like my last relationship: all my ex's friends thought I was in-the-closet & all my friends thought my ex looked too old for me. We never thought that at all, in fact, we always thought the other was the better looking one. I do agree that we did look like an odd couple though; she was older & looked conservative in appearance, I was young & flashy. I did match her type but she wasn't exactly my type, then again I don't really have a type. I wouldn't care about whoever's the better looking one, just as long as neither one of us thinks we're "too good" for the other.

I don't really hate on odd couples, but I do feel naturally suspicious when I see some rich, blinged-out old person w/ some hot young thing who's old enough to be their son/daughter & hope that they actually love the person who they're w/ and not the physical & material aspects what they have to offer (then again, who am I to judge, as long as they're both happy). Other than that, I don't really have knee-jerk reactions to Jack Spratt-esque couples. Love is blind though & that's part of the beauty of it.

Indeed, the heart wants what the heart wants....

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Posted by TheLadySagittarius
I admit that I feel more comfortable being the "prettier" one in a relationship. Maybe its insecurity, but I do not want to be walking next to a guy that is way better looking than me. What is important though, is that he has an air of confidence and authority, regardless of what he looks like.

I'm digging your Anime avatar and words, keep it up.

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Well, thank you Q

SCORPIO MAN ACTING CONFUSING!!!

I know this is long but please read! I am SO confused.

Me and my scorpio man met more than 1year ago and started dating. He has always been extremely loyal, honest, a man of word, always kept his promises. I am an extremely suspicious person and he earned my trust by doing things, not talking. He was never good at expressing his feelings, so he'd rather do things than say them. I always liked the fact that he kept it real about everything, in every situation, even if i might not like the truth he would still say it. We never been in a relationship, but always acted like in one and none of us ever seen anyone else, so it was some kind of exclusive dating. He done a lot of things for me, to show me that i could trust him and i never had any doubt about anything with him. In the beginning when we started dating none of us wanted to be in a relationship but none of us wanted to share each other. P.S. : He never had a relationship in his life, he's 27 and never been serious with any woman, i was the first and the most serious thing he has ever had.

In november we had a lot of discussions and fights about different things and on top of that my feelings has grown and i wanted more than what we had. I let him know that and he told me he wasn't ready to be serious and why couldn't we just chill and take it how it is day by day and see where we get. It has been a really long time for me.. it's been almost a year since we started dating.. and i was finding hard to deal with the situation because of how i felt, and when he told me he wasnt ready he didnt explain me well what stand behind those thoughts, he put it out there as a statement and i felt like our story wouldn't get anywhere at all even if i kept seeing him. So i decided to split.
It was really hard and because of my feelings and he didnt want us to stop but i felt that was the only thing to do because he didnt communicate with me and all i was hearing was 'i am not ready'. We used to have short conversations online from time to time, in that period he deleted me twice off facebook and skype and then added me again saying he is sorry, and that it doesn't worth him to be mad at me for my decision. Until one day he called me. That was after a month. We talked for a long time again about us and didnt really get to no point because he was still saying he was not ready. After about 2 weeks we started talking back on regular and having conversation everyday.. that lasted f

SCORPIO MAN ACTING CONFUSING!!!

I know this is long but please read! I am SO confused.

Me and my scorpio man met more than 1year ago and started dating. He has always been extremely loyal, honest, a man of word, always kept his promises. I am an extremely suspicious person and he earned my trust by doing things, not talking. He was never good at expressing his feelings, so he'd rather do things than say them. I always liked the fact that he kept it real about everything, in every situation, even if i might not like the truth he would still say it. We never been in a relationship, but always acted like in one and none of us ever seen anyone else, so it was some kind of exclusive dating. He done a lot of things for me, to show me that i could trust him and i never had any doubt about anything with him. In the beginning when we started dating none of us wanted to be in a relationship but none of us wanted to share each other. P.S. : He never had a relationship in his life, he's 27 and never been serious with any woman, i was the first and the most serious thing he has ever had.

In november we had a lot of discussions and fights about different things and on top of that my feelings has grown and i wanted more than what we had. I let him know that and he told me he wasn't ready to be serious and why couldn't we just chill and take it how it is day by day and see where we get. It has been a really long time for me.. it's been almost a year since we started dating.. and i was finding hard to deal with the situation because of how i felt, and when he told me he wasnt ready he didnt explain me well what stand behind those thoughts, he put it out there as a statement and i felt like our story wouldn't get anywhere at all even if i kept seeing him. So i decided to split.
It was really hard and because of my feelings and he didnt want us to stop but i felt that was the only thing to do because he didnt communicate with me and all i was hearing was 'i am not ready'. We used to have short conversations online from time to time, in that period he deleted me twice off facebook and skype and then added me again saying he is sorry, and that it doesn't worth him to be mad at me for my decision. Until one day he called me. That was after a month. We talked for a long time again about us and didnt really get to no point because he was still saying he was not ready. After about 2 weeks we started talking back on regular and having conversation everyday.. that lasted f

SCORPIO MAN ACTING CONFUSING!!!

I know this is long but please read! I am SO confused.

Me and my scorpio man met more than 1year ago and started dating. He has always been extremely loyal, honest, a man of word, always kept his promises. I am an extremely suspicious person and he earned my trust by doing things, not talking. He was never good at expressing his feelings, so he'd rather do things than say them. I always liked the fact that he kept it real about everything, in every situation, even if i might not like the truth he would still say it. We never been in a relationship, but always acted like in one and none of us ever seen anyone else, so it was some kind of exclusive dating. He done a lot of things for me, to show me that i could trust him and i never had any doubt about anything with him. In the beginning when we started dating none of us wanted to be in a relationship but none of us wanted to share each other. P.S. : He never had a relationship in his life, he's 27 and never been serious with any woman, i was the first and the most serious thing he has ever had.

In november we had a lot of discussions and fights about different things and on top of that my feelings has grown and i wanted more than what we had. I let him know that and he told me he wasn't ready to be serious and why couldn't we just chill and take it how it is day by day and see where we get. It has been a really long time for me.. it's been almost a year since we started dating.. and i was finding hard to deal with the situation because of how i felt, and when he told me he wasnt ready he didnt explain me well what stand behind those thoughts, he put it out there as a statement and i felt like our story wouldn't get anywhere at all even if i kept seeing him. So i decided to split.
It was really hard and because of my feelings and he didnt want us to stop but i felt that was the only thing to do because he didnt communicate with me and all i was hearing was 'i am not ready'. We used to have short conversations online from time to time, in that period he deleted me twice off facebook and skype and then added me again saying he is sorry, and that it doesn't worth him to be mad at me for my decision. Until one day he called me. That was after a month. We talked for a long time again about us and didnt really get to no point because he was still saying he was not ready. After about 2 weeks we started talking back on regular and having conversation everyday.. that lasted f

@Sultana: Granted, an insecure and/or jealous woman would probably be the 1st one to hate or "notice" when a couple consists of 2 people who appear to be mere opposites. BUT not every woman who simply "notices" is insecure, envious or has a problem with what she actually observes.

I'm a perfect example. I'm happily married & feel that there's nothing another woman has/had that I can't have or go get for myself. So when I see a 5'1 tall guy with a 5'11 tall chick, yeah I notice & I may even say something, BUT not b/c I'm insecure, jealous or are unhappy. Again, I don't feel that simply noticing is the same as automatically hating. Having eyes doesn't make you a hater

When I 1st asked my friend if she knew that her boyfriend was gay, I was genuinely concerned when she claimed that she had no idea. This guy had told everyone for the past 6 yrs that he was gay, so it was natural for all of us to be curious as to if she knew. And if she knew, it'd be even more natural to wonder why a straight woman seeking a straight male would settle for a man whose not straight at all.

In this case, there's absolutely NOTHING for me or others to be jealous of! Hell, I don't want a gay man. I don't envy their relationship, especially considering there's obviously a huge level of dishonesty in their relationship (who envies that kind of relationship? NOT me!)

But I DID notice. And I was curious as to how she couldn't possibly have known that he was gay. It was very obvious. And she'd stated on many occassions during random conversations that she'd never approve of or date a gay OR bisexual man.

So yes, when we see them out as a couple, we can't help but to wonder, "What does she see in him that she's willing to completely overlook the fact that she's dating someone whose gay?" Him being gay is a FACT, not an opinion at this point. Her not knowing that he's gay is a claim that came out of her own mouth. So yes, I've often asked myself, "Why would she be with him?" but NOT b/c I'm hating or are jealous. I'm concerned that she's got blinders on & is another human being who is being "fooled" by someone she loves. If that makes me a "hater," so be it =)

Yeah, I think that for a split second and not a second longer. I have male friends that are not the best looking but have super cute gf's. It's because they are awesome... and usually a musician. That always helps.

I like my men masculine, cute, and rugged. However they always look rather average or normal. I don't do pretty boys. Literally. I'm always the prettier one in the relationship. I like it this way!

Mostly I've noticed the people who are good looking and find not so good looking people are the ones who don't realize how good looking they are or are shy. That's not to say the personality of the other person isn't amazing. This generally happens when a guy dates a bad looking girl.

I guess in my case I've usually dated guys who have great personalities, but don't rank that high on the good looking scale. That's not to say I haven't tried dating a guy that's good looking. I tried it twice. The first one I just couldn't get into him even tho he liked so many of the same things I did. The second I really liked, but then he shaved his head and I realized I can't date someone who's really good looking because that will be the main thing I'll like about them and then what if they shave their head or become deformed...sure I'll still like their personality, but I'll be too focused on the fact that they aren't really good looking like they used to be.

Beauty is only skin deep! Really... So that's why I date guys who have amazing personalities and look alright (maybe nice eyes and hair) My diamonds in the rough 🙂

Posted by ninjamu
Yeah, I think that for a split second and not a second longer. I have male friends that are not the best looking but have super cute gf's. It's because they are awesome... and usually a musician. That always helps.

I like my men masculine, cute, and rugged. However they always look rather average or normal. I don't do pretty boys. Literally. I'm always the prettier one in the relationship. I like it this way!

same 🙂